Young guy needs help badly

Please!!! Read this whole thing!!! I know its long but I need help!!!

Ok so basically here I am, 15 years old, sophmore in highschool etc. Etc. anyways my girlfriend (basically my first I had one in 6th but we never even held so thats more like a...

friendship) is my first love. . . . This is not my question so preferably don't rely on it in answers like oh well first love let it go type of thing, thats not much help. so my question isn't really a question as a general statement I need help with, from other dudes preferably, not because I'm gay. . . Ok so here's the scoop, basically we have been together almost three months, she has had one love before me, her first, and she is my first love. we make-out and all that jazz and that goes as planned, usually, but, I don't know if this is right or not, oh well, we made out last saturday and I usually hold her and hug her and stuff afterwards, more intimate then just a hug btw and I had laid my head on her shoulder. I think she thought I was tired but regardless of the reason, she asked me if I wanted to lie down with her we had done this for like 5 minutes before like a month before. I said yes and we laid horizontally and strecthed and stuff, I was behind her and we were watching a movie btw so I propped my head with a pillow. . . So this is where the first thing I need help with is, obviously it's somewhat hard not to get well hard. . . Is this a problem? like I know that 3 months is too early for sex and stuff and she says so too but like I know it's normal but what should I do about this? anything? Ok well that aside, we laid down again that sunday. I'm not much of the kind of person to do things without asking if ya know what I mean but not in a weird way like from inexperience, I didn't know how to come across initiating a make out session (btw when you make is it like a one time thing or like when she backs away ((she usually does first)) should I pause a little and go for more or what?) like I used to kiss her on the head (because it was on my shoulder) and kind of like kiss her gently and sweetly until she like looks then go in, but one time she said it was way obvious that I wanted to and that I should just do it. so anyways I got that under control (tips are still welcome ) so thats what I mean by asking, I should have said just inexperienced. ok so inexperience the whole thing this is about, I know it just comes with time but yeah. so now on sunday we laid down, and she started to fall asleep when I wanted to make out with her. . .we were laying down the same way as before btw. . . . . So I knew she wasnt completely asleep but when I looked at her face to see if her eyelids were apart and blinking or closed and asleep they were always closed. so I did something that my research if you will said you can do. I gently stroked her ear with my finger because apparently its an errogenus area (?? What errogenus? I thought it meant like full of nerves so something like that. . . . . . ) not much really happened but when I would look to see if she was sleeping or awake, she was awake, until she noticed me looking, then she closed her eyes as though im stupid and/or didnt see her awake and would think her to be sleeping. why does she do this? did she know I wanted to make out and that was her way of telling me no? Or what? So then I started to kind of rub her lips and stuff and she still didnt make notice even though I knew she was awake. . . . . So I did something rather questionable because it felt right, and I wanted to and yea. . . . So since my arm was around her chest, but her arms were between my arm and her chest like she was cuddling up in a fetal type of position, I hope you know what I am describing. so I slid my hand down more paralell to her body and then kind of crooked it at an angle on her stomach, then she strecthed the arm she was laying on, I put my top arm parralell with this one then when she brought it back in my hand was between her arms. I slowly moved my amr/hand down and unclenched my half made fist into a palm, then I laid it over her boob/breast what have you and then started to kind of squeeze and rub gently like palming it. to me it was awesome because that was the first time I had ever felt that. . . Like purposely, but the whole time I was waiting for her to say no or stop and she didnt so she seemed ok. well heres the problem you see, as I started to think, I didnt want her to think that I was trying to take advantage of her sleeping so I brought it up in conversation. she said oh, I didnt feel a thing but I want you to know that im not ready for that because then one of us could get in the mood to make a bad choice she said it was a big step that she wasnt ready for. personally I thought the opposite I didnt see it as too big, and it may lead to that mood but not sex itself necessarily. so we started to talk about it and she said like morals and values fly out the window (were both virgins btw but her best friend had sex at like 13 years old 3 months into it with her first guy ever) so yeah whatever, I know 3 months is early for sex but I didnt think so for that, just touching and caressing more personally parts then the arms lol she also mentioned that the first time we laid down together like that (no grabbing or anything just laying there) she had to use every ounce of energy to fight that feeling im guessing of her being horny. . . . Ok so whatever I was sort of pissed when she said she wasnt ready even for the touching like I thought touching was pretty innocent and just another initimate step but I don't know. . . . . so yesterday we hung out at her house, had a really great long makeout session and flirted around and stuff (didnt lay down) so when I recapped the night with her and how great it was over yahoo messenger she said yeah saturday or sunday we should lay down together and watch a movie in my room(my as in hers) now im really confused. . . . First off, she doesnt have a tv in her room what does she mean?? and secondly, if she has to fight getting horny when we lay down so as not to, but isnt ok with me just grabbing her boob, whats the point of laying down? is she saying ok we can do that? Or is she testing me to see what I do or what?? anyways its thursday night, we are going to hang out hopefully saturday night but for sure sunday afternoon. . . . . So a quick response or a few of them before then would be nice. . . . Ok now just some general inexperience questions. I have noticed an increase rate of growth for my facial and uh other place where there is hair, I know this is normal. . . But my question is what do I do with it down there? Do I let it go completely free? Or trim it with scissors? or shave it completely off or what?? next with making out. I really love her and love making out with her but my question is this. I want to like explore her mouth more with my tongue like put my tongue inside of her mouth and have her tongue inside mine with mouths open just playing with each other's and exploring around. .. . . Problem being is that when we make out, its more like open your mouth a little, meet her tongue with mine, slowly close mouth back off a little, reopen and etc etc. . . . So ther isnt much room for exploring which I really want to do. . . Do I come straight out and say, hey lets experiment and do this? Or do I like just try something?? how should I come across? I have a ton more and I mean a ton!!! More questions to ask but this piece is super long and took me nearly 45 minutes to type up so if you really want to/can help me out email me please!!! Fun mail me

oook wooow um I'm not a guy (I'm a girl) duh! oh yeah too many questions are in my head right now but I wil try to help!! ok so when she sleeping and opened her eyes but didn't want you to know it doesn't mean she didn't want to make out with you it means she was testing you to see what you would do next! and the whole thing about her not being ready for the touching then inviting you to her house to watch tv. in her room with no tv. mean she is ready but girls just like to act like shy and cute oh I'm not ready and everything but really they like to keep the guy curious ( trust me your girl is doing a good job ) lol so maybe she invited you to tell you something about that like maybe she is ready ! oh yeah and I really don't know about the whole hair under there cause well you know I'm a girl but I CAN TELL YOU THat girls don't like tooo much hair so a nice trim with the sizzors wouldn't hurt but whatever you do DONT' shave there HORRIBLT IDEA anywho hope it helped! I did the best I could (if it didn't toobad) and anytime you want to ask the other TON OF QUESTIONS I'll be glad to help!!!

About hair I wouldn't shave it all off because a lot of girls like it a lot more. Something about it beinng rugged but clean and completely unfeminine. Later in a relationship you might find that your girl likes porn stars though. Better to just trim it for now. I never asked Ell to explore, I just kind of gradually did it and gaged her reactions on what I was permitted to do. After a while you'll get better at not getting excited so quickly but yeah I used to get hard every time I made out with Elle and she would crack up laughing and couldn't stop and it would like ruin the whole thing. It was awful but I got over it and after a while she managed to get over herself and stop laughing. About Thursday I have no idea because girls are all different and the only thing that you can really do is tell her to let you know when she's ready to do things. Talking to girls is a lot easier than they make it seem. You can e-mail me with other questions if you have them.

Thanks to both of!! It actually will help me. . . I hope! lol Thank you girlygirl for letting me know that it is just a stupid game. . . because trust me, she can be sooo confusing I swear to god lol. . . uuhhhmmm with the whole game thing. . . you said she is testing me to see what I do next. . . . . well first off should I confront with things that confuse me? Like ask her why she was fake sleeping? Or just keep coming here? or both? and secondly. . . what am I or should I do to pass the test, if you will. And thanks for letting me know the briand it hopefully should/will make me more comfortable around her.

Ok now though, when we hang out and lie down this weekend. . . should I do the touchy thing again and read her or not even attempt it, or should I ask her like tomorrow or something?

Ask when you're already laying down. That's when she'll probably be the most honest. Girls get defensive about that stuff when they're young so don't bring up fake sleeping or she'll probably get pissed.
Good luck

I think you should ask her because girls like honest boys!
oh by the way I'm girlygirl10395 but I forgot my password !

Thank you everyone!!

I havee things mainly straightened out!!! The weekend is obviously over and things went actually WAY WAY better than I had hoped My hand stayed up north and on her chest while we were laying down but it wasnt through the shirt like it was the very first time I tried it if ya know what I mean lol thanks to all

you're welcome!!!

can you sum that whole thing up in a couple sentences? then I will gladly give you my male opinion