http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/mommylove en-us Holly, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I know your pain, I've felt it. You've only been in the relationship for a year and a half and he started seeing someone else. He thought so little of your relationship that he was willing to jepordize it for a little flirting and kissing. Who's to say in that in the future you won't be together. But right now, you need to get out of the relationship. Your boyfriend doesn't seem ready to settle down just yet. You need to move on and grow from this. You do not deserve to feel this kind of pain. Good luck to you. mommylove Wed, 20 Jul 2005 01:41:49 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_need_more_advice_on_my_cheating_76 2801 I know it's been a few months since your request for advice...what have you decided to do? Your problem hit very close to home for me. I was totally into someone and thought that the feelings were mutual, they weren't. We only went out when he was available, we talked on the phone when he had time...I made all the concessions. The mistake that I made was that I allowed him to treat me that way. I made myself available for him. This began in October 2004 and ended in December. Giving him up cold was the most difficult thing I had to do, but if I wanted to keep what little self respect I had left, I had to do it. In February, he opened the lines of communication again. Getting over him was very difficult and I made the mistake of letting him back in to my life for another few months. Things were great for a month and then his it started again...work, family, other obligations got in the way. Letting him go the second time was much harder because now I have absolutely no self respect or self esteem. My friends who helped me through it the first time refuse to see me through it again. Stay strong. Do not give into your emotions and allow this person to walk all over you. You can do better. Good luck to you and let me know the outcome. mommylove Fri, 22 Apr 2005 04:36:14 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/do_i_say_screw_it_or_go_after_him 1871 It's been nearly 2 months. It is still a struggle. The phone calls stopped, the quick peek to see if he is at the office or the quick drive by to see if I'm home all stopped. We cut all ties and it is still very difficult. I still think about him everyday. I look at pictures and I remember conversations that we've had. The only thing that gets me through all of this is the thought of what my life would be like with out my husband and child. This person that I fooled around with is not worth risking it all for. He is young and very immature. The only thing that I got out of this entire experience is a lot of heartache and loss of self confidence. It will take a lot more than avoiding the situation to make it go away. Thank you for the advice. mommylove Sat, 17 Jul 2004 00:36:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_don_039_t_want_to_cheat_on_my_husband 1018 Thank you. Do you know me? Your response is too close to home that I am begining to believe that you know who I am. Where or how do I begin to get help? I want to save my marriage and my family. How do I get passed these feelings of wanting to be with this other man?" Please advise. mommylove Wed, 26 May 2004 03:10:33 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_don_039_t_want_to_cheat_on_my_husband 859 I can totally relate to your dilema. I am in the same situation, loving husband, great family...but there is something missing. How did you cope? I am consumed by the thought of having an affair with an extremely established, younger man. We've flirted and kissed. I am consumed by the thought of having him on the side because I have no intention of ever losing my family. What did you end up doing? Please advise. mommylove Mon, 24 May 2004 04:56:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/married_seven_years_getting_the_itch 850