Would you have the baby if...

Someone asked me once if you were a person that always wanted a baby and couldnt get pregant and didnt belive in abortions and was rapped and got pregant would you keep the baby and if so would you keep it a secret that you were rapped or how would you...

feel I don't know that a hard question for me that to scary to think about what are you comments on the issue I would like to hear your opinons.

I would keep the baby even if I didn't want to get pregnant...I'm pro-life.

I wouldn't keep it a secret - what happened is done, all there is to do is make the best of it, and make sure that child understands that they were not a mistake or an accident - they were a wonderful surprise that came from something bad.

I speak only for myself, however.

I would keep it too.
It's not the baby's fault.

I agree~ a child is not asking to be born or to be made, something bad happened and your confused and upset and dont know what to do. dont take it out on the baby the baby did nothing. it just simply was made and needs love and care even if it wasnt supost to happen, the child did nothing. it just would want someone who will look past the past and grow to be loved and cared for in a way to make its life better and urs or who ever is preg.

I love your answer it puts everthing the porspective. I peronaly dont belive in aportions but at the same time I am pro choice so I was going back and forth the the quiestion but you nailed if you had said the opposite I also would have sided with you cause I feel you should live your live the way you feel works for you but pesonal would sleep better at night your answer if that happened to me and I had to live with it . thanks for you insight.

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I am Pro-Choice also, but realize that Pro-Choice means that you can also choose not to have an abortion. If a 16 yo that wanted to keep the baby, but had parents that demanded she abort, Pro-Choice would include supporting that 16 yo.

What is seldom mentioned is a third humane possibility - adoption.
The adoption process is convoluted and expensive, and the birth mother can change her mind up to a year later. No wonder people fly to other countries and spend months there. It's cheaper. And if the birth Mom decides that SHE wants the child back after 11 or 12 months, the adoptive parents are helpless. And the baby (who has bonded with the adoptive parents by this time) is unceremoniously sent back.
Make the adoption process easier and more air tight.

And as long as I'm on a rant, make sex education factual and complete (and age-appropriate of course). The best way to reduce the rate of abortions is to fully educate young teens in facts on how to protect themselves - to do otherwise is like giving a 13 yo a loaded gun to hold, and just telling him he is not to play with the gun until he is older and you (maybe) get around to telling him why.!!

I'm sorry all of you may look down on me for this but you make it sound as if being raped is a simpe mistake that can result in something beautiful like a child...

I would have an abortion no doubt about it and im against it but here are my reasons.

1: that baby wasnt made out of love... how can you bring a baby into this world thats a result of something as horrible as rape
2: every time I look at that baby I will think of the mentally sick man that brutally raped me for his own personal pleasure not concidering he could impregnate or possibly infect me and his unborn child
3: what will you tell the child once its old enough and asks about its father? lying would be wrong to the child and against its rights but yet telling the truthwould make the child hate itself and feel like a burden for being born. a mistake. a disgrace

its wrong im sorry but I could never raise a child created through rape.

~I'm sorry all of you may look down on me for this but you make it sound as if being raped is a simpe mistake that can result in something beautiful like a child~

Notice how I said I speak for 'myself'?

I have been raped, and I know that I, personally, have the fortitude to deal with that and care for a child that may come from that, so don't tell me I'm wrong about my decision...it's my decision and you have no right to pass judgment upon it.

I'm pro-choice, fully and I agree with ichi's point that she made about speaking for herself and bimjob saying that pro-choice doesn't mean to always abort.

If I was raped and fell pregnant I would have an abortion.

I never want kids and I would not want something that is *supposed* to be a beautiful experience between two loving adults be a reminder to me of being raped.

But then again, it's my personal opinion. I have no issue with it if a women or girls who takes the choice not to abort and feel that other options should first be discussed before the route of abortion is taken.

I think that you shouldnt abort but if you feel you cant bring up the child then you should put it into the care system before its born because you can always back out if you change you mind, and they will be adopted as soon as theyre born, they will be brought up by their foster parents and you can choose whether you want to se the child or not.
I dont know what id do if it were me but thats an option that no one else seems to have considered
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I wolud keep the baby and just pray that they dont come out looking like thay daddy

Notice how I said I speak for 'myself'?

I have been raped, and I know that I, personally, have the fortitude to deal with that and care for a child that may come from that, so don't tell me I'm wrong about my decision...it's my decision and you have no right to pass judgment upon it.

not once did I say you were wrong in your decision or pass judgement. I was also speaking about myself, MY OPINION... I dont think its right but I have no problem with you being able t deal with this situation... YOU the one passing judgement here

telling me you were raped and strong enough to cope with this kind of thing isnt something you should be throwing at me to prove a point. I'm sorry you were raped I honestly am and im glad for you if you have a child as a result from that but I wouldnt be able to do it and it doesnt make me any less of a person than you are. we all equal no matter what our opinions or out looks on life are