http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/retrogret en-us Most people around have the same opinion and give the same advice: "Avoid it as much as you can!" I share that opinion. However, sometimes the attraction is almost unbearable and in that case the following words may help. If the flesh results weak, if the occasion plainly occurs, if you can't or don't feel like restraining,... Remember to proceed with dignity: 1) Make the encounter enjoyable for yourself and for the other one. 2) Don't be 'cheap'. That is, pay for a decent diner, night out, hotel room, etc.. should you need one. 3) Do it so that you can still feel good about yourself afterward. Many of us cheat. It's not a "good thing" but neither is it the end of the world. 4) Afterward, don't go out and look for other occasion. If you do you probably were not really interested in good advice but merely in good excuses. 5) Your wife probably doesn't want to know. Even when you're in an "open" relationship. So don't tell her. 6) Remain fair to your wife. Respect her should the same thing happen to her. 7) Remember and cherish the warmth you felt. retrogret Thu, 17 Apr 2003 08:30:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_on_my_wife_why_not 43