http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/flirtygirl en-us There is nothing wrong in feeling the way you do. Your boyfriend is older, so maybe he is more experienced, or maybe he is just really adventurous! When he says that you do nothing to him, he needs to be more specific. After all, you are not a mind reader. You are new at this. It should be fun, for both of you. He should understand this. Do not have sex if you are not ready. If he loves you, he will understand. Just something I may have picked up on the side..maybe there is a reason you are afraid? Was there something that may have happened to you in the past? A bad experience? If so, then I suggest you talk to a counselor. There may be some underlying issues. Find a counselor you like. If this is the case, don't be ashamed. There is help. Good luck to you. flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 09:04:30 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_don_039_t_know_how_to_do_it_without 1177 What makes oral sex great is first of all, being with a person that you love. You love them, you want to make them feel AWESOME! Here are some tips and techniques that should help you: 1. RELAX-remember...this is the "appetizer"..so don't feel like it's gotta be wham-bam. 2. Read her body-sometimes you need to ask a woman herself what really turns her on. Every woman is different. 3. Don't dive in head first..take your time...a little kiss here..a little flick of the tongue there 4. ABC's-spell the alphabet with your tongue on her clitoris. Do CAPITAL letters if you want, but small case letters...whoah!! 5. Blow lightly on her clitoris, go easy though. Be careful not to blow air inside her body. That could be deadly and cause an embolism. Just stay on the outside with your breath 6. Nibbling is good..just listen to her body..movements, sighs.. If she's not liking it..trust me...she'll let you know. Good luck and happy munching!! flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:50:17 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/giving_women_good_oral_sex 1176 It is sad really, you say you cheated on him before you were married to him. There was no trust in this marriage from the start. You and your husband should have discussed this issue before you were even considering marriage. You see, your husband does not trust you. He may never trust you. Trust is a foundation that marriage is built on. I can't honestly say I blame him for not trusting you. I'm sorry, but that is the truth. I think that counseling for the BOTH of you is your best bet. He may not want to go, but if I were you, I'd let him know that your marriage is in jeopardy. After all honey, you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with a man who is going to punish you and resent you for something you did before you were married, now do you? Good luck! flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:37:38 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/husband_thinks_i_039_m_cheating_and 1175 Retrogret...if you respect your wife...you don't get a nice hotel room, or dinner or anything with another person. It's not the end of the world? Damn close to it. You should say out of the Holiday Inns....there is life out there. Get your own man. flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:17:08 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_on_my_wife_why_not 1174 I agree with you 100% Who says women aren't smart!! you go girl! flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:11:35 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_on_my_wife_why_not 1173 Here's what I think- You and your wife have been married a long time. I have been with my husband for ten years now. You know each other..too well. It's so predicatable that you can hardly stand it. This other woman, she is unknown, exciting, stirs feelings inside you that you thought were in a coma. The thrill of it all. The fantasies, what you would do if this or that happened. It's exciting, it makes you feel young. REALITY- you are both married. If you do this you SHOULD have tremendous guilt. Once you have done it, you may regret it. You'll want a clean conscience and you will end up telling your wife. How will she feel? Like she can never trust anyone in her life. The man that she has loved for "x" amount of years has betrayed her. She will look at the world with scorn and hatred. You could lose all that you have now in a messy divorce- and the children...what will they think? All for what, really? flirtygirl Mon, 06 Sep 2004 08:05:14 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_on_my_wife_why_not 1172