http://www.funadvice.com/my/advice/4everalchapa en-us LOVE? Love is when you think of nothing else but the one person. When you want to diet so you can look good, when you look at the moon and think what could they be doing? Love is loving that person no matter how poor, ugly he or she may be to others. Love is when the years pass and you still get speechless and can't talk. Love is wanting or comparing everyone else to that person. Love makes you talk to yourself and makes you cry to think you are not the one for him or her. Love is letting him or her go if that is what makes them happy and it makes you sad. Love is wonderful if it is given back but can be miserble if the feeling is not mutual. Love does not stop and you can't turn it on and off like a switch light. When love hits you age has nothing to do with it. 4everalchapa Thu, 13 Oct 2005 16:00:39 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/what_is_love 4277 Okay so it cut off the first part. What I said in the first part was that I was in the same boat I have spent 15 years wondering if I had done the right thing. I loved him so much that I decided I would not look for him after our break up. We too met at a difficult time, he was just over a divorce I was separated and had just lost a sister to leukemia. He had been married to his first wife because he got her pregnant and she used him I too became pregnant and I never told him because I did not want him to think I was trying to entrap him as well. So after we broke up I moved to another state and have helplessly tried to fall out of love with him and tried to fall in love with others only to find out that I have no choice when it comes to love. If you are in love you will soon find out that you do not choose who to give your love to and no matter how much some one loves you you can't love them back the same. We have met again over a year ago when I found out he had been sent away to Kuwait I called his mom and soon he contacted me. As destiny would have it he was stationed in Texas at the same time I had to fly over to Las Cruces due to my moms heart attack. We emailed each other and he got permission to be there for me and we talked about our past and I told him of his 15 year old son and he told me of his plans to marry me back then. Timing is so wrong for us and we can not fix the past so now we live with this mistake. He still says he loves me and I still love him too. When he returns he is going to tell his wife of his child with me and he always says I should of told him back then how I felt. Now I only pray that he makes it back safe and that god will help us all. To this day I could never say yes to marrying the guy I have been with since 1997 and I can't stay away from my ex but I have to. 4everalchapa Thu, 13 Oct 2005 15:41:12 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_me_get_over_my_ex 4276 That cut me off sorry. Anyways we both have strong feelings and agreed that we should of fought harder back then. Now it is too late and very wrong to want to get back together because we will be hurting others like our kids and spouses. Yet I still cry for him like a stupid little teen age girl and he always says he loves me. Don't get me wrong we are both happy in our relationship but we made a mistake back then and now we have to live with it. Don't give up just like that if you love him try to get him back and tell him how you feel if he does not return the feeling than move on. But avoid the long pain of wondering the what if's. Love is not a choice. 4everalchapa Thu, 13 Oct 2005 15:25:57 -0700 http://www.funadvice.com/q/help_me_get_over_my_ex 4275