http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/dkara en-us X's blame things on their X-GF's because then it means it is out of their control. No, it is not your fault that your X started drinking. He chose to do that. He's the one that obtains the booze, it's his arm that lifts it, it's his mouth that opens to swallow it. Perhaps he's hoping to make you feel guilty or maybe he is saying you caused him to drink so he will not have to work on himself. He can think what he wants, just don't you believe him. dkara Wed, 16 Jun 2004 09:51:48 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/could_i_have_contributed_to_my_ex 920 That's the thing. Only a doctor can tell you with any degree of certainty what it is. So go to that clinic as planned. I know you are scared, but knowing is better than not knowing. Let us know how it turns out. I'm sending positive vibes your way. dkara Sun, 23 May 2004 17:52:07 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/quot_zit_quot_down_there_is_that 847 Hey Cowgirl! You being a cowgirl must know a thing or two about horses, huh? You know you can lead them to water but not make them drink. You've heard that, I'm sure. Well, the same goes for you. Your BF can push, but it's YOU that decides to do the stuff. As for your boobs, do you advertise them? Wear skimpy little tops, low cut, no bra? He'll look for sure. If you aren't trying to call attention to them and it bothers you, then say something. Redirect his gaze to your face. Like "Hello! Usually people look others in their eyes when they answer." As for does he like you for yourself? Be yourself around him and time will tell you. dkara Tue, 18 May 2004 16:37:31 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/pleaze_help_me_i_039_m_lost 825