http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/gothik My name is Rob, I'm a substitute teacher, I work at wal mart (hoping to be a manager soon), and a technology intern for a technical school. The kind of advice I give is usually in 3 specific categories, sex, love, dating, and mostly related to that area, and I've noticed alot of people are either afraid to ask those questions in the forums, so my advice is dedicated to instant messaging, and private messaging on FA. I am not on most of the time, and for that I apologize, but I work alot, that's my excuse. Here's a few ways to contact me if you'd rather talk to someone 1 on 1 instead of some random people's answers in the forums. AIM : kingsoa7620 Yahoo! : darkelf7620 MSN : kingsoa7620 If you ever want a quick opinion about anything, let me know or ask another one of FunAdvice's advisors for anything you might need help with. Have a great day! en-us I like a girl to be strong and independent. I don't like it when they constantly say "I'm ugly, I'm ugly, I'm fat!!" etc. etc. Because if a guy accepts you for who you are then there's little or no point in complaining if he says he knows (or thinks) your beautiful, pretty, hot, sexy, etc. I like a fun lover, animal lover, and someone who is assertive. But out of all of those things, I like to be with someone who can just be themselves and not pretend to be something they're not. I would rather live in a relationship that we both don't have to change for each other for the sake of the person they are in the relationship with. Being yourself can lead to many possibilities, and great happiness. gothik Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:17:16 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/guys_please_answer_191378 432917 Give him something he might like, if he's into golf then go play put put with him. =) Things among this nature will help you have a stronger relationship with your boyfriend, and it will be a fun activity. gothik Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:11:16 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_have_no_idea_what_to_get 432905 A good man says cuddle, if that's what they start with. As long as they cuddle, they wait for you to make the first move. That's when you know you have a good man. gothik Sat, 28 Jun 2008 00:17:24 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/when_men_say_cuddle 401860 Well, since the internet uses HTML in most cases, and (I suppose) Funadvice doesn't support HTML or any other font style changes, you can't change it. But that's just for funadvice, things like Myspace or whatever you can change the font with HTML modes. gothik Tue, 11 Mar 2008 20:57:46 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_do_i_write_in_diffrent_on_myspace_6258 260211 Not all women hate men, I would say women who have had bad experiences, or sexist women could have a say that all women hate men knowing that it is completely a false statement. I know plenty of guys that would give up everything they have, and give their soul to make someone they care about, happy. They don't even have to be in love with that person, just have to at least care about their existence. Saying ALL women hating ALL men is VERY insulting and VERY stereotypical. Most men in America generally have a pride issue because we are spoiled, but we can also say the same for some women, even though most women are generally more prone to be considerate towards other people's feelings, but it doesn't mean they have the right to say men are worthless, they hurt us, and they beat us. It's not true, maybe for some men. But this is another way of saying guys that treat girls wrong, would be called an Asshole, as attractive as they can be, and as easy it is to fall in love, then hurt someone, one of those guys would hurt that girl emotionally, physically, or even spiritually. It's not ALL guys, but more of the CHOICE of guys, if a girl is attracted to a jerk then it's her fault, she can't blame ALL guys for her taste in men. As a guy, I am proud to say I would NEVER hurt a women if I didn't know her, and I am very formal with my greetings if I want to know someone, man or woman. In my mind I don't think: I want to get in her pants. Because I know it's wrong, and I considerate it a negative thought, so I shouldn't think that way since I'd rather be friends with someone that can be much more meaningful, rather than be a jerk and oggle her breast all day when she's talking. I make a difference in my life by being as good of a person I can possibly be, and I will help anyone, race, color, sex, or background, if I believe that they deserve it. If they have given it their all and are still struggling, I would do my best to help that person. And when one woman says "We women don't understand men" that only goes for a hand full of women in the world, not all women, so it too, is a false statement, since some women can understand how guys function mentally and emotionally. For example, if there are 500 women, and 500 men, and none of them know each other. One women says "Women hate men." that would mean all 500 women hate men, but since everyone is different it's impossible, you don't know those men, so only a fool could make that assumption, how do you know there's not a guy in there that could be the best guys in the world in that little pool of men? You don't. Since in reality terms, I don't know 500 women so I don't hate all women, most women don't know 500 men, and even if she did, how could she hate all of them? If she does, they are either co-workers and they all hate each other, thus hating their co-workers and not men or women as individuals. Another example. You go to the mall. You see women, you see men, right? Do you hate them only because they are men, or women? (If yes) You hate someone based off their sex is a way of being sexist, so most people would think your opinion is pointless. (I personally am neutral with all that stuff, but the general public wouldn't care, that's how society is with personal opinions.) (If no) Then your good to go, you can meet these people, and you can figure out if that guy, or that girl is worth your time. But it's like I said before, if you've got a bad taste in men or women, then your going to be with those kind of people for the rest of your life unless you change your preferences a little bit. - Gothik gothik Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:20:55 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/men_and_women_3850 254047 I believe most, if not all birds release genes and they don't have a penis to insert in a hen. (I suppose) A rooster would hop on top of a female, shank her, and get off, you wouldn't see anything though since they don't have a penis, they just release a fluid of their genes into the female. If I remember what I saw on the animal planet that's about right, or I could be totally wrong. ^^; But I have confidence about that answer. gothik Sat, 01 Mar 2008 19:57:52 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_do_chickens_mate 245263 Gay people are the same as straight people, however, people that are against the idea of gay marriage are usually closed minded Christians or homophobic people. I am a Christian, but at the same time, I believe everyone has the right to be happy, and in what position are politics or large groups of Christians to say that other people can't be happy? Some people marry for love, which is good. Some marry for lust, some people think that's bad, others think it's ok, and others think it's good. A gay couple who get married, they would marry for 1 of those 3 reasons, and why not? If a married fails with a man and a women, how come a married that could happen and be successful be between to gay people? There are rights in this world, and they shouldn't be taken away just because of a religion. Gay people can be Christians, God gave them the ability to reason and to have free will. So in the TRUE Christian belief, ALL people deserve to be happy if they can make it better than a couple who can't stand each other. Christians, or any other religion that believe gay people shouldn't get married is just like saying they do NOT deserve to be happy. I might be a Christian, but I also believe in happiness, and that everyone should have a chance at it. gothik Sun, 24 Feb 2008 20:08:11 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_do_ya_ll_think_about_gay_marraiges 235742 Just be confident, be yourself, show the employer you want to make something of yourself if your hired, just be sure to dress nice too. Lip rings are accepted by some jobs, like Hot Topic, Spencer's, or something along those lines. gothik Sun, 24 Feb 2008 19:49:08 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_please_gah 235705 Those situations are just considered the luck of the draw. Good guys are sucked into the idea of a "hot" girl and being with them, they just hold on to that idea and it can hurt them mentally. Bad girls don't deserve good guys in my opinion: Because good guys that are honest and true, and worth more than the appearance that they sometimes give off. (Take a look at me lol) But like I said, these situations are just the luck of the draw, they can leave each other, and get on with their lives, but it's just a cycle. gothik Fri, 22 Feb 2008 19:26:58 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/bad_girls_good_guys_why 232528 The best way to find the right person for you is to be yourself. No guy, not even someone who is famous can deserve someone, if they only accept who your pretending to be. The people who are worth your love, are the people who will love you for who you are, not for what you are, or what you want yourself to be. gothik Wed, 20 Feb 2008 16:41:27 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_can_i_get_a_bf 229658 Drugs will kill anyone, and any relationship. You can do 1 of 3 things. 1. Accept his habit and ignore the fact that he can go to jail for it. 2. Leave him before you dwell on this subject any longer thus hurting yourself. 3. Try using force to get him to stop, not physical, but mental force, as in, why do you have to smoke weed? Why can't you be happy around me without smoking weed? If I don't mellow you out, and weed does, then it's over | Would you choose me, or all the weed you could smoke, what would it be, and be careful over the answer, because both of them, will make you lose something. If you decide to use that last statement - If he says You, then tell him to stop, or it's over. If he choices weed, well, leave him. If he hesitates, walk away from him without saying a word and wait for him to call you. When it comes to drugs you can't have sympathy for someone, otherwise they will continue doing whatever it is that they are doing. It's one of the worst habits a human can have, I wish you the best of luck. gothik Wed, 20 Feb 2008 16:38:16 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_us_save_our_relationship 229654 Your come* comes out of her vagina? Well, unless you want to get her pregnant, then it can be normal, all she has to do is push your semen out of her vagina. It's like how a guy pees, except... No pee. ^^ gothik Wed, 20 Feb 2008 16:29:41 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_it_suppose_to_come_out_after_sex 229643 There's more than just 69, there's also a 68 position. =P My favorites are scarf, riding the face, and Eve's Ecstasy. want to know more? Fun mail me. - Rob gothik Tue, 19 Feb 2008 21:12:33 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/blow_jobs_332 228551 My opinion? Moan, if your enjoying it, smile, lick your lips, just enjoy it as much as you can. Ideas to make fore-play interesting - Blind fold yourself, this way you can focus on the pleasure instead of thinking about what to do, since your eyes are covered the guy can focus more on fingering you. Want more info? Fun mail me. gothik Tue, 19 Feb 2008 21:00:57 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/getting_fingered_1034 228531 Well, there are stories, such as the one about Moses and the Ark, I saw on the discovery channel that there is an ark in cased in Ice in some mountain on the Applilation Mountain Trail I think that's where they were filming, you could see a giant boat shape, and they could chip pieces of wood out of the ice. That's some proof I guess, I'm a Christian, but I am not hardcore about religion. But you asked, I supplied. - Rob gothik Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:53:38 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_there_a_god 228519 Try different ways to masturbate, search for websites that can give you tips and so on. I can give you tips since I've researched pretty much everything dealing with masturbation, sex, and so on. Send me a message if you want me to explain everything to you, if not, I can just give you a really good website to learn from. - Rob gothik Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:42:49 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/masturbating_3451 228502 In a slang term, that's about the correct term to use. gothik Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:09:11 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_does_it_mean_for_a_guy_to_eat 228478 Just tell her you weren't ready before and you were scared, let her know that your ready to be in a relationship and explain your feelings to her in great detail. Be respectful. gothik Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:27:28 -0800 220164 Well since you've gotten that far, just ask him, he might say yes. You'll never know until you've tried, just try to test his feelings first if you feel a little lost in your thoughts. Example: Try doing something very thoughtful and kind, if he expresses a lot of gratitude, and joy that is aimed directly at you then you might have a clear shot, otherwise, no. Just try asking about his feelings first before you pop the question. gothik Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:24:51 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/this_guy_40351 220159 Try massaging your clitoris, it's located under the folds of your labia, and it's snuggled next to the hood of a vagina, you might have to work at it to really get it out since it's hidden. But then again, some girls have exposed clitorises, other's have hidden ones, but when most girls are sexual 'turned on' their clitorises will swell up and become more sensitive. Some girls use their clitoris to masturbate, but can always go to education websites about safe and healthy masturbation, if you'd like to know more, send me a funmail message. - Gothlem gothik Tue, 12 Feb 2008 18:50:42 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_do_i_give_myself_an_orgasm 220109 Depends on someones preferences, some people like anal stimulation, others don't. Some girls do, and some guys do, it is all about their personal preference. gothik Tue, 12 Feb 2008 18:37:48 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/anal_masterbation_7686 220092 If you know who raped you, then tell the police. They can take care of you. No one deserves respect if they won't give younglings a chance at life. gothik Wed, 06 Feb 2008 16:36:52 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_can_i_still_feel_it_happening 213312 Depending on the situation, yes. Your only 13 years old, you have a lot to life for and you shouldn't be depressed at all. You live basically for free and you can do almost anything you want without serious consequences. Taking pills won't work, and talking to a paid 'therapist' won't do much since your so young. This is something you should do on your own, just focus what you think is good for you, think about yourself, love yourself and your friends. At least you have a mother and a father that love and care about you. If you look at the world around you then you will notice that there is so much that you could do to be happy compared to people in other countries that don't have families, moms, dads, a place to call home. So let's consider you lucky for the moment and be happy with what you have already, know what I mean? Just try to focus on what's best to make your life better, don't be sad, just because you can. Be happy for yourself, and because you can. Don't let other people let you down, because your never out. Don't let life grab you by the throat, if it does, then you'll be sad. Be happy for the fact that you can live another day to see the sun, hear birds, and see new life spring around you. Your 13 years old, and there's so much in our world to explore, enjoy it while you can, we can't learn everything in a single life time. Good luck. gothik Wed, 06 Feb 2008 16:35:34 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_really_need_an_answer 213310 Why would it be awkward? ^_^ Try calling again, if he doesn't pick up just ask at school when he's alone or when no one is paying attention to me. Don't write a letter to him with on of those yes or no replies, just ask him verbally to make a point, it will entice him to say yes since your showing how serious and brave you can be. It could happen. =) gothik Wed, 06 Feb 2008 16:24:33 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_need_help_with_a_guy 213298 Just be respectful, find similar interest, try to match his personality and surprise him every now and then, but if you do flirt, make sure his girl friend isn't around, I usually don't recommend flirting since I am the kind of person that wouldn't disrupt a relationship that's already active. Just be considerate, if you end up telling him how you feel, always assume he doesn't feel the same way, reason for this - it helps you numb yourself emotionally, which for most people can be a good thing. gothik Wed, 30 Jan 2008 18:46:59 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/boy_problem_7414 205897