http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/jemmvli I'm currently on a weight loss challenge. Happy to say I lost 8lbs on my first month and that's thanks to hebalife. If you're not familiar with it, there's lots of inof on my other websites. herbalnutrition.net/jemmvli or check out my other site myspace.com/herbalrus (read the blogs). Any questions go ahead and email me at (herbalrus@herbaljemmvli.com en-us I don't think God wants us to debate what we believe in. It's more about spreading the Gospel if you feel that' s your calling. Knowing He is with you throughout your spiritual journey. Yet, as you can see people will speak out and that comes with the territory. I just think don't take it personal it's not against you anymore it's more of a problem to people because of whot/what you believe in. In the long run we'll see or not, the fruit of the seed that we plant. Keep strong and stick to what you believe in. I like to think I respect others beliefs, therefore, I can only ask for the same in return. God bless. jemmvli Wed, 01 Oct 2008 18:49:20 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_please_answer_this 559486 One thing I've learned in my christian journey is "we" can't save people. If anything God saves us. We can only talk to people about it or better yet they will be curious "sometimes" thru your actions and way of behaving. Somehow "some" people think you have to convert people into your religion or beliefs. Time will tell if your way of practicing christianity with this teenager can either bring him closer or push him away. I think "my personal opinion", sometimes us christians try too hard and sometimes instead of representing the faith we believe in we send out the wrong message. Good luck in your spiritual journey. jemmvli Wed, 01 Oct 2008 18:33:30 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_lead_a_non_christian_to_jesus 559455 im 17 6-0 6-1 how much chould I weigh jemmvli Mon, 04 Aug 2008 23:33:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_it_is 465651 Dave Pelzer jemmvli Tue, 17 Jun 2008 09:41:53 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/a_child_called_it_omg_86544 386931 Wow, a friend is hard to find esp. nowadays. Unless, there is a super duper good reason I don't know why you would end it. Regardless, you will need to give the reason, and then let the other explain and if you still need to end it well then it has to be done. Just like any other relationship leave in as good terms possible you don't a battle to start or you know any type of negative feelings on both sides. Well good luck. jemmvli Wed, 28 May 2008 12:29:03 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/ending_a_friendship 362210 It seems you've had it rough with the drinking, yet there is always hope. First of all moms will always look for the best interest of the child. If you claim sobriety, I as a mom would like to see proof. You lost a lot so now it's time to regain what you have lost. Work on yourself first clean up your act, get the job, go for the child support situation. Make the call to your childs mom and talk. Explain if you wish, most likely she kind of knows but deal with the facts. The child is the most important thing now and kids deserve the best we brought them into this world. Try to start a good relationship with both mother and child even if seperate but it's for the well-being of the child. Children need both parents even if not together. Stay sober for you and for your child. Good luck on your recovery and your life. jemmvli Wed, 28 May 2008 12:21:45 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/comunicating_with_my_sons_mother 362206 Walking away from the problem is sometimes easier, but in the long run it just gets worse. First of all you have to find a moment to talk to her. There is never a right moment so don't go by that, but it does help if both of you are calm. You might want to make a list to yourself so that you can let her know exactly your points of view of the times she has criticized you and how it makes you feel. Keep it short. Let her give you feed back then address her feedback but think before you talk. Because, just like she has hurt you with her words, you want to refrain from doing the same. Put an end to it now you don't want to prolong it further. I'm a mom and I like to hear when my kids have something to say good or bad. Really of course the bad is sometimes hard to swallow, but oh well, have to deal with it. God bless, good luck. jemmvli Wed, 28 May 2008 12:10:07 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/relationships_1575 362201 No, it is not okay to drink christian or not. Ditto what "ethmer" states about age 21. Unless, you've seen what alcohol does to you and to your brain, short and long term then I don't know why you would start. I have seen what it does and "all" the problems it causes my only advice to you is not to keep going. It causes problems in a relationship, in family, financial burden, accidents, deaths, HANGOVERS, and health problems, oh yeah, and if you haven't watched all the alerts on t.v. about day rape when they bump up your drinks then get informed. Sorry, about the harsh words, but it's reality and I've seen too much with the alcohol involvement and they are not pretty pictures. A little goes a long way so just think about it, if it really is worth it. jemmvli Wed, 28 May 2008 12:03:42 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/teen_drinking 362192 Relationships are difficult bottom line. Esp. when two, differ, in beliefs. God doesn't want us to be unhappy, thru the christian faith you can only talk to people about God yet, we can't and don't convert anyone. If you truely believe in prayer, well, God does work in misterious ways and you probably got your answer. I've been in a relationship over 18yrs and my husband does not have the same beliefs as me, we have two kids and I can't say there has not been problems but, that's just how it is. He won't ever change my mind about God even though he does believe in Him he doesn't go with us to church or practice what I do,but, I'm not even dealing with that part. I try and practice my faith as best I can without making other people uncomfortable incl. him. When he is curious of anything well I answer and he doesn't mind. In your case most important of all weigh the good vs. the bad OF the relationship itself and see if it's worth it, to stay in it. Besides the religious part of it what else is there? Just keep all your answers in mind and think it through. But, yeah keep in mind long-term because, that's where it'll make the difference. jemmvli Wed, 28 May 2008 11:53:10 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/did_i_do_the_right_thing_107 362182 You've been given many websites. So I will only respond to the forgiveness part. Anything and everything "wrong/sinful" is only between you and God. Whenever, you ask God to forgive you He does. He knows the desires of your heart even before you address them. He just wants us to acknowledge that we have done bad stuff. I truely admire the fact that you are seeking Jesus Christ it says a lot regardless of your situation, keep on going don't let anything detour you from this. I am a mother also and I could never imagine serving as an obstacle between my kids and God. Life is hard as is and yet more difficult without God. If you believe, you will find Him. God forgives and forgets He is like that. Sometimes "we" ourselves dwell on our wrong doings more than we should. That can also prevent us from searching for God. Thinking we are not good enough or because of what we have done. God wants us as is, He will take care of the rest. Don't get discouraged, good life to you. In Isaiah 44:22 I have swept away your offenses like a cloud, your sins like the morning mist. jemmvli Tue, 20 May 2008 12:49:11 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_can_i_do_5082 354124 Awww!! Cute baby, I feel you. I raised 5 and still have 3 at home. Soon to be grandma in June 15, approximately, and Yesss, I am so excited. For me babies, kids, children are IT. The reason to keep going, regardless of the gloomy days that we as adults sometimes have to confront. The unconditional L.O.V.E. That's what my kids mean to me. Thanks for sharing all. jemmvli Sat, 10 May 2008 00:27:02 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/ok_to_read_even_if_you_are_not_a 343001 OOps clarifying my statement "So, try to put a stop now, but when your mom is not angry" but, when your mom is not angry. Last thing you want to do is fire things up. :) jemmvli Fri, 09 May 2008 14:40:03 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/my_mom_hates_me 342466 Agree with "nothingness". Running away is never the answer to anything (it can also set a pattern for how you live your life later on). I happen to know some young kids that have done it, and all they did was go from home to home, and things just escalated from there. Sometimes mothers/parents can learn from their own kids, I have. I understand the name calling can be unbearable, and yes confront your mom, BUT don't stoop down to her level. Obviously, name calling is not a sign of maturity, no matter what age. There might never be a right moment to talk to your mom, but at least try, (you'll get your emotions out). I've been in your similar situation, and those words leave scars. So, try to put a stop now, but not when your mom is not angry. Try to stay positive and yes you'll soon be 18yrs old, but try to learn from the bad to convert it into good esp. if you plan on being a parent someday. Good luck to you. jemmvli Fri, 09 May 2008 14:36:16 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/my_mom_hates_me 342463 A Child Called It The Lost Boy A Man Named Dave My kids incl. myself read them, yeah they are very sad and tragic. The great thing about everything now is his adulthood. He's a public speaker and he was at one of my kids school a couple of years ago. Can't even imagine a mom like that so unreal. jemmvli Thu, 08 May 2008 21:22:28 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/a_child_called_it_omg_86544 339931 I don't agree with abortions for obvious reasons to "me" I have kids and regardless of the hardships we've gone thru I thank God they're here. 'AND' there is so much contraceptive these days, there is no excuse, come on people. It's ok for you to be annoyed, frustrated esp. if you think it's not right, but then again there is not much you can do, that's reality. She's made up her mind up already, for worthless, irresponsible reasons, but it's her choice. Now, the only other thing is, is she really a friend you want keep?, if so, you can only give her your point of view and maybe stand by her, when she falls, because as far as I've heard people that have had these abortions live to regret it, unless they are life threatening situations,rape,incest or whatever reason, but in any case it's not up to you to make her choice. Try not to personalize her problems into yours, that will just make you very unhappy. If you want to continue being her friend and it's worth it to "you" then, just be there to be a good friend, maybe give advice to her until her ears turn red, but then advice is just that, an opinion or point of view, might be taken into consideration or not. As is your friend already has issues,"having an abortion, to be able to drink and do drugs"?,wow, that's a valid reason. I agree with some of the above, hands on solutions are way better than criticism and trying to make people perfect. jemmvli Wed, 07 May 2008 15:11:15 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_do_u_feel_about_abortions 338589 This website is great it has a healthy eating section, it's all about recipes and healthy eating. allrecipes.com jemmvli Wed, 07 May 2008 01:22:17 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/anyone_have_any_good_healthy_recipes 338060 Hi love bug, I agree with many above, stay focused, you sound like an intelligent girl, it's unfortunate you've had such rough experiences at such an early age, but GED is I good and way better than nothing. I never got my GED, I was expelled and lived to regret it, reality is nowadays you won't find a very good job even if you graduate. Many employers want college too. So take the time out of school and use it to your advantage. In this country the sky is the limit, don't get left behind. Good luck on all you do. jemmvli Wed, 07 May 2008 01:16:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_u_think_about_dropp_out_s_please 338059 (1)"If your not living yout life the way you want then your not living!" yall are "dumb" obviously you dont ge tthe question especially Koolish "Im saying if your working just to live your not living at all your jsut surviving Techniacally you are living but you have no life" COMMENT: (my thoughts only) I usually never repost another answer to the same or similar question, cause now you changed it. I'm not even bothering with the new revised question. Just need to let you know that when you post something, whatever question in a site like this your giving people permission to express themselves towards what they believe and understand as far as your question goes. Question number one is different from your clarified question/statement number 2. Calling people dumb is not nice, esp. singling out anybody. I've lived too long and try too hard to do good unto others soo please don't call people dumb, when we're only responding to whatever we understood as far as your first question was (or actually let me speak for my self, I don't appreciate being called dumb). Thanks. jemmvli Tue, 06 May 2008 15:57:21 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/if_your_not_living_yout_life_the 337553 Hello, I feel bad that you are feeling this way. I have a daughter about your age she went thru much of how you feel now. All I can tell you is, I know it's hard but try writing your feelings out in a personal journal. Whenever you have these type of feelings just go into your room and write things out. Eventually when you get a chance to read over what you wrote, you yourself will start to understand. It probably sounds like too much or even weird but it works, trust me. I grew up this way also, very lonely and with literally nobody to talk to. Back then parents didn't believe kids had a voice so everything was very hard, my dad would beat up my mom, he was a drunk person and there was a lot of termoil growing up. If you have at least one good friend that "listens" without criticizing then talk to that one person. Growing up is hard and I truely hate to hear that there is so much pain within familys, but unfortunately there is. Hang on and one day life will get better, just don't give in to any bad thoughts, or temptations it never helps out. Well if anything you can funmail me. I have big ears and I'm not judgemental. Good luck to you. jemmvli Tue, 06 May 2008 15:23:24 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_do_i_feel_this_way_163744 337538 If your not living your life the way you want then your not living! Over 20 years ago I would of probably agreed. Thanks to living life the way I wanted I got hurt more than once and messed up more than once. Without me making this a religious answer even though I do believe in God, I am christian and trying very hard to to keep my answer short. I have 5 kids 3 of the eldest all above the 19yr range have tried just like I did live life the way the wanted, but thanks to my own "life" experiences I managed to get control of the situation before it got worst. Sometimes within the teenage years we feel that people, esp. parents are depriving us from happiness. In my case I've just wanted the best for them. I could see that they wanted to live life. Now they're at an age where they can pretty much do whatever, but yet they have structure in their lives, one is in the military, the other one is starting a family, and my son is in his second yr in the university. So please believe when I say that living life the way "you" want is not always the best. If it would of been up to them, who knows what would have become of their lives. These kids are very strong minded individuals, I guess they got that from me. I don't think anybody plans out to live life without living it to the fullest, but many times you have set boundaries within you. What is life to the fullest to you, is it the parties, drinking, dancing, reading, swimming, doing charity work, what? Depends which way you gear I can say I have lived life to the fullest, the way I wanted it and I chose to have structure and commitment. After my low back spine surgery I stopped planning ahead, I even tell my friends that I refuse to look into/at/for the future, I take day by day as it comes. Every day when I wake up I thank God for a new day. I try to do my best with people that are around me and of course my family and my 5 kids. I don't take life for granted. I try not harm those around me and if I do I will always try to mend things before they escalate. Sorry this is long, hopefully you read through. jemmvli Tue, 06 May 2008 04:58:57 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/if_your_not_living_yout_life_the 336949 --ty "I think the treat 'Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You' should be up there too, I definitely think it's important and it's too bad a lot of people dont follow it. We might have less hate spewed speeches if they learnt to really follow what the bible says..." (Unfortunately, this is true, sometimes, fellow christian members act in a way that scares off even a believer in God, but then again, speaking for myself only, I go to get the good things out of my christian faith. I try really hard to do unto others as I like done unto myself. After all my life is less than perfect and every day is a learning process for me. Thanks all your feedback helps me to become a better person. Esp. more sensitive to the diverse ways of feelings/thinking.Whatever your journey is in life I hope in the long run it works out for the best, peace, love, joy, happiness to all, life is to short to live it any other way). Matthew 7:1- Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. For others will treat you as you treat them. (Greek reads "for with the judgement you judge you will be judged")And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying. 'Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye.' when you can't see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend's eye. jemmvli Mon, 05 May 2008 21:56:54 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/the_ten_commandments 336787 If there is a god will I go to hell? Really easy to get sidetracked here, everything is so interesting, no doubt that every mind is a world of it's own, (no offense intended). If your asking in biblical terms here is something of what the bible says: Matthew 7:21-28 "Not all people who sound religious are really godly. They may refer to me as 'Lord,' but they still won't enter the Kingdom of Heaven. The decisive issue is whether they obey my Father in Heaven. On judgment day many will tell me, 'Lord, Lord, we prophesied in your name and cast out demons in your name and performed many miracles in your name." But I will reply, 'I never knew you. Go away; the things you did were unauthorized.' (or unlawful) "Anyone who listens to my teaching and obeys me is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock, Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won't collapse, because it is build on rock. But anyone who hears my teaching and ignores it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will fall with a mighty crash." After Jesus finished speaking, the crowds were amazed at his teaching, for he taught as one who had real authority--quite unlike the teachers of religious law. I believe there is a God, therefore, only God will be the judge of that not man. He doesn't want us to believe in Him because we fear Him, but because we love, respect, and trust what He offers us. through faith. jemmvli Mon, 05 May 2008 15:26:52 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_will_happen_3365 336477 Wow. I'm putting my hands in hot water, hope I don't get burnt. "MY" personal opinion is, (after reading through all the comments) somehow something so nice and beautiful turns into a debate. "I" choose to believe, in God through "FAITH" and due to many of the statements above, I only witness to people that ask or I feel will benefit with an "open heart/mind". I can understand as weird or logical as it may seem, both forms of thinking, way of living, believing,not believing, doubts, questions it all makes sense. We are all humans with choices, therefore, we cannot make anybody understand or believe in what we do esp.when it comes to christianity), afterall, God, Bible, gospel, etc., it's all complex. To my christian friends all I can say is "life itself is a battlefield" and to all my non-christian friends "life itself is a battlefield". I rather make friends than enemies. I choose to respect whatever you believe in and keep you as my friend than to make an enemy because of my choice of life. Somehow we all have a purpose in life let's just make the best of it. For us believers in a higher power, let God be the judge not you or I. Only He knows the time and place. I really don't like confrontation, not even when it comes to cyberspace. Please don't personalize above, these are merely my thoughts and opinions. Thanks. jemmvli Mon, 05 May 2008 14:03:32 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_do_you_have_against_christians 336392 Hello, copy and paste to your browser http://www.movieweb.com/gallery/PGut8uxx2yGJxB jemmvli Fri, 02 May 2008 10:24:49 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/can_anyone_find_me_a_picture_of_smell 333219 Los Angeles, California $3.81-$4+ depends where you run out of gas, :), Thanks "amblessed" I wasn't aware of that sight, pretty sure it will help me. jemmvli Thu, 01 May 2008 15:37:45 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/gas_prices_10999 332411