http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/missjester im old en-us most states provided a lawyer if you cant afford one. and quite frankly if nothing has changed in your life, like you have dui's or drug charges a change in custody will be hard for him to get. they have to prove you an unfit mother. most likly what will happen is the judge may grant him joint custody with you still having primary. i dont know how long you have had custody, but most judges really like to keep primary with the mother still. i stongly sugjest you keep on the right paths of life and stay away from people that can hurt your chances for keeping custody like meeting guys in bars and stuff like that even if you have friends that like to party, keep away from them. when custody and child support are in play men can be very nasty and even hire private investigators to try and catch you doing any thing wrong. if you have a mom thats good consider moving in with her to help you baby sit while you get a job. listen to me, right now is for your kids, forget about yourself, your needs, your wants because honey if he takes them from you, he will change them and turn your heart inside out! you sound young, have the courage and strength to indure, eventully he will give up and want to move on. most times (not all) dads want custody because of the child support payments they have to make and it crimps their ability to own a big screen tv. moms (most times) want custody because their hearts are tied up in those little bundles of joy. dont give up girl and dont give in! missjester Wed, 10 May 2006 13:09:56 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/they_want_custody_of_my_babies 13020 i dont know if school is still in session where you are at but if it is go to the school nurse they will make your parent(s) take you to get it looked at, just tell them your whole story. missjester Wed, 10 May 2006 12:54:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/chest_pain_for_5_months_what_to_do 13019 i know how you feel there is alot to be depressed about in this world! and what we can read about on line and see or expearance, is probably just the tip of the ice berg. i think that the people who realize life sucks are the people who are the nicest. we generaly feel more then the average person, because we are more sensitive. and i dont know but i think people that get depressed are the artist's and creative population. some of the world best art and music have come from missery. because every one must let it out other wize it eats us alive. here are some ways you can help your self with out telling anyone. make a difference in people or animals lives that are worse off then you but guard your self becasue they can depress you more looking at how horrible their lifes are. but REALIZE that if off your self who will help them then? search on line for abuse victims write a letter to them or the authorities telling how you hate abuse and want them to increase punishments for nasty people. use your big heart to help the world, and perhaps realize that thats maybe why you are here. also investigate Jesus prove or disprove to your self about him. how will this help? i cannot tell you its something you must investigate for yourself. missjester Sat, 06 May 2006 11:47:21 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/im_depressed 12791 thank you both i'll let you know missjester Wed, 03 May 2006 12:53:16 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/squirt_wants_to_be_number_one 12565