http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/hayley_james123 en-us Hi again Sorry but I just don't agree that answer from Courtney! Research has now shown positively that the ratio of 'big' boob men to 'small' boob men actually numbers about 50/50 (in much the same way that about 50% of women may like a hairy chest on a man while the others don't!) Remember that the big boob obsession tends to be a teens and twenties boy thing because boobs in girls of that age group are still a fresh novelty. Boy's of that age are far more personal and vocal too on this supposed preference and do respond to peer pressure which unfortunately often involves indulging in some strange and bizarre male bonding rituals I.e. usually making appreciative noises of the 'Weh-heyyy' and grunting variety every time a bouncy female passes. However, the more mature men like the girly youthful and pert look. Also many men detest fake boobs because they are hard and cold compared to normal breasts (-something the surgeons won't tell you!). The reason that lady says men all love her boobs is more likely to be due to the fact that her confidence increased if she had a boob job and so she's now also probably dressing to show them off! Therefore she will be attracting the 50% who like big boobs. So what? You just work on the other 50% that like small boobs-that's your market girl! Remember Debbie Harry? - EVERY heterosexualmales number one female fantasy in the late 70's and beyond. She had TINY boobs, but I never heard the boy's complaining! I'm afraid that the earlier answer does sound rather smug as if written by somebody whose just bought herself a pair of 'big boobs.' If you're still concerned try weight training in conjunction with high fibre foods and protein supplement drinks. Over a few months you can gain several inches this way and they'll firm superbly and 'lift' right up too! Good Luck. hayley_james123 Mon, 25 Feb 2008 03:39:10 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_make_my_boobs_bigger 236141 P.S. Always ALWAYS wear an underwired bra. One of my friends had a complex for years about her flat chest -but had been wearing bras with only elastic under the cups! One day she bought an underwired bra and hey presto -boobs appeared! So take heed, if you don't wear underwiring you will appear to be about 2 cup sizes smaller than your actual size- and big breasted girls who make the same mistake will look dove-chested. hayley_james123 Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:47:08 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/beauty_or_boobs 148332 P.S. Always ALWAYS wear an underwired bra. One of my friends had a complex for years about her flat chest -but had been wearing bras with only elastic under the cups! One day she bought an underwired bra and hey presto -boobs appeared! So take heed, if you don't wear underwiring you will appear to be about 2 cup sizes smaller than your actual size- and big breasted girls who make the same mistake will look dove-chested. hayley_james123 Fri, 30 Nov 2007 04:45:45 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/beauty_or_boobs 148331 Here's a trick often used in the TV world. Buy a decent blusher or powder brush of medium thickness and then with bronzing powder or blusher apply a 'V' in your cleavage. This makes it look deeper and so creates the illusion of fuller breasts. Also, buy a front-fastening bra. This will pull the breasts together slightly, making them look more ample -and always make sure your bra straps aren't too loose or your breasts won't lift up fully. Try wearing braces ( American forum members please note, those are what we Brits call those elastic attachable straps which hold trousers up!). -Because they go either side of the breasts and then in again at the waist, they give the illusion of an hour glass figure. Try teaming up the effect with a high waisted black pencil skirt which will draw the eye to the bosom. Try to get into the habit of some weight training with dumb bells as discussed in other answers on this subject, because you can boost what you've got just by expanding the pectoral muscles. Also try weight training and stomach crunches to keep the waist trim. Everyone's obsessed about making their boobs bigger-but don't seem to realize that very often it's having a relatively small waist which makes boobs look bigger in the first place. It's the breast -to -waist and waist- to- hip ratio that men usually find attractive, not just full or big boobs to the exclusion of all else. Good Luck. hayley_james123 Wed, 28 Nov 2007 05:29:20 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/beauty_or_boobs 146296 Ref my reply of August the 9th. The actress whose name I couldn't remember and who I think would be a great inspiration to you is 'katy Jurado' who appeared in one of my fave films 'Trapeze' with Burt Lancaster, Gina Lollobrigida and Tony Curtis so do look up an image of her on the web -and try to catch the film too! Would love to see a photo of your new look when your confident enough to show us! hayley_james123 Fri, 24 Aug 2007 07:44:38 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_can_i_look_beatiful 89813 P.S. to my 6th of August Reply: If you don't feel quite ready to dispense altogether with your black eyeliner- then why not do what I do and add a little black to the outer corners of your eyes 'only' for some subtle definition to your new bluey-green and aubergine look? hayley_james123 Fri, 24 Aug 2007 07:29:44 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/fresh_look 89808 Hmmm... I suspect that your husbands roving eye is probably his problem as much as anything. Affairs to a man are often not always so much about physical attraction as the need to conquer and reintroduce some excitement, especially if life at home has become a bit routine. Having said that though, as someone who is very dark haired myself, I know that after a certain age it can weigh you down and look quite hard, so firstly I would suggest having masses of red or gold highlights put in and maybe grow your hair a bit, then have it cut into a nice bouncy, modern style. It will take years off! Shape and define your eyebrows with tweezers, by plucking stragglers from UNDER the brow only. (Shapely, arched brows give a flattering lifting effect to the eyes and give a face it's character. Your eyeshadow will also then go on smoothly too). Now I would say to go and treat yourself to a makeover at your local beauty parlor. Explain that you want to learn some makeup tips and techniques YOU can do at home. (She will also do those eyebrows for you if you prefer). It's important to get into the habit of spending a little more time on your personal appearance each day. 5-10 extra minutes in the bathroom each morning should do the trick. Try to get OUT of the habit of wearing jeans, sloppy- joe jumpers, sweat shirts and trousers. They're so unfeminine. Instead, go for some nice modern skirts and blouses in uplifting colours (Men love 'red' on a woman). Maybe there is a friend or member of your family who will come shopping with you and whom you can trust to give you an honest yet positive opinion of what suits you? Also why not buy yourself some sensuous underwear so you feel lovely 'underneath' as well? 90% of this is about your lack of confidence you know. If you don't have anyone who can help you go shopping by the way, then look at yourself honestly in a full length mirror (preferably nude) and notice your own 'good bits and 'bad' bits so you can play them up or down accordingly. I can highly recommend any books on Eve Fraser's facial exercise routines, so do look up some of her books on Amazon. The muscles of the face are it's scaffolding and so they benefit from toning and firming in exactly the same way as the body does. Many women would look better immediately if they would only learn how to walk properly- I.e. shoulders back , tummy in, elegant 'gliding' steps and head up. I know that high heels are a chiropodists nightmare but do try to wear them sometimes at least. You will look and feel so feminine and they will shorten your steps slightly which is also creates a more attractive walk. You know, there's an actress whose name I can't remember who used to appear in many of the old Hollywood films. I can find out her name, and get back to you because I really think you could pattern your look on hers. (She usually got typecast into Hispanic supporting roles. A very striking lady). Finally, I know your husband's behaviour has probably dented your self esteem but please remember to smile. It makes people look instantly 50% more attractive - promise! Here's wishing you a fresh start. hayley_james123 Thu, 09 Aug 2007 04:37:11 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_can_i_look_beatiful 81571 Aaarrrggh! So sorry that I suggested you were about 14! ( Bad mistake I know -but it's so hard to tell from a photo). The good news is though, that this means you can be a bit less restrained with the make up. So why not play-up those eyes with an eyeliner pencil as well? Show everyone youv'e 'arrived'... hayley_james123 Thu, 09 Aug 2007 03:25:52 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/am_i_bad_looking 81567 I've answered a couple of questions on 'small boobs' before, but there are two things (no pun intended!) which it might interest you to know in the meantime. One is that -here in the UK at least -plastic surgeons are reporting a drop in the number of women requesting boob jobs! The fake look is losing it's appeal it would seem and apparently the knowledge that women can just go out and 'buy ' a pair means that paradoxically, men are beginning to value small boobs for their 'scarcity value'. So be ready. The fashion pendulum is about to swing the other way (as it always does eventually). The second thing is that psychology experts agree that 'big boob' men are usually 'mummies boy's' (and many big-boobed girls will tell you that their former boyfriends were classic examples) while guys who go for small boobs have higher testosterone and sex drive. I don't know how small you are but if you're still hell-bent on having bigger boobs you may like to consider weight training as answered to the question on another page "Please help me get bigger boobs. I'm only a freaking 34a" hayley_james123 Wed, 08 Aug 2007 15:11:25 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_make_my_boobs_bigger 81195 You have all the right ingredients of physical attractiveness. You have that lovely natural appeal as characterized by the kind of actresses you often see in t.v series such as 'Friends'. What you DON'T have is confidence. I don't know how old you are (14-ish?) but I remember that right up til I was about 17 I always seemed to end up with 'best' friends who were brimming with self confidence and were convinced that every boy fancied them, or was 'looking' at them. Such vanity was ironic considering we were hanging out at a Christian youth club -and that one of these girl's was the vicars daughter!!! I began to believe their self-hype and became very reserved in their company and convinced I couldn't compete. These 'friends' were very skilled manipulators and if a boy ever did chat me up would waste no time telling me afterwards how ugly or undesirable he was as opposed to 'their 'suitor who was always 'hunky' of course. It took me years to realize that in their way these girls were probably even more insecure than I was. When chatting later to the male friends who had been in that club at the same time to my amazement they informed me that I had been the most fancied girl there. You could have knocked me over! I'd felt so inadequate for so long, but as my confidence slowly grew I started to be offered photographic modelling and promotional work and even won our local 'beauty' competition which I entered really just for a night out and because I thought it might be fun. So relax, you're worrying unnecessarily. Do make sure you mix with positive and supportive friends though. Experiment with a little subtle make up. A lick of mascara and a pretty coloured lip gloss should be enough at your age and will work wonders for your confidence. Practice a little harmless flirtation. If you like a guy but feel too shy to look him in the eyes when you talk to him a good trick is to focus on the bridge of his nose instead. He won't know the difference. Use his name a couple of times in your conversation or touch his hand or shoulder fleetingly to make a point. If you can't think of any conversation ask him questions about himself. He'll be flattered that your interested, but be GENUINELY interested . People -girls too-will find your warmth very appealing and pretty soon you should see a reaction which will leave you in no doubt of your attractiveness to others. Think carefully about those words you have used in your question though and take heed. Being too 'self-conscious' is EXACTLY that, i.e. being too pre-occupied with yourself to be interested in other people -or in other words, selfish. If you view it that way it will perhaps help you get over this phase in a constructive way. hayley_james123 Tue, 07 Aug 2007 04:04:11 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/am_i_bad_looking 80050 Men tend to like the idea of something that serves a practical 'purpose'. I can't promise miracles of course, but I would say it is a good idea to start emphasizing to your father the security benefits of having a dog, (men are very into protecting the family and safeguarding the home against break- ins) -or maybe you could explain that terriers are tremendous 'ratters'. If he grows vegetables in a garden, draw attention to the fact that terriers are known to be great at catching rabbits too. Gardeners HATE having their preciously nurtured veg destroyed by bunnies! If fitness is important to him, you could also suggest that a dog is a great way to keep in shape as it has to be walked. I think you get the general idea. I think it would also be a good idea to notice when your Dad is at his most agreeable and relaxed before discussing the matter in future. It will probably be after a good meal and maybe a glass of wine, or maybe when his team have just won an important soccer game for example. Perhaps you could strike some kind of deal with him such as if you wash and valet his car regularly for a given length of time or do more than your usual share of errands, he will let you have a dog at the end. Maybe you could arrange for a friend to bring their pet dog around one day and then butter- your dad- up- a- bit -by saying things like "Aaaah look, he really seems to like you", or "You're lucky, you have a natural way with dogs" (o.k. maybe a bit more subtle than that) but just make sure it's a dog you can rely on to play the part, -the last thing you want is for it to sink it's teeth into your dad's leg- I think you could safely say that dogs would be a closed subject after that! hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 16:06:48 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/who_do_you_convinse_your_dad_to_get 79807 Well, if you gage a countries 'importance' by it's rate of economic growth then it's probably no surprise if I tell you that here in Britain they're now starting to teach Mandarin Chinese in some of the schools. Take that -and the fact that the Chinese make up about three quarters of the world's population and I suppose the writing's on the wall. In a few decades it will probably be considered THE most important language, (not that I think many westerners will find it easy to become fluent ...) hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 15:26:11 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/universal_language 79793 I watched a t.v. feature here in England about sign language a few years ago and apparently they are a little different. I got the impression that it's no worse than having to get used to understanding different verbal dialects though. hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 15:16:48 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_asl_international 79791 I heard on a T.V. look-alike / sound-alike show that the make- up assistant had advised a contestant to take Kelp tablets daily to get her hair to grow rapidly. Apparently it worked because her hair grew at about at about 3 times the normal rate. hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 15:09:33 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/my_hair_12223 79784 You sound like a really lovely person whose calling in life may ultimately well be working with animals. I'm passionate about animals too but thankfully it's a family trait so we all felt the same about bringing home injured birds, hedgehogs or whatever. I wonder if your mum would consider meeting you half way on this, and perhaps allowing you to have a small shed outside that you could set up as an 'animal treatment unit' ? (that's if you have the space of course). Maybe someone might be touched enough by your story to donate a shed- or sponsor the purchase of one. Volunteering is of course a good idea, but if there isn't an animal organization located nearby, then why not start a little group of your own? You could always place an ad in your local newspaper or appeal on local radio for like-minded people in your district. Then if you do find an injured animal, even if you're not allowed to take it in yourself- one of your contacts probably would. As your membership grows you could then even set about holding a few charity events such as Car boot sales and prize draws in aid either your own work or other animal charities. If your group wants to become a recognized charity though, you will probably have to get yourselves properly registered to demonstrate your integrity and accountability etc. There should be plenty of advice on the web about how to do this. Good luck. hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 08:36:45 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/taking_care_of_stray_animals_but 79541 Hi- from one blue-eyed gal to another. To enhance blue eyes, use colours which are greenish- blue, bluish- green, or LESS blue than your actual eye colour. Peacock greens and Teal shades are perfect examples. Also try using a soft eye pencil in these shades on the inner rim of your lower eyelid to get the pencil as close to your iris as possible and so amplify your own colour. You will have to pull your lower lid down to tauten the rim while you do this - (also in order to see what you're doing!) Then use the same -or a similar shade of -pencil under the lashes too, in the conventional way. If it's prone to smudge use a fine eye brush to put some greenish eye shadow under the eyelashes first which will absorb any oiliness and give your pencil staying power. Or if you prefer a more natural effect, damson, aubergine, heather and plummy shades will enhance blue eyes and make them look bigger too. Also, experiment with plum colored or navy mascaras which are often more flattering and less hard than plain black. Have fun. Regards Hayley hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 08:00:48 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/fresh_look 79530 My fiance says it's a myth that guys go for big boobs. They're just scared to speak out. All his mates like small or medium firm shapely breasts because pert boobs remind them of young girls and big boobs remind them of pregnancy -and usually sag too! I'm a UK 36b and he 'says' my boobs are my best feature and that his mates all fancy me rotton. (He's not just being kind either. If anything he's prone to understatement!) hayley_james123 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 05:37:57 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/small_breasts 79512 Hi Just for speed, can I refer you to the answer I gave yesterday to a similar question in this section headed "Please help me get bigger boobs. I'm only a freaking 34a". I hope this helps. Good luck Hayley hayley_james123 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 02:45:17 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/b00bs 79040 Just a 'P.S'. to my weight training suggestion on the 4th August. You should only be able to manage 8-10 repetitions of an exercise before needing to rest. If you can do more, the weights are too light. Do 3 sets before moving on to the next exercise. Good luck Hayley hayley_james123 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 02:39:31 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/bbbooo0oobobbbsss 79039 Just a 'P.S'. to my weight training suggestion on the 4th August. You should only be able to manage 8-10 repetitions of an exercise before needing to rest. If you can do more, the weights are too light. Do 3 sets before moving on to the next exercise. Good luck Hayley hayley_james123 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 02:34:47 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/bbbooo0oobobbbsss 79037 Hi Stephy Just a footnote to my answer of the 2nd of August. For a while, you could also switch to using baking soda in place of toothpaste. It has very good whitening and stain removing properties. Also, try this modelling trick and after brushing your teeth, put Vaseline on your finger them rub over your teeth. It makes your teeth look shinier. As you've probably gathered by now Vaseline is a pretty versatile product! Also, I know your budget is difficult, but DO invest in a pair of eyelash curlers. They're a beauty 'must' and will last you years! They're usually about £4.00-£5.00 to buy here in the UK, so I'm guessing that's about $3.00-$4.00 over there (-as long as you don't buy a 'brand name' or go to a swanky department store that is. Just go to a chemist). Some people say to use them after steaming the face, as discussed the first time, or after a hot bath/shower. Others say they're more effective after applying mascara. Just see what works best for you. Squeeze your lashes in the clamps for about 8 seconds and the curling effect this produces will make your lashes look heaps longer and 'open' the eyes right up making them look a lot larger. Finally, going back to the subject of water. When I suggested "2 pints " a day I should have added 'AT LEAST'. A good idea is just to top up a drinking glass whenever you have a pause in the day, and to sip it continually. I think that's everything for now. Regards Hayley hayley_james123 Sun, 05 Aug 2007 02:21:06 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_make_myself_more_attractive 79031 I have no idea how old you are but assume you are in your teens with all the insecurities this involves? If you are then please bear in mind that you may have a lot more growing to do yet. The following advice will not apply if you have not reached puberty (In which case you'd be better advised to go and play with your Barbie dolls). Buy yourself a pair of dumb bells-don't panic -it's a myth that you'll end up looking like Rambo! Manly muscle doesn't grow on women unless they're actively trying to achieve this look by taking steroids and testosterone. Now go to your library / the internet / gym and look up the exercises which develop the pectorals. To weight train you should step- up your intake of high protein foods (fish, nuts dairy products etc). It's also a good idea to take a protein shake one and a half to two hours before you weight train as this will improve your exercise performance and aid tissue growth. You should also increase your intake of fibre foods -such as baked potatoes. You will need this fuel, or else you could end up burning OFF the existing breast tissue, (definitely not what you want !). In fact you should increase your food intake generally -(your body will know what to do with it) but DON'Tt go for sweet things, just good nutrition. If you are skinny you will now have to make a serious effort to get your weight up. (Boobies don't grow on stick insects!) Leave a gap of about one and a half to two hours after eating a main meal (or a protein shake) and before training. Your body is too busy digesting to train comfortably or effectively otherwise. When you train, always breathe 'in' on the easy movement and 'out' on the lifting or difficult movement Much of the benefit derived from weight training is simply because the muscles get pumped up' by the blood vessels opening to feed the capillaries and so the boobs 'stick out' and lift- up a lot more. Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield were weight trainers so that should give you hope! If you intend to stick to a regime, you should gradually increase the weights on your dumb bells over time as the exercises will become too easy as the muscles grow. This kind of exercise is known as 'resistance exercise' and produces relatively quick results. You'll ache a bit at first but should see and feel an improvement after just a few sessions. By following the above pointers and with positive thinking you could see an increase of about half to three quarters of an inch in 7-10 days. If you remain dedicated (ie. over months), up to four inches can be achieved. You should train every other day ONLY though, as your body needs time and rest in between to recover and absorb the benefits. If you stop training, your boobs won't just suddenly disappear but the muscle will shrink back slowly over a period of time. Don't worry - you don't have to be a slave to the dumb bells. Once you have achieved your desired size you can just maintain the results by exercising once a week or so. Another resistance exercise which will achieve these results is the "Bullworker" with its spring loaded, pumping action. (Maybe your Dad, Grandpa, or brother has one gathering dust in the attic somewhere...) Your boobs will also become a lot firmer with these resistance techniques. Swim as much as you can as this also helps. Keeping a diary of your improvement will help you stay motivated. Happy training! hayley_james123 Sat, 04 Aug 2007 16:55:36 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/bbbooo0oobobbbsss 78857 You mention 'timing' and the 'perfect place' yet not the most important thing -the right man! Virginity isn't some horrible disease you have to 'get rid of'. It makes you SPECIAL. Your hormones may be pumping away madly but the maturity takes time to catch up and this is exactly why the law prohibits sex at your age. To make matters worse boys of your age are even less mature where sexual matters are concerned, while the older ones can be very manipulative. You could be very badly hurt. Don't fall for the slime balls who say 'If you really love me you would'. The short answer is 'And if you really loved 'me', you'd WAIT'. You should read a book called "The Rules" which was a best seller in recent years. Can't remember who wrote it but it will put you on the right track on how to handle relationships and how men actually far prefer a 'challenge' because deep deep down they want to be romantic and have a woman worth winning. Do look it up on ebay. I think it will change your perspective. hayley_james123 Thu, 02 Aug 2007 05:43:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_do_you_think_4545 77449 Grab a tomato, slice it open and wipe the inside over your face. The juice contains AHA's (fruit acids)-which are included in some very costly skin creams and remove dull or dead surface skin cells to reveal a nice fresh complexion. Strawberries are also great for this purpose or even mashed then applied as a face mask which - if used regularly - imparts a lovely moon- glow to the complexion. Brush or smear a little vaseline (petroleum jelly) through your lashes every night. It will condition them beautifully and if used regularly makes them grow luscious, glossy and thick. Dab a blob of Vaseline in the centre of your lower lip too for a moist pouty effect. To remove dead skin from the lips rub them all over with vaseline, then rub them vigorously with a hot damp flannel. Any flakes or loose skin will then come away and lipstick will go on smoothly. While on the subject of lipstick, avoid moisturizing ones as they don't stay on and so are poor value for money. Buy a hard lipstick and if you need more moisture just add lip balm over the top. But a tan towel sachet to use on your face. They are relatively cheap (about 85p -£1.00 ) but go for a reputable brand such as L'Oreal. You will have a lovely glow which will last several days and eliminate the need for foundation or too much makeup. Shapely eyebrows completely alter the character of the face so make sure you tidy them up- NOT by plucking them to within an inch of their lives (!!!), but just by plucking away any stragglers, and ONLY from underneath the brow. If you pluck from above you will ruin the natural arch. The added benefit of losing the stragglers is that your eyeshadow will go on smoothly and not in uneven clumps or blobs. If you can't afford much make up, invest in a soft pink or tawny coloured lipstick and then just double it up as a cream blusher. All make up is basically composed of the same stuff. A little subtly applied blusher is always a good idea as it adds sparkle to the eyes, especially if you also put a light dusting at the temples. For clean skin, fill a basin with boiling water then lean over it with a towel over your head for 5 mins or so. The steam will sweat out all the impurities. Finish by closing the pores with a cool damp flannel. After washing and drying your hair, put a few drops of baby oil in your hands and rub it through to the ends. Then put cling film round your head ( or a plastic hood) and run a hot blow dryer all over it. Sounds bizarre -but imparts wonderful condition and gloss. Make your own face scrub using just salt and water. Grab a jar of household mayonnaise and slap some all over your face. Leave for several minutes then rinse off. It's a great face mask. You can do the same with honey too as it's high in antibacterial qualities. If you ever eat avacado's, save the skin then wipe the inside all over your face and leave for several minutes. You will briefly resemble Shrek, but the flesh is full of nutrients and particularly beneficial if you have dryish skin. Buy an Aloe Vera plant. Squeeze the gel out of the leaves occasionally and apply to the skin for several minutes as it makes a great face pack and has wonderful healing properties. Drink masses of water daily -about 2 pints and your skin will feel and look moist, clear and supple in as little as 24 hours. You can always add a dash of lemon or lime to make it less boring and improve the detox benefits. If your hair is thin or fine, blow dry it with your head upside down and finish with a little hairspray underneath too for volume and lift. Hope that helps. Good luck. hayley_james123 Thu, 02 Aug 2007 05:20:05 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_make_myself_more_attractive 77441 Oh dear! We all go through these insecurities don't we? -and it doesn't really help when the predictable cliches always follow i.e. "It's what you're like on the inside that counts". On a point by point basis though, I would say: a) Don't worry too much about the broad back, shoulders and little bum- instead do a little light weight- training to keep the back and shoulders areas stunningly well toned and defined, then walk tall! After all, this 'athletic' frame never did Ursula Andress or Bo Derek any harm (-and many other 'sex goddesses' for that matter...) b) If you are still worried about your small butt, weight training can target this area to create a more rounded silhouette. Skiing also develops bum muscles. Go to your library or speak to your nearest gym instructor for details of helpful exercises. c) Hula hooping is a great and fun way to trim a waist. It's probably not purely coincidence that when the craze was at it's peak in the 50's, women's waists were trimmer than ever. I would also say to keep noshing bran flakes and fibre foods such as jacket potatoes, as this will keep the bowels regular -N.B. because if you are a little constipated this WILL unfortunately bulk out the waistline, Also drink loads of water as it helps you digest your food far more easily and flushes through the surplus calories. Live yoghurt will also reduce any bloating around the middle. Avoid eating supermarket biscuits as I believe they often contain a particular fat which is prone to settle on the waistline. You would probably only form a constructive opinion of your body by seeing a photograph of yourself alongside other girls of your own age, so don't be too hard on yourself. Also, mirrors vary enormously. Remember, you are only 15 and your body is developing in different places at different rates. Your butt and hips may not yet have burst forth in all their womanly glory! Finally are you quite sure you are dressing to flatter your figure type? Start using optical illusions with appropriately striped or patterned fabrics etc which will draw attention away from the bits your self conscious about. Then just enjoy your amazon body! A fit frame will always be considered attractive so go for it -and good luck! hayley_james123 Thu, 02 Aug 2007 04:13:51 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_hate_my_ugly_fucking_body 77430