http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/destiny28 en-us I've been there, more times than I'd like to count. The truth is you never do get over him. He will never leave your life or your heart as long as you hold onto it. That's neither good nor bad, it just is. It doesn't matter if it was six months, six years, six decades, love is a tricky, powerful emotion. The important thing to think about right now is your new relationship. Is this new boyfriend making you happy? Or is there something lacking in him that makes you think of a former love? Maybe you've spent too much time in relationships and not enough time on your own? Sit down, write out or think of all the good qualities your ex had- warning- you may end up crying. Then make another list, the qualities you didn't like, and believe me, there will be a few if you truely give it some thought, no one is perfect. Then make a deal with yourself; that you will not enter into a serous relationship with anyone who is lacking the qualities you desire most. Don't settle for second best and if your ex truely was the "one" life may bring him back in some way, or it may not and you will be grateful for the experience. But don't force that. Right now, focus more on you and what makes you happy, advance yourself, try new things, keep busy. Don't feel guilty when that pang hits you, feel it for 60 seconds and then move on. That way when Mr. Right does roll around, you'll have a lot to talk about. Chin up! destiny28 Mon, 03 Oct 2005 15:39:59 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_me_get_over_my_ex 4116