http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/stopandsmelltheroses hi i was previously stef_the_mess! what up? i try to produce my own unique brand of sugar-coated honesty, but when i dont want to be honest, i usually just fall back on the sugar-coated... nah! joking! i am a creationist christian, i play the piano and the guitar, i write songs, and i guess i'm turning out to be a bit of a muso! i want to be an author, im a bit of a drama queen, im a people person, and i am a huge bookworm. ╔═╦══╦═╗ Put this on your ║╩╣║║║║║ site if you support ╚═╩╩╩╩═╝ Emos --if you know where this sign came from, plz let me know! ╔══╗╔══╦╗ ║╔═╬╩╗╔╣╚═╗ put this on your ║╚╝║╬║║║╔╗║ site if you are or ╚══╩═╩╝╚╝╚╝ support Goths --ditto for this one! i am a christian and a creationist, i play the piano and the guitar, i write songs, i want to be an author, im a bit of a drama queen, im a people person, and i love reading. 2 Timothy 1:7 God has not given us a spirit of fear. I like to know the 'why' of my religion, so please don't call me brainwashed. so far i havent found anything contradicting itself in the Bible. Praying for all you guys, n God bless yaz all! btw, hamish and andy rock! en-us lols, I dont think you ARE an ignoramus lols. did you know that even in arabic, the Koran still has atrocious grammar? the reason people call them extremists is because they are trying to be politically correct and say that the islam religion is okay (please note, I have not said anything about muslim individuals. it is the religion itself) and harmless, (when clearly, as you pointed out, adam, it just isn't.) and imply that the violent ones are the extreme people. like extreme sports. it seems to me that ever since 9/11 everyone's been treading carefully around the muslims, and trying to pander to them, which is strange, since they caused the mess in the first place. Although, me being an Aussie and not knowing American current events, it may have something to do with... was it iraq that the USAians invaded?... yeah, that. please realise I am not trying to make a racist comment, it is just going to come out that way purely because of the subject matter. and anyway, racism is prejudice, or groundless judgements. if the judgements have a grounding, they arent prejudice. stopandsmelltheroses Sat, 20 Sep 2008 08:09:37 -0700 542642 they have this attitude like, we're stuck here. then they get into the habit of the rituals and stuff and they don't want to leave. its the whole, safety in what you know thing. England became distant and irrelevant to them. its a very psychological book. stopandsmelltheroses Sat, 20 Sep 2008 07:58:56 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/lord_of_the_flies_206707 542631 btw, I agree with ichibanarky stopandsmelltheroses Sat, 20 Sep 2008 07:56:55 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_does_this_mean_77497 542629 I don't think so. was she like huge, or just self-conscious? stopandsmelltheroses Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:25:52 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_it_ok_for_a_12_year_old_girl_to 539225 if you start getting fat on that diet by nighthawk, make sure you stop. I don't think supplenments are a good idea. you will need to lift weights or something. make sure you get a balanced diet and excercise program, and dont get *too* many muscles. heaps of muscles are disgusting. lols stopandsmelltheroses Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:24:56 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_can_i_feel_better_about_my_body 539222 chicken stopandsmelltheroses Wed, 17 Sep 2008 19:20:06 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_came_first_the_chicken_or_the_64600 539216 @ ultrablade: I think the reason it's probably good to learn right-handed cause most of the guitars around are righthanded ones. so if you learn left-handed, you can't just pick up a guitar and play fi someone's like 'go for it!'. which would suck. also, there is less choice for left-handed pplz. stopandsmelltheroses Mon, 15 Sep 2008 05:39:32 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/left_handed_or_right_handed 534492 yep. I've done it. only thing is, I have to stay in shape or I won't keep hitting it stopandsmelltheroses Mon, 15 Sep 2008 05:34:59 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/question_about_singing 534486 sweet. stopandsmelltheroses Mon, 15 Sep 2008 05:31:48 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/are_peavey_guitars_any_good 534481 oh... prettygirl15 I am so remembering that quote! stopandsmelltheroses Fri, 12 Sep 2008 23:53:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/some_good_sayings 530384 I agree partly with mystery wolf. it depends on the DETAILS! did you accidently do a spanish inquisition on her in the car?was the hug a quick friend hug or a bit more? she may have gotten a bit more nervous and not known what to do. if she doesn't like hugs, that may be why she hasn't answered your calls, cause she'd be worried about not wanting to hurt your feelings, but not knowing what to do. in situations like this, people tend to avoid stuff. and bear in mind that she may just have had a hangnail or something. it could be nervousness though... umm, I think, you need to stop being so eager, you may frightnen her. she may want a bit longer to sort this stuff out. didn't she break up with her boyf a while ago? I know it was short, but still... she also may have been extrememly busy and just trying to get around to returning your calls. I mean, you guys must have a heap of homework, right? so she hasn't returned your calls. I'm not going to lie, that means you aren't at the top of her priority list right now, but it DOESN"T in any way mean you are at the bottom of it. so there's a bit of hope, but let her make the next move. how do I put this... you sound like you are a bit.. um... girl-crazy and overeager. its sweet when you've been going out with a guy for a while and he can't get enough of being around you, but in the early stages (even after texting all summer, there is nothing like a phone or face-to -face conversation, the dynamics are way different) it's kinda creepy. it's like you have to get to know each other all over again, because people act way different in text than in real life. she may want a bit of non-commital (right word?) space to figure you out without jumping straigt into a relationship. if you want to do stuff with her around this time period, make sure you let her know its just as friends- this may not be ther ight time, but who says it's the wrong girl?- and invite her to do stuff with you and a group of her and your mutual friends so that you can be at ease and you will always have someone to talk to. *you do not have to talk to each other the whole time.* if she makes the first move and you do stuff again, don't hog her all to yourself! her friends won't like yu for it, and you should always be on the good side of friends. also, always let her know whether or not its a group activity. if she rocks up expecting a huge group game of twister or something, and it's just you there wanting a talk, she's going to be a bit *disorientated* and possibly nervous cause she wasn't expecting it. make her feel comfortable. the hard-to get thing may be a little out of your reach cause it sounds like you really like this girl. playing hard to get can backfire, so I wouldn't try it. she could either be playing hard to get and not realising when to stop, or she just... may not be into you like that. I hope I haven't hurt your feelings. but I do think there is a bit of a chance here, just 3 things: -don't read too much into things, -don't force her into going out with you if she doesn't seem really into the idea, -and please, for pete's sake, let her make the next move. guk! stopandsmelltheroses Fri, 12 Sep 2008 23:49:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/she_s_been_playing_extremely_hard 530380 ATTENTION... ATTENTION... Steph's handy beer-bottle carrier ideas this way... in response to your comment, I would say just use pressed pine, if nz is anything like Australia, its cheap. and strong- it's used for house frames and stuff, I think. what I would do is get 2-3 cm thick (definitely not less!) *sheets* of it. measure up a square box with no bottom or top, just 4 sides, allow enough room for dividers of the same thickness using glue and nails (a nail gun is better than a hammer if you can borrow it off someone!) memba 2 allow enough room for dividers (to make 24 separate compartments of 1-2 cm thickness of wood), bubble wrap (or stapled sheets of fabric filled with cotton wool, but that would make it bigger, I'd use bubble wrap and replace it every so often) then glue in dividers (you need heavy-duty glue like you get in hardware shops in those long rocket-shaped containers; you can't nail them unless there's a type of nail I've never heard of...) and glue and nail a bottom onto the box. the glue is important for extra stability, so I'd use it. attatch bubblewrap (somehow! haven't thought about this part!) to the insides of the compartments, add a hinged lid with a lock or a bolt or something to keep it from flying open, and/or theives. one other thing: if you don't have enough room on your bike for this contraption, you could consider going double-decker... let me know if I haven't made something clear and I'll post it on the thread for everyone's use. btw, if you want to patent it, I get half the dividends... lols :) stopandsmelltheroses Fri, 12 Sep 2008 23:20:00 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/getting_beer_home_safely 530366 fyi I actualyy like her dad's music! he aint a one-hit wonder to one person at least... :) stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 08:02:42 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_do_so_many_people_hate_miley 527971 squidward and why the heck is sponge bob sexy? he is a piece of fake yellow cheese, people! FAKE YELLOW CHEESE!!! stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 08:00:33 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/fave_spongebob_character 527970 kk I think I get it now. alternative is not as heavy as heavy metal :) and its lyrics are different stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:58:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/evanescence_heavy_metal_or_fluffy 527969 huh? I thought it was 2012 that everybody's so hyped up on. lols. why wednesday? what happened over in america??? stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:45:47 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/did_anyone_notice 527963 creativity is what I deal in. I was joking:) WAIT WAIT WAIT I think I've got it!!! make a special bubblewrap carrier box with like compartments lined with bubblewrap for each beer bottle. you might have to replace the bubblewrap everyso often, and the loading into the bike would be a bit of a chore, but still... stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:43:47 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/getting_beer_home_safely 527960 I woke up today and felt so sad for all the americans. this may sound weird, being as I am, not american, but I still haven't gotten over the fact that nobody mentions it anymore. They're just like, oh, it's history. but it's not! I can't believe it was like seven years ago, it still feels fresh in my memory. I'm starting to tear up now... stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:37:23 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/respects_to_9_11 527959 my humble opinion. no, asian guys are cute. stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:33:01 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/girls_and_asians 527955 I highly doubt that you're as fat as you think (whoa, that came out sounding like it could e taken either way! I mean it nicely!), but I'm here to answer the question, so... 1. one colour for all your clothes, but mix it up with textures and stuff. 2. wear them the way you think looks okay, or get a friend to pat your hand and say you don't look dorky. or to fix your outfit up. plus, often the way you wear it is absolutely fine. it takes a bit of trial and error, but u'kll get there. 3. wear what you like. find a style you love and no-one's going to care that you're out of fashion. they'll just see that you're wearing something that you look way better and more original in than half the other girls in the room or wherever, because you actually took the time to look for some cool stuff, while they just went to where everyone else goes. trust me, they'll be like, 'where did you get that? I love it!' I found this cool top with (of all things) a toucan on it, and its so cool! now would I have found that in supre? I think not! hope it helps, steph:) stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:29:46 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_for_girls_mainly 527953 I read that one! the next book out is called 'being nikki'! that's one good thing about being in Australia, everything from the uk or the us is in it's second printing by the time they think to ship it here, so we get the 'coming soon' stuff in the back of the book. personally, I would've told christopher I was em and sworn him to secrecy. stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:24:13 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/meg_cabot_airhead 527951 bubblewrap. or make this huge mobile that is supported by your bike, that will support one bottle of beer suspended from a 'branch' from the main frame of it all. you following me? may not work, but it'd make a gr8 youtube video... lols guk! stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:17:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/getting_beer_home_safely 527947 I know, I get like that too, but I'm not allowed to date till I've finished school. oh well. another thing- have you noticed that all the relationships people have at our age just don't last? my advice, fwiw, just wait. it okay to let a guy no your into him, but not to the point of chasing him around, going 'hey!' at random intervals of the day and popping up where he least expects it, and scaring him half to death. no point in being an idiot, lol. you may want a boyfriend, but if your'e just doing it cause you want to be like your friends, or if you end up settling for second best, I'd get out of the whole thing immediately if I were u. but if everything;s all good and there's a guy you like, good luck with it all:) p.s. dont get involved with a guy who has a bad temper, or mocks you in front of your friends. stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:14:05 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_don_t_have_a_boyfriend 527945 look, its normal to feel horny at this age, but please don't go round giving urself 2 random guys, they won't respect you and you'll get a bad name for it, I'm begging you not to. 1 day u'll regret it:(. even if everyone else is doing, it, that is so not an excuse. having sex is not meant to be just another thing you do while your'e growing up. you do it AFTER you've grown up, wid your husband! stopandsmelltheroses Thu, 11 Sep 2008 07:05:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_want_to_have_sex_119570 527935 you'll probably get sick of me... stopandsmelltheroses Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:17:47 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/success_of_your_site 523905