Work and byfriend problems

My boyfriend says that he doesnt want me to work after we gat married , he says that I won be able to handle house work and my job , but im the type of girl who loves working hard and achieving things and being successful , I want to try convincing him...

that I can do both and I know it , how can I do that

Well first of all, he has absolutely no right to tell you that you can or can't work. If you want to work, then that is your choice and it just means that he will have to up his game around the house. The desire to work is something most of us have and if you are somebody who enjoys working hard, achieving goals and being independent, then what right does he have to stop you? If you really have your mind set on working, then you do have to talk to him about it.

Don't be tentative here... The last thing you want to do is remain silent and give him time to assume that you are okay with his 'arrangement'. Talk to him early and just tell him that you are more than a house-keeper and that he has to respect that. More money in the bank will make things easier for your relationship as a whole, so there is no way that this would be an act of selfishness. Speak your mind and don't feel restricted. If he really cares about you, then the whole stereotypical idea of being 'bread-winner' will come second to him allowing you to be yourself and do whatever it is that you want to do.

Relationships are complex, but not everything has to be so difficult. This is a simple matter and this all comes down to the fact that he just has to grow up a little. All of us guys love the thought of coming home to a spotless house and a massage :P, but who's to say we can't get that later, or use the extra money to hire a masseuse, lol? Just ask him to be mature about this and that he should at least give you a chance to prove that you can manage the extra responsibility. I doubt you'd have any troubles there .

thank you very much, that was very well written , I will try everything you said
and thanks again