http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/funnyman en-us My advice would be to let her live out the mistake, and make sure that you are there to help her get on with it after the eventual break up :) Unfortunately, permanent long distance relationships don't really work - but, if she moves to see him that is a prett strong commitment. >>>re: your point about him being good looking Just because a guy is 'good looking' doesn't mean he will even have a *small* chance to cheat. Aside from that, to many men (myself included) the very idea of cheating is apalling - it violates the trust that I believe is a part of the foundation of love that is sure to last. I digress, though. What YOU need to do, is to get a love life of your own as well :) If you had that, perhaps you would be here asking how to make that better or ~best case scenario~ you'd have a perfect, blissful relationship and would be consumed by that. (only kidding) Good luck with your friend, and above all, let her know you are there for her if & when things crash down. Perhaps next time, she'll listen to you? funnyman Mon, 26 May 2003 00:24:36 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/my_best_friend_wants_to_go_out_of 72 Thing is, being a guy, he's going to be upset for a while. Give him some space, tell him that you respect that, and are willing to wait. Show that you are committed & interested, if you still are, in a meaninful long lasting relationship. Yes, you cheated - but it's not like you are married, and the relationship had only been just getting started again. The history does make it complicated, but just be open & honest about it. He'll be upset, but over time if it *is* meant to work out, he will forgive you and things will work out. If it's not meant to be, try to remember that cheating so early in a dating relationship is a good way to break a guy's heart, and not leave him very trusting of you. Rebuilding that will be hard - but, if he's worth it to you, that is what you have to do. funnyman Thu, 22 May 2003 23:39:23 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_do_i_do_after_confessing_i_slept 70 Talk to women. Get them to notice you. Make them smile. If you can get them to laugh, even better. After they laugh, try for their phone number. If you get that far, ask them to dinner. Spend some $$$. Make them see you as a confident guy - one who is going places, taking on the world. If you pitch yourself that way, and be friendly with enough women - trust me, you will meet a nice one eventually :) funnyman Sun, 18 May 2003 13:18:13 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_am_still_a_virgin_boy 68 Pick up lines. I'll tell you what, back in the day, I said anything that came to mind. Seriously. Sometimes, I got an 'ok' reaction, and sometimes, I got looks like I had horns & a tail. :) When you just want to meet women, say hi. If you want to date them, suggest it - don't say it. If a girl that you say "hi" to is interested in doing something, it's usually easy to figure that part out. Attitude helps - if you present youself as something good, you'll be perceived that way. If you present yourself as a 'dork' then you might look that way. Be honest, smile - that helps, and I've found, if you can get them to smile - it helps even more. After that, well - I'm sure you can figure out the rest. funnyman Sun, 18 May 2003 13:15:26 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/pick_up_lines_how_to_start_a_conversation 67 Quite a story, it seems like you have been dwelling on this for some time. Giving that much energy to a relationship you are unsure about, at best, and hasn't worked out so far - might not be the healthiest thing to do. From a pragmatic perspective, with all that has happened and the infidelity, it seems more than likely you can never trust him to be faithful to you. Aside from that, you need to figure out exactly what you want from a relationship. Then, once you have in mind what you want, try to achieve that. Don't settle, because you will never be truly happy that way. It's good to get adice on something like this, but if you want him to stop calling - tell him, in no uncertain terms, it's done with. And let family or friends know what is going on, as well. Then if he calls again, tell him that you will get a restraining order or what not. Good luck with it. funnyman Sun, 18 May 2003 13:09:31 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/cheating_lieing_boyfriend_i_know 66 You are a moron. want to go treat your wife like dirt, know that you are doing wrong, and you ask about it in public? What kind of @#$@# wad does that? Sheesh. Listen up, man, I'll say this 1 time and 1 time only. Don't cheat on your wife, get a divorce or tell her that you don't think it's working. This 'fantasy' you have concocted, about the woman at work liking you, is just that a fantasy. Even if she *is* attracted to you, do the right thing and talk to your wife. If you got married, and love her, then what happened with your relationship to your wife? Why do you suddenly think that this other woman would be a good thing for you to have, even if you could have her? Sure, there are woman that are attractive out there, even if you are married, but if you really *loved* the woman that you married, then you owe it to her & yourself to figure out first what's really going on with that relationship. Of course, it's a whole different story if your wife is OK with it...that'a different topic altogether though :) *grin*. funnyman Thu, 10 Apr 2003 23:07:23 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_on_my_wife_why_not 17 Well, first I'll say, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING? Why on Earth would you let a woman control your life like that? I can think of little else that is so dumb. Get real. You need to regain yourself respect - don't deal with this woman again. She's very bad for you, if she made you spend all your money. It's partly your fault too - unless she had access to your bank account? If not, then you really need to learn to stand up for yourself, have some dignity, and don't let another woman boss you around. funnyman Sat, 05 Apr 2003 20:01:12 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/first_love_took_me_for_40_000_how 14 People need to get real. I mean honestly, in this day and age, objecting to any kind or even implying that interracial relationships are not cool are not thinking. I've been around the world and seen this happening more and more, in every country: people having relationships with others that aren't from the same country / culture / heritage - it's all the same. Now, I could repeat some rude stereo types - but those are just that, silly stereotypes that some people have, and people need to overcome their objections to what is new / different / not representative of one particular group. It's a funny thing, the way people can act. However, enjoy your life, enjoy your relationship, and perhaps someday, every boy will learn to be happy & peaceful. funnyman Thu, 03 Apr 2003 00:24:50 -0800 http://www.funadvice.com/q/interracial_dating_problems 8