http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/anonymous_coward en-us Why not spend the money to make the rest of your lives really comfortable? Take a few trips around the world. Do something different and interesting with your lives. Then you can just leave the house and furniture for all three of them to fight over. I can see you now just laughing it up with your husband in heaven. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 12:18:36 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/grown_kids_stepkids_and_wills 356 How you fight is very important. If you just disagree over viewpoints, then that is very healthy. However, if you just constantly bicker and put each other down, get out of it now. You dont want a lifetime of that, do you? anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 12:14:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_we_fight_so_much_or_do_we 355 You sound young. Its easy to fall in love when you're young (sigh). Nothing's wrong with you. But you should temper your feelings, because later in life you are going to be very unhappy about not being enough in love. You are going to question the love of a man who loves you deeply already, and probably drive him away. If someone says they love you, or like you, accept it and move on. In some people, love is slow, and takes time to grow, but when it comes to fruition, its like the sea, slow moving... but very powerful and everlasting. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 12:12:52 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/falling_in_love_too_easily_59 354 In our society today, many men are brought up to respect women and to listen when they say no. (Its true) So your boyfriend is trying to take your feelings into account, and you playing the ever modest girlfriend is waiting for him to make all the moves. Are you surprised that nothing happens? The next time you guys are petting, take off your bra, and ask him to kiss your breasts or something of the sort. Things will move on quite rapidly from there. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 12:05:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/4_months_and_we_039_ve_only_kissed 352 If you really think about this situation, Jon does not see a future with you. And it doesn't look too good with Justin either. Anyone who wants a future with you would have been friendly with your kids. Just think... your kids will be with you for maybe the next 20 years, could you continue with Jon as he wants to now? Something would break and snap because of the kids and your need to make them whole and happy. Think about your future. Yes, relationships are about wanting to feel needed, sex, love etc. But if your lives together are not practical as well, what's the point? anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 12:03:04 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/confused_and_lost_please_help_me 351 Dear True Love Hurts, Well, the both of you are not related at all. Its not like he is your brother, cousin, or other relative. On the other hand, if your mother marries her boyfriend, there could be some sticky questions asked by others. Think about the ramifications of that. How would it affect your life? Perhaps the pressure of what other people think may affect you so much that it would ruin the relationship. In the long run, either you or your mother will have to concede. Because you are younger, tell your mother how you feel about this person, and maybe she will take your future into account if you are really serious about each other as you say. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 11:58:56 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_can_i_do_we_realy_do_like_each 350 You should try not to have a relationship with someone who controls your life. It can be really messy later when your every move is calibrated by someone that you might grow to fear. As for the other guy? That's up to you. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 11:54:44 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_to_know_if_i_should_keep_dating 349 Well, you learned first hand that children can be cruel. When you have a problem that everyone knows about, the young tend to be overtly cruel, and the older ones tend to stare through you like you dont exist, or try to have a fake politeness. I'm glad that you are growing up and people are beginning to treat you nicer. It is going to be hard to find the right person, but love is funny like that... it does not respect what the outer person looks like, true love respects what is inside of you, and one day your true love will come. Work hard and try to make the rest of your future count. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 11:53:16 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/im_having_trouble_meeting_guys_after 348 Stop loving him. Youre young single, and your whole life is ahead of you. Are you going to ruin it because of one boy that does not even love you back? anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 11:49:01 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_need_help_about_my_relationship 347 Lay your fears aside and sit down and talk to her. If you love her show that you do, and explain over and over and over that you are there for her. Women need reinforcement that you love them constantly. anonymous_coward Thu, 12 Jun 2003 11:47:40 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/hot_and_cold_on_and_off_over 346 Completely wrong. Sex is uber, extremely important to a marriage. Especially with young couples. Lack of sexual satisfaction is the thing that destroys many marriages and lead couples to turn to affairs. I'm glad that this person talked to her husband and turned it around. Just talking about things can help so much with everything usually. Good luck! anonymous_coward Tue, 10 Jun 2003 11:15:12 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_have_an_affair 320 Without him, you are still you, you are still a whole person with feelings that you can give to anyone else. And don't do *anything* for anyone. That out of the way... Saying that you love him is not enough. Him saying he loves you also means absolutely nothing. The first step for love is to show each other that you mean it, not by just parroting the words that we hear so much on tv every day. Try to do things that demonstrate your love to each other. Go out of the way to do something different that he would love. Be imaginative. anonymous_coward Sun, 08 Jun 2003 07:33:42 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_need_help_i_039_m_so_confused 279 Then you'll probably never kiss each other. Just grab him and kiss him, but just let it end a that! anonymous_coward Sun, 08 Jun 2003 07:29:17 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_dont_know_if_i_should_be_the_the 278 The average is about 5 inches. Its unlikely that your boyfriend will grow any more. If you masturbated a lot before you actually had sex, then you could have broken your hymen yourself. Also, some women have thinner hymens than others. anonymous_coward Fri, 06 Jun 2003 15:08:34 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/penis_size_and_sex 229 Sure, it would hurt him like bollocks. Have you talked to him about the sex thingy as yet? Maybe his sex drive is low already, maybe he is having an affair also. How about you? Are you turning him on? Are you out of shape? Look at all those factors and decide what to do from there. Some people would come out in a flash and say no way. But sex is so important to human existence that I dont feel that its in anyone's place to tell you what to do. anonymous_coward Fri, 06 Jun 2003 15:04:49 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_have_an_affair 228 So when did you say you are going to stop taking this abuse? anonymous_coward Fri, 06 Jun 2003 15:01:03 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/is_he_just_a_jerk_or_is_it_me 227 Nothing's wrong with mourning for a while. As long as its only for a while, and not for years and years going on. But guess what... you are still alive and vibrant, so you should start to look into getting yourself back on the market again. Live life. Love and respect your friend who died, but don't die too. anonymous_coward Fri, 06 Jun 2003 11:02:32 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/how_do_i_get_over_this 217 Why not check out an online dating service? Many people look down on them, but they are the best, most targetted way of meeting exactly the person you want. Just say who you want, and what you are, and a trove of guys in your area will contact you eventually. I found happiness online too (working on the first baby). Sites to check out are: http://date.com http://personals.yahoo.com I'm sure there are many more too. anonymous_coward Fri, 06 Jun 2003 10:57:09 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/looking 216 Its hard to put out those embers. That's why divorced couples end up sleeping together afterwards. Its the comfort factor that makes people want to stay together.<p> Look at the dark side of your past relationship. Can you deal with the problems that you had before? Can you live with that side of him? When the sex wears off, can you stand him?<p> Sometimes moving on is good. There was a reason why you broke up in the first place. Try to remember that reason and see if it was valid. anonymous_coward Wed, 04 Jun 2003 11:33:22 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/confused_between_2_guys 156 No, I cant agree. But yes, you need someone to love. But ask yourself honestly, is it this guy? Is he going to be there for you? If you can answer yes to that, then I take everything back. anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 17:43:36 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/the_most_awful_man_anyone_has_ever 111 So you're ready to scoop him up off the failed relationship with her? Its a very vulnerable time for him. He probably wants to break up, or she broke it off with him. Most likely he's trying to patch things up right now. Get your head out of the clouds and back down on earth. Move on with your live! anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 16:08:23 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_am_inlove_but_he_doesn_039_t_fell 108 The roumors are probably true. Because he hasn't called you could mean that: a. The truth is stinging him b. He knows its true and doesn't care It is highly unlikely, but remotely possible, that it is not true and he is angry with you and ashamed about it. Regardless... the past is the past. You have to decide what it is you want from him, and figure out if he is going to "settle down" with you and be monogamous for the time that you are together. anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 16:06:30 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/why_is_he_not_calling 107 What do you want us to say? That you are a bad person and you will burn in hell? That you should cheat with him? My saying "I really want to be with", I am understanding that you want to have sex together. If you have no hangups about sex, fuck his brains out and see how it goes (of course, use protection). If you do have hangups (ie. sex is bad, my mother told me!), then leave the bastard. Many people fit in the middle, they just want a little something without hurting anyone else. See if you can make that balance somehow. anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 16:02:07 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/should_i_cheat_or_not 106 Here's my take on the whole thing. You need to get some things right before you get with your boyfriend: > your spelling > stringing coherent sentences together > understanding what the word "coherent" means Otherwise I suggest that you get together with your boyfriend and you both have a good time, get married, have 4 kids, a dog, and a mortgage. Serve him plenty of beer while he's watching football with his buddies, clean up after him and get ready for him with his beer breath and semi-hard penis later. The other alternative, is to do better in school first. Boyfriends will appreciate you better when you do, and you will be less confused! Trust me! anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 15:58:19 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/im_to_damn_confuse_about_my_relationship 105 Him saying "I Love You" does not really mean anything. Saying it only means something when the other person also shows it. If you both are not seeing someone else, then try to get together again. Also, stop the "I Love You" bullshit. I may seem like a cynic, but I love my significant other too. Demonstrate your love for each other and stop saying it so damn much. Tell him that you want to get back together with him and see how it goes. If he's moved on, then cry some more of those tears and move on too. If he's read to give it another try, next time show him how you love him (not just by sex, or the "I love you") by the little day to day things that a relationship makes. anonymous_coward Fri, 30 May 2003 15:52:10 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/i_would_like_to_know_if_this_is_love 104