http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/mandy2282 en-us over washing can also produce a smell because your body will create more ph to fight the soap. It depends on what you are using to wash it. Try not to use too much bar soap, if you shower every day and you are using a large amount of regular bar soap to clean it then you will be causing more odor. There are products that are manufactured specifically for this purpose. Try to use something to clean that is formulated for your vaginal area. Make sure that you are not over washing as well. Most people do not realize that they are creating the smell by washing too much. Good luck and don't listen to the previous answer. I am sure that you shower regularly, that is an ingorant response to this question. mandy2282 Sat, 01 Mar 2008 20:48:46 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_does_101938 245352 Hawaii is great, you should check that out If you are on the east coast though it would be cheaper to go to the bahamas or other islands. mandy2282 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 19:00:22 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_is_the_best_place_for_a_honeymoon 88919 About you being drunk when it happened. That makes me very sad because it was obviously not very special to you at all. Also the legal age to drink is what 21? At least in the United States it is. So if you think that you are old enough to drink and old enough to have sex, you are not correct. The government enforces drinking ages for a reason. I am trying to help some of you young ladies because of the terrible life that I had when I was younger and I will admit that I was drinking, doing drugs, and having sex at 14, but I wish that I had not. I ended up becoming an alchoholic and an addict and going to AA meetings at 18! I don't think any of it is ok and I wish that the teenagers in this world would quit trying to grow up so fast! You do not realize the dangerous positions that you are putting yourself in. I know, I know, everyone of you on this website is going to tell me that I don't know you and I don't know your life and you all will rationalize these things and come up with excuses as to why it is ok for you and why you are different or why you are so much more mature for your age than anyone else. I have heard it all and said it all before. Please think about making some changes while you are still young. You have no idea what you are going to put yourself through. You will have serious regrets when you are older and then you will be the one trying to help out teenage girls just like I am. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell me, do you like the person that you see? Do you really want to be that person? Are you really having fun? You have no idea the consequences that I have had to deal with because of my actions as a teenager. Did you know that by the time I was 17 I was on a stripper pole every night? I had no other way to make money because my parents kicked me out. That lifestyle is not comforting and it will only make you feel more alone. I used to live in motel rooms! And I had to make enough money every night to pay for my motel room or I would have no place to live. It all started with a little drinking and having sex. Everything escellated from that point and just kept on spiraling down and down until I hit rock bottom. You never know what could happen, your life may be different and your parents may be more supportive, or maybe they just have no clue what you are doing because they aren't paying attention or they are in denial. Trust me there are no good things that will come out of drinking and having sex when you are still in high school. No matter what you will have consequences for your actions and you will regret putting yourself in the position that you have. I have epilepsy now because of the drinking and drugs that I did when I was a teenager. I have grand mal seizures and I loose my driver's license if I can't go for more than a year without having a seizure, and I lost one very good job, one of the first very good jobs that I ever had because I could not control my seizures. Think about these things and tell me, do you really think that you are so special that nothing bad will happen to you? If you play with fire you will get burned no matter how special you think you are. You may think that you are the one in a million person that won't suffer any consequenses from drinking or having sex. You could contract an STD or get pregnant. Do you know how hard it will be when you are an adult to find a boyfriend or a husband if you have an STD? Even something like herpes that is not life threatening. It will be very difficult for a man to want to have sex with you let alone get into a serious relationship with you. There are other less threatening STD's out there like Chlamydia or HPV those are treatable but you will have to get it taken care of and then you will have to tell the people that you had sex with about it so they can get treated. HPV is the number one cause for cervical cancer and one out of every 5 people has it. Stop trying to grow up so fast and do it all while you are still so young. You can never get your innocense back, you can never get your childhood back, and you can never get your virginity back! Please listen to what I have to say, I am not like your parents, I understand what you are going through and that is why I am trying to help. Nobody should have to deal with this alone. mandy2282 Wed, 08 Aug 2007 16:20:05 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/will_it_hurt 81246 When I was 14-16 my mother was against taking me to a gym, she did not want me to develop any type of eating disorder, but what we did do together was walking. My mother and I used to walk for at least 30 minutes every night. It was fun and a good bonding experience and I was getting enough exercise to keep my body fit. The other thing is about what you drink. Water is really the only thing that you can drink that is 100% good for you and it helps you burn fat and you can drink all the water that you want. Caffinated drinks are usually high in calories and fat. When I wake up in the morning I drink a red bull on my way to work but I count those calories and then I only drink water for the rest of the day. I do pilates every day for one hour in my house, and I eat alot of fruits and vegetables and meats like fish, chicken, and turkey and occasionally pork. I have not always done this, over the last few years I let myself go and I was on depo-provera so it was hard for me to keep the weight off. I will say that I am back on my diet regimen and exercise plan for a little over a week now and I have dropped one size already. The main thing is to make sure that you don't go for more than five hours without eating, and always drink lots and lots of water. mandy2282 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:53:00 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/weight_problems_1855 80395 There are many forms of metabolism going on in your body right now, but the one everyone is talking about it the metabolism of fat. This is actually something that the liver does when it converts stored fat to energy. The liver has other functions, but this is one of its main jobs. Unfortunately, another of the liver's duties is to pick up the slack for the kidneys, which need plenty of water to work properly. If the kidneys are water-deprived, the liver has to do their work along with its own, lowering its total productivity. It then can't metabolize fat as quickly or efficiently as it could when the kidneys were pulling their own weight. If you allow this to happen, not only are you being unfair to your liver, but you're also setting yourself up to store fat. The problem is that, though many decide to increase their water intake, very few stick with it. It's understandable. During the first few days of drinking more water than your body is accustomed to, you're running to the bathroom constantly. This can be very discouraging, and it can certainly interfere with an otherwise normal day at work. It seems that the water is coming out just as fast as it's going in, and many people decide that their new hydration habit is fruitless. Do take heed , though. What is really happening is that your body is flushing itself of the water it has been storing throughout all those years of "survival mode". It takes a while, but this is a beautiful thing happening to you. As you continue to give your body all the water it could ask for, it gets rid of what it doesn't need. It gets rid of the water it was holding onto in your ankles and your hips and thighs, maybe even around your belly. You are excreting much more than you realize. Your body figures it doesn't need to save these stores anymore; it's trusting that the water will keep coming, and if it does, eventually, the flushing (of both the body and the potty) will cease, allowing the human to return to a normal life. It's true. This is called the "breakthrough point." One recent finding, as irresponsible as it may be, that caffeine increases the body's fat-burning potential has many people loading up on coffee before going to the gym. This finding may hold some degree of truth in it, but caffeine is, in essence, a diuretic, and diuretics dehydrate. Caffeine may increase the heart rate, causing a few more calories to be burned, but this is at the expense of the muscles, which need water to function properly. This isn't doing your heart any favors, either. It's already working hard enough during your workout. Never mix caffeine and exercise. In fact, your best bet is to stay away from caffeine all together. It's a big bully that pushes your friend water out of your system. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 21:02:12 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_does_water_help_you_lose_weight 79902 Pretty sure she had gastric bypass surgery. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:57:37 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_did_wynonna_judd_lose_her_weight 79899 Weight does not go by age, but by your height, you can probably get a weight chart online if you google it. I would say probably 130-160 if you are a male and 120-140 if you are a female. But I am not an expert, so go check it out on a search engine. Also there can be many variables about weight, if you feel good and you look good then you should be alright. If you look to yourself like you are overweight then you should talk to your parents and ask them if they think that you should go on a diet or not. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:56:57 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_6 79898 Pilates works great, you can do it in the privacy of your own home, or join a gym. They also have a healthy eating program and a diary to keep track of your results. A little time and patience is all that you need to make it work. Pilates is more than a work out video, it is a complete, structured way of life. You can do it as little or as much as you want as long as you stick with their program. Try it out, you can get the starter kits for as little as 10-20 bucks if you go to the right store. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:53:18 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/weight_problems_1855 79897 Changing and learning from your mistakes are very good, but it will take a long time for anyone to notice, I know how hard that can be and it is very frustrating. Regaining trust takes time and patience. The best bit of advice that I can give you is to show the change and not talk about it. If you change your attitude and your outlook on life and you quit doing whatever it was you were doing, they will see soon. Think about it this way, if you had a boyfriend that cheated on you and then he said he learned from his mistake, how long would it take you to really start trusting him again? Actions speak louder than words. As far as your weight goes, if you are exercising but not eating the proper nutrition, your metabolism is probably in shock. Your body will shut down and hold on to the fat cells. If you are not eating, your body will automatically go into starvation mode and you will not be able to loose any weight. The right way to do it is to exercise in moderation, once a day is fine but for only about 30 minutes. Then stick to a safe, nutritious diet that is geared toward breaking down your fat cells. Pilates is a good way to go, you can get a kit with three videos, and exercise plan, and a daily diary. It is a ten week plan and it works if you follow it correctly and don't overdo it. I got the kit at biglots for ten bucks, so it is not that expensive. You could not eat at all and you would still not loose the weight that you want to because your body is in shock. Take a safe, healthy approach at loosing weight and you will succeed. One big thing is to watch what you drink. If you drink alot of soda you are not going to loose any weight at all. Try to limit yourself to water and maybe one or two glasses of tea every day. The tea is good because it is rich in antioxidants. Sweet tea is not as good but you can use different types of sweeteners if you like such as splenda or equal or something like that. You won't loose weight if you keep doing what you are doing. But give everyone some time to establish a trust in you and don't give up, be patient. If you give up and have to start all over again, it will take twice as long to re-gain their trust the second time around. Let me know if you need anything else. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:50:27 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/depressed_1267 79896 It is always hard to start a new school, when I was in school I went to four different high schools and I was homeschooled for seven years before that so it was a difficult transition. You will make friends though and it will be much easier than you think. The nervousness will pass soon. Just be friendly and remember that people are more attracted to you when you listen to them and don't talk too much about yourself. The one thing that turns every single person off is that if they talk about something and you turn the conversation onto yourself. Don't try too hard to fit in, just relax and be yourself and it will work out. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:37:11 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/afraid_91591 79892 I think that highlights look great no matter what, nose peircing though, not as attractive in my opinion. If you do get it you should wear a very small diamond. The other thing is that if you decide one day that you don't like it, when you take it out there will be a scar. I know I had my nose, eyebrow, nipples, and tongue pierced when I was younger and I have taken them all out. The worst scars though are the nipples, the tongue you really cant tell but the nose and eyebrow, there is a mark that can't be covered by makeup because it is an indentation in the skin. But the highlights are always a great idea, I think you should play around with your hair a bit before you think about piercing. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:34:01 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/hair_piercings 79890 There are many types of tv's these days, one is an LCD rear projection, it has a projector in the back and a series of microscopic mirrors that project the image onto the screen. LCD stands for liquid crystal display. Does that answer your question? If not, can you be more specific, I know just about everything there is to know about televisions. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:30:28 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_is_it_1788 79887 It probably will hurt the first time, unless he is very small...but you should think very carefully if you really want to do that or not. You will never get your virginity back. What if he brags to his friends at school? You might get a bad reputation... he could just be trying to use you for sex. He also could be pressuring you because that is what young boys do. They are very excited about sex when they are young and they usually jrk off at least once a day, it is human nature and a primal urge but most of them don't know how to control there urges so they will pressure young women into thinking that it is ok and they will be very manipulative and play on your emotions. I know alot about this subject, I am 25 now but I made huge mistakes when I was young and I had to pay for them. I got a bad reputation at school and so one of my "friends" invited me to a "party" and when I got there it was just me and five other guys. They thought that I was a slut because of all of the rumors going around and they decided that they all wanted to have their way with me. Needless to say I was raped and held down by all five of them and now, 11 years later I am still a mess about it and it will not go away. I wish that you girls would think more logically when you take actions like this because high school is only a short four years out of your life. You will never be able to take back anything that you do, what is done is done and your reputation will follow you forever unless you move to another state. You should be having fun being a kid and stop trying to grow up so fast! You are going to be able to have sex for about 70% of your life and now is not really the time to start. You should wait until you know more and until it really means something. I know you probably aren't going to listen and your mind is made up already, but what I do hope is that if it doesn't work out with this guy, don't just move to the next guy and have sex with him too! Learn a lesson, if you have sex for a little while and then you guys break up that does not mean that you have to have sex with the next boyfriend that comes along. But the way things happen is that this guy will brag about it and everyone will know and then if you do break up the next guy that comes along will know about it and when you tell him that you are not ready to have sex he will want to know why not because he knew that you had sex with your last boyfriend and why not him? They talk about these things in locker rooms and they are all manipulative and will try to pressure you into having sex and then some of them will just not take no for an answer. Don't let your heart get broken. Save your virginity at least until you are 17-18 wait until your senior year in high school at least. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 20:03:42 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/will_it_hurt 79881 You sound just like I did when I was your age. Almost the exact same words and thoughts. I am telling you because now I am older and wiser and looking back I wish that I had been more mature about things. Your idea of being more mature than most people your age may be true, but intellectual maturity and emotional maturity are two very different things. Most people have the idea that they have found the "one for them" and that the person they are with at 14 years old is the person that they are going to spend the rest of their lives with. Well, guess what, the person that I was with at 14-18 and thought he was my soul mate and that I was going to spend the rest of my life with, he is in federal prison. We were engaged and I got pregnant three times by the time I was 18, the first two I miscarried early on and the third was a almost full term still-born. The still-born was the most difficult, emotional, painful thing that I ever had to go through in my life. You have no idea what it feels like to bury a child when you are only 18 years old. Shortly after the baby died I left him and moved to another city and started to really enjoy my childhood. I dated a few guys and had fun without having sex with them and met alot of people and did alot of things. I had the freedom to live wherever I wanted to and work wherever and whenever I wanted to and not have to worry about a husband or a child or the extremely large cost of living that comes with all of that. Please do not misunderstand me, I grieved the loss of my child and I think about how different my life would be with her and she would be six years old now and I wish it would not have happened the way that it did. But on the other hand she would be six years old with a father that is in prison for a very long time for armed bank robbery, and I would be living alone raising the child and trying to afford everything as a single mother with the father in prison is very difficult because you can forget ever getting any child support. What I am telling you is that I had a large ego at your age too and I thought that I was so smart and so mature and that nobody could tell me any different and even if they did, i thought they did not know what they were talking about and obviously they didn't know me or my situation because I was very "mature" for my age. I had the biggest chip on my shoulder and my nose up in the air and my ego was the size of Texas and I was sure that I knew everything there was to know and that I was in love and it was going to be forever. Most marriages that start in high school end up in divorce, and if they don't it is usually because they stay together unhappily for reasons of children or financial reasons. You can do the reasearch online and find out the statistics. I know you will probably come back at me with something like how you are that one in a million exception and I don't know your situation or your relationship, that is your ego talking. Statistics do not lie. Be young while you are young because you will never have another chance to be young. If you lock yourself into something now you will end up feeling trapped and as if you are stuck in a life that you did not really want. I look back at who I was and how I acted in high school and I wish I could go back and tell myself the truth and give myself a good slap in the face, but I can't. The only thing that I can do is try to give good advice to teenagers now and hope that at least one of them will take my advice and that it will help. I know most of you will not listen to me because you think you already know it all, or you don't want to accept reality. The biggest part of it is denial, you want to feel the way you think you do about this person and you are in a hurry to get your life started. You want to be in love, you want to have children, you want to get married, and so on. The reason why you want these things is because there is some type of emptiness that is inside of you, there is a void you want to fill and you think if you hurry up and fill it then you will be happy. My advice is to learn how to be happy by yourself and be young and live life to the fullest. Babies are wonderful, but young women getting pregnant is never a good idea because it stops you from having a full life. Without a child, you could go to college, travel, have fun and live life to the fullest extent. With a child you will have to learn how to finish school and find a babysitter at the same time and then you will have to go straight from school to working somewhere for a low pay rate and also have to pay for child-care and all of the other expensive neccessities that babies require, unless your parents are rich and they are enablers. Try to find a happiness inside of you without wanting someone else to put it there and stop having sex because it is selfish. Willpower is commended much higher than someone just giving into a primal urge because they feel like it and they have rationalized it to the point where they make it seem like it is normal and there is nothing wrong. The honest truth is that there is something very wrong with todays youth and all of the sex and drugs that are going on in high schools and even middle schools. Sex is meant to be special and it is meant for your soul mate and you will be very dissapointed when you do find your soul mate and he does not want to have sex with you because you have given your body to so many other men and the thought of it makes him sick. Trust me. mandy2282 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 19:46:46 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/pregnant_281 79875 I stopped taking it because my blood pressure was getting very high and I felt like the Depo was the cause, I have been off of it for about three months now and my blood pressure is back to normal, I need to find a different kind of birth control because I do not want to get pregnant, but we don't have sex that often anyways and we are careful when we do. Maybe like once a month is all sometimes we go for two or three months without having sex. He has been very depressed lately. mandy2282 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 17:39:19 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/getting_off_of_depo_provera_what 79296 You can buy something at GNC, ask them at the counter, they will tell you what to buy but it can be very expensive. But also, you should think about not smoking pot if you have to take a drug test. mandy2282 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 17:35:55 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/drug_ua 79293 That is a stupid question mandy2282 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 17:34:27 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/health_2260 79291 My boyfriend is like that, alot of the time he will just stay in the den all night and tell me to leave him alone, he has depression and social anxiety. I think that may be what you are going through, social anxiety. I personally don't see anything wrong with that, he still lives a normal life, but he had to get a job where he doesn't have to deal with many people and I am the only person in his life. He went for two years without working at all and it was very difficult on me in a financial manner because I was the only one working. I think if you talk to a therapist they should be able to find out if you have a problem or tell you what is going on. He has not accepted help from a doctor, he went for a while because I made him go but he quit going. He does seem to be getting better on his own though, There may not be anything wrong with you at all, you might just want to be alone, solitude is good for the mind, you have alot of time to think and you can use it to learn and become more intelligent. Some of the most intelligent minds desire isolation like authors and scientists. Don't worry too much about it. mandy2282 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 17:32:19 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/something_wrong_with_wanting_to_be 79289 He has said it all in a nutshell. The seratonin levels in your brain can be dangerous. I have alot of problems with the chemicals in my brain, I have epilepsy and bipolar disorder and OCD. The root of all of the problems is the ceratonin, except for the OCD, that is from trauma that I incurred as a child, but my doctor is really helping me. I think that it is going to be different for every person, because some people click with their doctors better than others. Like I said before, if you go to a doc and it feels like it is not helping you can always ask to see a different doctor and they will not take it personally. They all just want to help you. Where I live there is a Mental Health clinic with a large staff of doctors and it is funded by the government. I get to see a psychologist and a psychiatrist once a week for free because of my income. Well actually I only need to see the pill doctor once a month. I am not taking any pills yet because I haven't felt comfortable with anything that he has prescribed me. I get scared because of my epilepsy. There are alot of drugs that will cause me to have seizures and I worry that will happen if I take something new. Remember that you don't have to take something just because they prescribe it to you. Check everything out online before you take it, on like webmd or some other site that gives you information about pills. Sweetie, I will talk to you soon and more on the private messages, read the book that I sent you and keep your chin up. Depression hurts but you can and you will get better and I will be here for you every step of the way. Please don't hurt yourself and if you feel like you are going to, go to the hospital. You will get through this tough situation, you are young and your life will change very soon. I will help you, I care about you and I will listen to you any time you need to talk to someone. Be safe -Mandy mandy2282 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 17:24:33 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/im_suffering_from_depression_help 79287 Yes I know, I can read the question. I was trying to point out the benefits of that method. mandy2282 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 22:40:50 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/heavy_period_relief 78973 It could make you dizzy or throw off your equilibrium, other side effects that they post on another website are drowsiness, unsteadiness, nausea, and vomiting. Some people may get blurred or double vision, confusion, hostility, headache, and severe water retention. There may be other less common side effects the doctor may be able to tell you about. I too have epilepsy, but that is not what I take for it. I take Neurontin, I would not recomend it unless you have your seizures under control because it is not very strong. I have tried topamax, that made me feel like I was going crazy! Also made me very hot all of the time and dizzy and nauseous. My doc was trying to push it on me! I think the doctors get kickbacks from the pharmasudical companies, so don't let your doctor try to push something on you if you really don't want to take it. I have been on neurontin for over ten years and had no problems. I do still have breakthrough seizures though and that is why they want to put me on something stronger, but with no insurance right now I can't go to a neurologist, only a regular MD and he will only give me what he knows I have been taking. You are doing the right thing by checking out the meds online, there are so many resources like webmd and drugs.com You can get as much information as you need and also find out info about other meds and see which one you think is right for you. If you have concerns, make sure you talk to your doctor about them. mandy2282 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 17:55:07 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/tegretol_medication 78876 I was on Depo-Provera for three years and I did not have a period at all the entire time, I too suffer with heavy, painful periods but I am much older than you so the medications that I take to ease the pain would be too strong for you to take. Try mydol or pamprin and get the extra strength tablets. mandy2282 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 17:32:17 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/heavy_period_relief 78869 I will say that every time I have taken a home PT, it has been accurate. I tend to obsess about it and think that maybe the test didn't work or maybe it was too soon or maybe I drank too much water...blah,blah,blah. But I have OCD so that is one reason why. I was on depo-provera for three years and it worked wonderfully, you get a shot every three months and most patients don't even have a period anymore, I was one of them. They say that you gain weight on depo, but I actually lost weight and the doc said she was going to make me their poster child for depo to show the girls who complain about the weight gain that it is not always true. Planned Parenthood is a good resource and also your local health department. There are many types of birth control, but depo is my favorite because you can always forget to take a pill. You should at least wait a few weeks before you start worrying and see what happens because if you took an at home PT and it came up negative then chances are you are not pregnant, but get on some birth control sweetie! And make him use a condom because birth control will not protect you from diseases. Also you should not be having sex until you are in a loving, committed relationship that is going to last forever. When you find the one that is right for you, sex will be secondary and love will be primary. Trust me, I know...I was very promiscuous when I was a teenager and I had my heart broken so many times. Guys do not get as emotionally attached as girls do. When they get bored, they move on to someone else. It is not until you find your soul mate and like I said before sex is only secondary to your relationship then you will be happy and in love and then you can think about marriage and babies in that order! I am not talking badly about anyone who has babies and they are not married. I for one don't feel like marriage is neccessary because I am divorced and I have been with my love for three years now and we are just not ready to get married, but we also are not ready to have a child either, so we use protection or we just don't have sex. I think that a night of cuddling and kissing and hugging is better than sex personally because the sex can be painful and quick and exhausting, while the cuddling feels good and makes you happy without being sweaty and tired. I used to have more energy when I was younger so I understand why so many young people like to have sex but you can have passion without sex and still feel satisfied. ttyl -Mandy mandy2282 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 17:26:09 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_m_really_scared 78867 I know that the main thing on your mind right now is your penis. Fourteen is a strange age, especially for boys. It sounds like you are trying to advertize the size and you already know that 7 inches is very large for a boy your age, if in fact that is the actual size that you are. I think that less is more, in my opinion. Some women are smaller than others when it comes to their vaginas and I know that I would not want a man larger than about six inches because anything bigger would be painful to me and I would not enjoy it very much. That may be something to think about. Don't use it yet, you are too young. mandy2282 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 15:39:34 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_my_penis_a_normal_size 78828 Therapist are not "quacks" and please do not take the advice of someone that is your age. You need to talk to someone, you can go to a guidance counselor at school and they can tell you what options are available in your area. You may want to meet with more than one therapist before you find the one that works for you. There are also many government programs that offer free mental health. I go to a therapist once a week and I do not have to pay a dime. Please talk to your counselor at school and find out what is available. Suicide is not an answer, it is just a way to end your life and there are many other ways to fix your problem without ending your life. Your parents should know what is going on with you, but I understand how scared you may be to talk to them. Most children think that their parents don't understand or that they will be judgemental. I wish that I would have opened up to my mother when I was young because she has been the most wonderful person in my life and she has always had my best interests in her heart. I think that is the case with most families. You are your parent's child and they love you and want what is best for you. They may seem to be so much older than you and you think there is no way they would ever understand what you are going through, but just remember, they were your age once. I will give you any kind of support that you need, just send me a message if you want to talk. I have been there and I am very empathetic and I want to help. Please do not hurt yourself, go help yourself. You can create a much better world for yourself, you just need to learn how to do it and that is what a therapist is there for more than anything else. thanks -Mandy mandy2282 Fri, 03 Aug 2007 22:52:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/am_i_sucidial 78581