http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/tmom579 en-us I got pregnant at 19 and though that I could do this because the father and I were going to stay together and be a family. Well he was gone before my son was two and now my son is now almost 18 and is presently in juvenile detention. I could go on about what led him there but my point to you is wait until you are married and managing your life well because all children need a stable, nurturing environment. If you are feeling such a strong urge to have something that will count on you, will want and also give unconditional love and attention, get the most adorable puppy you can find. I am not talking down to you, I am serious. You want to compare yourself to an adult and what adults do - there are tons of adults who want a child but know they are not quite ready to be parents so guess what they often do - get puppies! tmom579 Sun, 10 Feb 2008 13:17:07 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_want_a_baby_496 217600 I don't know if it will show up in a test but I know that marijuana stays in your system longer than the harder drugs which is ironic isn't it? Is your drug test a court-ordered drug test or an employment test? Either way, in my experience you have some kind of a problem if you do not have the ability or self-discipline to stay away from drugs when you have a critical test coming up. Perhaps re-evaluate your statement that you are "not a drug user at all" and that you just "got caught up in the moment" Sorry I know I am lecturing but I had a blind eye to my son's problem and thought he was just a casual user. Boy was I wrong... tmom579 Sun, 10 Feb 2008 12:59:23 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_much_is_too_much 217592 you will feel results before you see them. I did dvd pilates about two years ago and I was stronger within a week. Definitely give it a try and give it a chance. It will take time but it is worth the investiment. Remember you will feel stronger almost immediately just make sure you stick with it to see the physical results - good luck! tmom579 Sun, 10 Feb 2008 12:53:13 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/pilates 217590