http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/tmoney en-us Well, I'm seemingly in the same situation. My husband is almost a decade older than me and my co-worker is my age. He too is expecting a baby. We both talked about what could happen if we continue our sexual encounters, but what the hell. I choose to have fun because I know I don't want to leave my husband. The only way things won't work out is if you start to fall in love with this other man. If you can avoid that,you'll be fine. Have fun just kickin'it girl. Just think of it like this, you don't have to do all the things you would normally do in a relationship because it's jst sex. It's not like you out freaking everybody. You just have one guy out there. I thought I would feel extremely guilty, I even cried the first time we did it, but now it's like going to the spa. It's part of both our daily routine. I call him, we meet, badaboom, badabing, we do it, and then home ,work or school. My husband doesn't suspect a thing. My husband and I really don't have a sexual relationship. I don't understand why, but thats cool, I'll get physical somewhere else. That doesn't mean I don't love my husband, because I really do love him, but physical attraction just isn't there anymore. Anyway, remeber to keep it simple if you want to have an affair. Whatever you do DON'T FALL IN LOVE. You already have somebody at home, Unless you feel like going through the whole dating stages AGAIN!!!! tmoney Thu, 25 Jan 2007 17:31:27 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/married_and_wanting_to_have_an_affair 34583