FunAdvice Advice from: jaytothemie14

Re: What's wrong with my diets?

jaytothemie14 — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 18:50:52 -0700

Okay, first of all..fad diets DON'T work No matter what anyone says, those pills and such just don't work. Second of all, being anorexic doesn't work..it makes you gain MORE wieght everytime you skip a meal because your body goes into "hybernation mode" meaning it stores all the fat to live off of because it needs the calories. Cutting calories isn't going to work either unless you are eating the right foods and exercising. Diet can't be the only thing that you are doing. You HAVE to exercise to lose the weight you want. So, diet and exercise combined will provide the look you desire. If you are truly serious about losing weight by August 10th, I can't see you losing more then 10-15 pounds by then. But you'd have to completely STOP eating "fatty" and high sugared foods, and try going on a 1200-1400 Calorie Diet. It's enough calories a day to keep you healthy and keep you burning fat. If your schedule is hectic or going to the gym is impossible, then just go jogging or even walking for 20-30 minutes. Or just go swimming. Do something that gets you off your butt and exercising. Eat FRUITS and VEGES like they are going out of style. They are Packed with vitamins that your body needs and are very low calorie. Keep a journal of all the things you eat, and it will help keep track of not only your progress, but your caloric intake. Lastly, make sure to drink 8 glasses of water a DAY. It will help you so much. ((TIP: 1 bottle of water=4 glasses of water)) If you are serious about losing this weight then GO FOR IT!! Good Luck! and remember, although this will get you healthier and more fit, you are beautiful and you don't need to change for anybody.. But if this is for you, then more power to ya! <3Jaymie

Re: How do I hack into my own Myspace?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 10:25:32 -0700

Well, the only way to get into a myspace account is to give the email address and it will send you your password to your email address {you know that}, and since it's your dads i would say, when you have some alone time, to have the password sent to your dads email, and then hurrily check it and delete it. I wish there was another way to do it , but there isn't.. ((believe me, I've locked myself out of an account before too :D)) Just make sure that if you do get it..write it down, or change it something that you will easily remember..I hope I helped

Re: How can I gain some muscle?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 10:21:42 -0700

So, basically just follow this formula: More weight+less reps=muscle Meaning that if you weight train with more weight and you do maybe 5-10 reps (repitions) then you will gain muscle. It's not going to happen overnight, and you may experience sorness the day after, only because the muscle is developing.. You also have to go on a good diet, because the fat can just develop right back on. So, make sure to eat lots of vegetable, fruits, and drink a LOT of water.. Preferrably about 8 glasses a day ((HINT: 1 bottle of water=4 glasses)) So, good luck and if you ever need any help, try joining a gym, or working out with a friend..as they say, 2 heads are better then one

Re: How can I lose enough weight to be confident?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 21 Jul 2007 10:15:36 -0700

okay hun.. It doesn't matter how much wieght you lose, if you are not comfortable with the way you look to Yourself..then you will NEVER like the way you look. You could lose 50 pounds, but if you don't change the persona about yourself that you have, then you will just fall into a black hole of body image. You should just know that HE IS INTERESTED. Meaning he likes you for YOU. It doesn't mean that if you lose 20 pounds that will like you more. You need someone that will truly like you for what you are on the inside, not on the out..because the out can change with time..the inside is YOU..and you should never change who you are for anybody.. If you are serious about losing wieght for YOU, then try eating better (meaning eating more fruits and veges and less cake and ice cream) and jogging every day for 30 minutes.. Believe me, losing weight isn't that hard, you just have to have the initiative to want it. But, like I said, you have to do it for yourself and not some boy that you hardly even know.. otherwise, you'll never feel good enough..and a broken spirit is harder to put back together.. I wish you all the luck <3jaymie

Re: What are sunburn remedies besides aloe?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 15:34:18 -0700

Keep your skin as moist and hydrated as possible. A thick and rich lotion that soaks into your skin and locks the moisture in is best. Drink lots of water too. Noxema also works for an immediate cooling feeling. Keep using aloe, it's the best stuff! Hope I helped <3

Re: How can I curb my eating and calm my cravings?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 15:30:31 -0700

Well, you can't ALWAYS give in, but if you deny your cravings, then you will end up bingeing later on. Since you have been bulimic, you know how that hurts you, and that you eat a LOT of bad foods, and then just throw it up. Well, since those days are over, you have to put ALL of that out of your mind, and focus on good things, or you might end up spiraling down that black hole again. Whenever you have a craving, try eating some fruit. Because it's sweet, that may take the focus off of the unhealthy food, and satisfy your sweet tooth. Like I said, every week or so, you can indulge in a peice of chocolate, but don't say no every time, or you may overeat. Try exercising too. It really does help. Every time you are really bored, try going for a walk, because sometimes, we eat and crave out of being bored. I'm glad you saw the error of an eating disorder, and that you got out of it before it's too late, because some of us aren't as fortunate. I lost a really good friend to anorexia. It was very sad, and it's always nice to hear when girls wise up these days Good luck, and I wish you only the best. <3jaymie (if you ever need to talk, I am here along with many others)

Re: How should my Mom change her hair?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 15:22:43 -0700

If she wants to go blonde, then tell her that if she is willing to maintain it every couple weeks, then go for it, if not, then I'd stick with highlights, because especially the first time you dye it, it fades out QUICK! especially in the summer. Now, it's smart that she is going to a stylist, because the only way for her hair to actually look blonde and not orange, is to get it professionally done. I don't know what your mother looks like, so I can't say what I think would look best on her. All I can say is, cutting some hair off, will help get rid of a little weight, but no matter what, if you have thick hair, then you just do. I wish you both all the luck. <3

Re: Is having a friend with benefits being a bad Christian?

jaytothemie14 — Tue, 29 May 2007 14:56:11 -0700

Although there are no "bad christians" if you know that you shouldn't do things, then don't do them. If you think that you are going to have s*x before marriage or that something bad will arise from this relationship, then I advise you to get out of it this instant. Being a christian is being close to God, yes, but it's also being able to follow his word, and make sure to obey it. If you do something wrong out of ignorance, then God will surely forgive you. In fact, he will forgive you out of love, (like parents) however, if you keep doing something out of pure stupidity, then you need to repent. Don't do something foolish, that you will regret, because God sees everything.

Re: How can I convince my parents that I'm ready to marry at 16?

jaytothemie14 — Tue, 29 May 2007 14:51:05 -0700

hey love. Hon, you are only 16, stop trying to grow up so fast. I mean, right now I know it seems forever away, and that nothing is going your way, and that you should just give up, but I'm telling you to just hang on a little longer. Things will get better. Then, when your 18, and you can finally leave, it will feel so much sweeter to go because of your suffrage. I hope you feel better. As far as marriage is concerned, there are many years in your life to get married. If everyone married the first person they fell inl ove with at 16, there would be MUCH more divorce in this world. Just relax. Enjoy being a kid, because it doesn't get any better as an adult. Hope I helped <3

Re: Wu-Yi tea or Oolong Tea or Wo- long tea?

jaytothemie14 — Tue, 29 May 2007 14:45:36 -0700

http://www.amazon.com/Foojoy-Wuyi-Oolong-Long-Tea/dp/B0008IVVYI This website might help. It has many types of tea It's actually called Wuyi Oolong Tea

Re: What are good outdoor activities for your legs, thighs and butt?

jaytothemie14 — Tue, 29 May 2007 14:37:53 -0700

Below is a list of outdoor (and some indoor) activities to keep you active and the ones I've starred are the best for your legs, buns, and thighs *Aerobics *Bicycling Circuit Training Rowing *Stair Step Weight Lifting *Basketball Boxing Football Frisbee Golf Gymnastics Handball *Hiking *Ice Skating *Martial Arts Racquetball *Rock Climbing *Rollerblade (inline) *Rope Jumping *Running cross-country Softball *Swimming *Tennis Volleyball *Walk Water Skiing Water Polo rafting kayaking I'm sure there are more, I just gave you some ideas.... Hope I helped <3

Re: The Bratz Movie.

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 17:03:10 -0700

It's comes out August 10th I believe

Re: The Bratz Movie.

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 16:59:58 -0700

The story is about four teenage girls Jade, Sasha, Cloe, and Yasmin ready to grow apart because at their new high school, the nasty head girl Meredith says they have to be in a clique to survive. When the girls Yasmin, Cloe, Jade, and Sasha end up fighting between their groups, they decide to make their own group - the Bratz - to overrule Meredith and to show everybody they have the right to be anyone they want; it's based on the dolls that all little girls like.

Re: Should they make a vagina thermometer?

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 16:27:30 -0700

I'm not sure. I mean, if you wanted to perhaps try and persuade someone to make it, more power to ya! As for me, this subject is a bit too...interesting for my taste, so maybe you should talk to someone who is a bit more scientific about possibly making this contraption. <3

Re: What do you do if you have loads of problems?

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 12:37:18 -0700

I'm sorry that you are having problems. If you want to ask me private questions then you can funmail me. Also, you could confide in a friend that you trust, or maybe a teacher or counselor. Please, if you need to talk to someone, please contact me. <3 My name is Jaymie

Re: What's a good caffeine-free tea?

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 12:34:25 -0700

http://www.adagio.com/herbal/herbal_sampler.html This is a website all about tea... Hope I helped <3

Re: How can I convince my parents to let me party all night?

jaytothemie14 — Mon, 28 May 2007 12:32:37 -0700

Well, if you are untrustworthy, or irresponsible then, they are probably not going to let you do anything. Plus, you are a girl, and you can get pregnant, so parents are usually more leniant to boys because they can't get pregnant. lol Plus, it depends on the parents. If you prove yourself responsible, caring, trustworthy, and capable of making good choices, then they won't need to worry that you aren't doing something stupid. Sometimes, it doesn't matter how responsible you are, they still won't let you out. It just depends on you and the parent. The best way to ask your parents, is to sit either both, or the one you can better communicate with. Calmly tell them that you feel that you should be able to go out to a party. Make sure you say A party and not just PARTY, because it sounds better. Then, tell them about some of your reasons; (ex: your grades are good, you have a job, you help around the house, sports, clubs, anything that you are responsible for) If they still say no, then well, you are just going to have to deal with that. You can't change anybodys miind, but you can help persuade. If they won't budge, then just wait until you are a little older; I know it's not what you want to hear. But it's the truth. By you getting defensive and saying "But everyone else gets to" makes you sound immature and pretty stupid actually, but saying "okay" and then trying to prove to be MORE responsible is the only way to gain their trust. Hope I helped and Good Luck <3

Re: Does walking or jogging burn more fat?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 26 May 2007 16:27:26 -0700

to burn fat, you need to either walk or sprint but don't jog. Even though jogging might burn more calories than walking, jogging works your muscles while walking and sprinting draws energy from your fat or glucose storage... I can't remember.

Re: How many pounds must you lose for people to notice?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 26 May 2007 16:10:47 -0700

It really depends on the body type and how much weight is being lost, and where. . More or less, if you lose up to 15 pounds YOU should definatly see a difference. Who cares what other people see? You should just be happy that you lost that weight. Hope I helped <3

Re: What's the best way to slim down for summer?

jaytothemie14 — Sat, 26 May 2007 16:07:43 -0700

Firstly, I'm sure your boyfriend already thinks that you are amazingly beautiful...and that's dandy if you want to show off a new bikini, but don't worry about what he thinks, because I'm sure he thinks the world of you, and that your gorgeous. :D However, if you want to lose some weight, that's fine too... SO, basically, diet and exercise are the only sure fire way to lose the weight you desire, and be sure to keep it off... DIet: don't be scared. It's not one of those fad diets, or skipping meals, it just means, that you should cut some sweets out of the picture for a little while. Eat sparingly, but don't deprive, because that can cause you to go on a spree, so you CAN treat yourself to a little chocolate her and there. Exercise: Join a gym, buy an exercise tape, or take a class with a friend (they are fun). If you are a little strapped for cash, then just do exercises at home. 3-5 Days a week; 30 minutes a day. http://www.fitnesstrainerstogo.com/cardio/ (this is a good webpage for at home cardio) The best way to tone your hips, glutes, and thighs are lunges. They are the BEST workout for them...but you have to do a LOT of them. http://exercise.about.com/od/lowerbodyworkouts/ss/lunges.htm (good webpage about lunges) Lastly, situps are the best way to tone abs. There are many kinds of crunches and situps. http://www.the-firm-body-sculpting-system.com/the_sit-ups.html (good website for situps) Hope I helped and GOOD LUCK <3jaymie

Re: Am I over the edge with my issues?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 25 May 2007 16:10:03 -0700

First of all, losing weight will not help your mental image of yourself go away. No matter how much weight you lose, you will always think of yourself as fat if you do it the wrong way. You are probably beautifull and just need help to see how beautiful you really are. Weight loss, is a looong process, and anorexia, is not the way to do it. it's just a system of killing yourself very slowly. When you don't eat, your body gets "mad." It instead of getting the nourishments it needs from the food, start taking it from your body. So, it starts eating away at you peice by peice, until your body can't function properly anymore. You lose your period, you have no more body heat, so you get cold all the time, your hair falls out, and then you can possibly DIE. Life is a beautiful thing, I don't see why you wouldn't want to enjoy it, because once you become anorexic, it's all you sleep, breathe, and think about. You obsess over your weight so much, that you become afraid of food. It's horrible. I feel bad for anyone that feels like that is their last resort. Diet and Exercise are the only way tot lose weight. Not a HUGE diet, but cutting some of the sweets out of your diet can make a difference, Eating chocolate sparingly and exercising about 3 days a week for 30 minutes will have you losing weight in no time, Running, walking, jump roping, joining a gym, an aerobics class, an exercise tape, anything that gets you active. Drink a lot of water, and try to stay away from sodas. and like you probably know, when you don't eat, your body stores the fat in your body so that you won't starve, so if you ever decided to start eating again, your body would gain weight like crazy. Diet and Exercise are the only ways to KEEP the weight off that you've lost. Hope I helped and Good Luck (any other questions please let me know, I work at a gym) lol :D <3 My name is Jaymie

Re: How can I fix this awful salon job?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 25 May 2007 15:55:18 -0700

First of all, if you weren't happy with the first results, you should have told her...because sometimes when you complain, they will fix it. The thing is...you might have to just strip your hair of ALL color, and try again with the blonde color again. I remember going into a salon, they tried to dye my hair red, and it looked ORANGE! I was so mad, I went up to the lady, and demanded that this wasn't the color that I paid for, and that I am not going to waste $100 on a color I absolutely hate. So they redid it, and I loved it. Don't pay for something that you didn't buy, or that you don't like, It's stupid to waste money. Hope I helped <3

Re: Should I stay or move and escape my controlling Mom?

jaytothemie14 — Fri, 25 May 2007 15:51:00 -0700

That is going to be entirely up to you. I think you should ask yourself that question...I mean parents are going to be controlling, that's a fact. I am a National Honors Society student, good grades, same as you; I don't drink, do drugs, or any of that, but my parents still treat me like I am a bad kid, and feel like I need to be locked up because I am inadequate to their standards, or that I am incapable of making proper decisions on my own. I'm not sure. Parents are just weird that way. Try talking to her and telling her that you are unhappy with the way that she treats you. It may or may not start a fight, but if she's anything like my mother, she might take it the wrong way. Don't fight, just CALMLY tell her your standpoint, and if she objects, then you decide what you want to do. Techniqually, you can't move out until you are 18, because she can call the cops and have you sent to Juvenile Hall (yes, you are still considered a juvenile), so don't run away. Just suck it up for the next 2 months and then make your decision. Good Luck and I hope I helped P.S. i'm not telling you what to do, just merely suggesting...

Re: Why aren't my breasts the same size?

jaytothemie14 — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:52:07 -0700

I read somewhere that most women have one a tiny bit bigger than the other, but that it gets less noticeable as you age and develop. Unless it's like a full cupsize difference, then you may want to consult a physician about it, it may be bigger due to lack of hormones. I am not sure. Hope I helped. <3

Re: Why is my child's deadbeat dad winning in court?

jaytothemie14 — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:47:41 -0700

Sometimes when the case is shown more effectively in court, it can have a more everlasting impression on the judge. However, if the father is not paying child support and he owes, then legal action should have been made against him. I couldn't tell you why he won the case, that is all decided in a judge or jury's head, so I sympathize with you, I know what it feels like to lose something so big and feel cheated, but if he still owes you, then I say get him for it. I hope I helped <3