FunAdvice Advice from: ldsmous

Re: Unknown

ldsmous — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 17:32:12 -0700

Well, obviously neither of you are HAPPILY married, or else neither of you would have these feelings for each other. I would suggest that, if you want to save your marriage, that you stop seeing/talking/thinking about this doctor and be honest with your husband. Then I would suggest that you and your husband go talk with a marriage counselor. You may not see that your husband is doing anything wrong, but if he was doing everything he needed to do, you wouldn't have the desire to be with someone else. You need to talk with a marriage counselor, where you both can talk openly without the worry of fighting over anything. You need to have a mediator when you two are talking about this, because, chances are, your husband will be very upset about this. If you love your husband, you will cut this guy off from your life and cling to your husband. However, if you don't love your husband, then something has happened in your marriage that should not have happened. Get out of the relationship with the doctor while you can, before you ruin your marriage altogether. LDSMous

Re: the pill

ldsmous — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 16:09:57 -0700

I think we should get a "chat session" going once in awhile (like once a week) where we can come in here and chat about these things... and I'm volunteering FamilyCoach to lead the first one... lol I can see it now, FamilyCoach would NOT be the person you want going against you... make sure you have him on your side. Now, with the question... You're 11!!! At 11 I still though guys had cooties! I didn't even know what sex was! That's the way it should be. Tell your 17 yr old friend to get lost and start hanging out with friends your own age honey before you get used sexually, physically, and emotionally! LDSMous

Re: How do you pop a cherry?

ldsmous — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 16:03:38 -0700

umm... I have one word to add to that... DITTO! lol LDSMous

Re: Are Mormons Christians?

ldsmous — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 15:57:42 -0700

Yes Mormons are Christian... if you want to know, just ask a Mormon yourself (I know where you can find one). The name of the Mormon church is actually The Church of JESUS CHRIST of Latter-day Saints. Now, knowing that, how can you say that Mormons don't believe in Jesus Christ. The Book of Mormon is an account of people over in North and South America suring the same time as the Holy Bible. Also, the Book of Mormon wasn't written by Joseph Smith... it was translated by Joseph Smith... BIG difference. The definition of a cult, by the way, is any group of people that come together regularly for the same purpose or intent. So yes, I guess the Mormon church is a cult, but so is every other religion, so what does it matter? Are there any other questions that need to be brough to the attention to a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints? (Mormon is a nickname) LDSMous

Re: Is abortion wrong:

ldsmous — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 15:33:30 -0700

I think it is wrong... I think that if the abortion were the result of incest or rape, or if the mother's life is in danger, then abortion is okay... but even in those circumstances, I would seriously think about it. With incest and rape, it's not the child's fault that happened (sometimes not the mother's either though)... and that child should not have to be killed just because of those. With the mother's life in danger, you have to decide which life is more important to you... Do you want your child to grow up possibly without a mother, but still be able to have life experiences? Or would you rather not even give it the chance to live, and just kill it? That's something that has to be thought about for a long time. However, if you just "don't have the money or time" or if you "don't want to stretch marks" or just FINALLY think you are "too young", then you have taken too long to come to that conclusion, and if you don't want to baby, you should do the right thing and give it up for adoption so it will be able to live, and be with a family that will do those things in the best interest of him/her. LDSMous

Re: What's a dildo?

ldsmous — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:34:43 -0700

If I've said it once, I've said it a million times... If you don't know, you aren't old enough!!! LDSMous

Re: What does "clit" mean?

ldsmous — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:26:28 -0700

You won't even be 14 until the end of this month! What do you mean you're 16? I don't think it's a good idea for you to be asking questions on this website, because there are some things that a 14 year old just doesn't need to know. Find out about the anatomy of your body, sure... but you don't need to know how to pleasure yourself and that best ways to have s*ex at the age of 14! I think maybe you need to go talk to your mother about these things first before asking others. LDSMous

Re: How do I finger a girl?

ldsmous — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:21:35 -0700

If you have to ask, you are too young to know. LDSMous

Re: How do you finger a girl?

ldsmous — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:10:49 -0700

If you have to ask, you are too young to know. It looks like you just turned 13 yesterday! That makes me sick that there are 13 yr olds who know about something that most 16 yr olds aren't mature enough to participate in. You have to wonder how these kids learn about these things... they don't come up witht hem by themselves. If the parents are telling them, then they need to explain EVERYTHING and tell their children that it's not something you do until you are mature enough and are at least close to finishing school. Good grief! LDSMous

Re: How can I help my living environment?

ldsmous — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 13:09:56 -0700

Yes, this other family is working out. I was the only one in my family who went to church at all. However, on Sundays, I would just spend the day with this other family, and we joked around saying that they just kinda adopted me. Now I'm the only female in the house (besides the mom), and things are good. I actually interact with my new "siblings" and we all get along. It's good. I'm hoping to get married in January, and I'll move to Arizona at that time. Katrina (LDSMous)

Re: How can I help my living environment?

ldsmous — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 19:23:41 -0700

Just an update. I had told enough people about it, that someone called CPS. CPS came by when my mom was sleeping, so they had to come the next day, but told her what time they would be there and the whole contents of the call they received. So she was able to clean the house up and make a story to cover everything up. There was a rumor going around the house that my mom was going to say that the 18 yr old was my boyfriend (I'm engaged to a 22 yr old in AZ), and that I was only renting a room. To cover all my bases, I called CPS myself to tell them my side of the story and to warn them of the lies that may or may not be told to them. Once they talked to my mom, she figured out that I had called at least once, got upset and kicked me out of the house. So now I am living with a church family of mine full-time and my mother won't even talk to me, let alone want to see me. Just thought you'd like an update.

Re: How do I get in my girlfriend's pants?

ldsmous — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 22:39:20 -0700

Why don't you jsut respect her and wait until she is ready? A girl is much more willing to open up her sensitive and emotional feelings when you respect her rights as a person. Besides, if she isn't ready yet, you can't force her to do anything. LDSMous

Re: Is there a good position to make the first time good?

ldsmous — Mon, 28 May 2007 23:05:13 -0700

Sailor, then you will still have the knowledge that you have not s*x, and you will feel much better about yourself knowing that you never took the risk of becoming pregnant (or getting someone pregnant) before you were willing to make a commitment to them by marrying them. They will know you as a better person for not giving into peer pressure. LDSMous

Re: Is there a good position to make the first time good?

ldsmous — Mon, 28 May 2007 08:27:11 -0700

If you want your first time to be special.... why not wait until you are married? Wouldn't it feel special knowing that you could marry someone who has never given it up to anyone, and that you have saved it just for them as well? Besides the fact that you would know that they don't have any STDs, you would also know that they saved themselves just for you, and that right there feels really special. Just a thought LDSMous

Re: What should I do when I'm craving to see my boyfriend?

ldsmous — Fri, 25 May 2007 20:25:36 -0700

I know how you feel. My bf and I have been dating for 3 years (in June). He lives in Arizona and I live in Nevada (800 miles apart). The last time I saw him was in March. Other than that, all we do is talk on the phone or the internet. I want to go crazy every day just thinking about him. We want to get married, and plan on it, but I have to save up money to get a car and an apartment down in Arizona so I can move down there. But until then, I'm stuck up in Nevada with my bf 800 miles away. LDSMous

Re: Is sex before marriage wrong?

ldsmous — Mon, 14 May 2007 22:26:57 -0700

You should not be having sex at the age of 15! I myself (for religious reason) won't have sex until after I'm married, but I don't look down upon those who choose to have sex before then, as long as they are mature enough that they could take on adult responsibilites. You always have to look at the "worst case senario" of things. If you have sex, and get a girl pregnant, then you are financially responsible for that child for the next 18 yrs! Without even a HS Diploma yet, that will be very close to impossible to do without a LOT of help from family and friends. She would have to have family watch the baby during the day so she could finish school (if she chose to), and you could be responsible for it. So I am not going to tell you not to have sex before you are married... but don't have it at 15 yrs old! That's wayyy too young. LDSMous

Re: How many chapters are in the book of mormon?

ldsmous — Thu, 10 May 2007 23:41:34 -0700

239 Chapters.. no it didn't take me this long to find the answer.. just this long for me to find the question. LDSMous

Re: What is up with the mormon religion?

ldsmous — Thu, 10 May 2007 00:20:05 -0700

Instead of arguing who is right and who is wrong here.. how about you go to www.mormon.org and find out for yourselves. They just added a cool addition where you can chat live with a Mormon missionary online. So you don't have to see them in person. There is no proving who is right and who is wrong.. and bible bashing gets us nowhere... so go find out for yourselves if you are not willing to listen to an LDS person yourself and accept the answer that's given. LDSMous <-- Mormon for 6.5 yrs

Re: How can I get my husband's attention back?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:47:36 -0700

Because he cheated on you, your marriage will never be the same. It will either go down hill, or get better. Chances are you both want it to get batter. What he needs to do is make sure that he very open with you,. Now that he has done this once, he will be tempted to do it again, and I'm sure that you will feel suspicious. Also, I would suggest that the both of you go to marriage counseling. A marriage counselor can be the outside person to help you see things, that you yourselves will not be able to see. Don't bring up his faults to him, because that will just remind him of it, and make him feel even more guilty. Let him know that you sitll love him. Try going out on dates at least once a month, but perferrably once a week. Even if it's just getting kids out of the house (if you have any) and watching a movie. Make sure you get one night to yourselves.Communication is the top reason for divorce. Find out why he did it in the first place. Try talking about it for one night, and then be done. Get the answers to all of your questions that night, and then drop the idea and just continue to love him. Let him know that it will take time to earn your trust back.. that's just human nature. But it can be done and you know he can do it. You love him unconditionally and will continue to do so thorughout your lives. LDSMous

Re: Goodbye to everyone

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:39:57 -0700

I can't believe all the people who think that killing themselves is the best solution to everyday pains. None of us will ever go through trials that we can't handle. I know that sometimes they seem difficult, but there are always people to talk to, whether it be online, or your parents, school counselor, etc. There is always someone. LDSMous

Re: What do men think of women waiting until marriage?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:31:21 -0700

Guys respect girls more if they to have sex until they are married for many different reasons. Maybe they are mature enough to know that the whole reason for sex is not only pleasure, but to reproduce, and they know that it's much easier on a couple if you wait until you are married to reproduce. Also, if they know the person they are with won't have sex until they are married, then they also now that that person won't have any STDs. I mean think about it from a girl's perspective: If a guy who has sex with you has been with other girls, then it's like having sex with all those other girls too. From a guy's perspective: If the girl he's with has had sex with other guys, then it's like having sex with those other guys too. Kind gross, isn't it? So lose your virginity to the person you plan on marrying, or better yet, wait until you are married. LDSMous

Re: What do men think of women waiting until marriage?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:31:20 -0700

Re: How young is too young for sex?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:27:24 -0700

I agree with the people who said "If you have to ask, you're too young". It is much better to go with an older guy, but there is a time when it's gets to be too much older. Just date people your age for now, until you get out of high school, then go find an older guy and think about sex. But until then, enjoy life with the worries of "Will my period come this month? What about next month? What are we going to do? Will he always be there for me?" Believe me, it's not worth it. P.S. It's been proven that for the most part, men mature slower than girls do.... so go with an older guy so that you two can be on the same maturity level. :: hides behind tree for last comment:: LDSMous

Re: Can my girlfriend move out of her parents' house?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:23:17 -0700

She can move out at 16... IF she can prove to the courts that she is capable of living on her own and providing for herself while going to school. If there is nothing wrong with her home life, than chances are, the courts won't let her move out. What you need to do, and I know it's difficult, is just have a long distance relationship until she turns 18, and then if she wants to, she can move in with you. P.S. I know long distance relationships are hard... I'm 20 and my bf is 22. He lives in Arizona and I live in Nevada. We only see each other once every 2-3 or whenever one of us has the money to visit. It's even more difficult, because I lived at his parents' house for 1.5 yrs and we became very close.... so for me to move far away like that was very difficult, but I know in the long run it will strengthen our relationship. GOOD LUCK! LDSMous

Re: Should I tell someone I suspect abuse?

ldsmous — Tue, 08 May 2007 12:19:31 -0700

Abuse is not comething to play around with. If your friend won't tell her mom, teacher, counselor, police, etc... then you need to tell someone. Just tell them what your friend said, because tha tis all you know. If they ask any further questions, then just tell them that you don't know. Don't tell them that your friend was abused... just tell them that she told you that her brother was touching her, and you are concerned tha tit was innapproriate touching. They will take it from there. They don't have to tell the police your name, and if you friend knows it's your and gets mad, then she's not a true friend, because a true friend would be happy to have a friend who's willing to stand up for them and make sure they are safe. If her brother truly is touching her innapproriatly, then chances are, he'll do it again, and possibly to someone else. However, if you tell someone now, then the future events could be stopped. LDSMous