With violence involved, should the relationship end?

A friend of mine is in an abusive relationship. Obviously, I think this relationship should end. However, she doesn't want to break it off with this guy, but is planning on marrying him instead! He hits her, yells at her, and tells her what to do all...

the time. She asked me to be a bridesmaid, but I don't think I can stand up for them at their wedding. It is getting to the point that I'm thinking of giving her an ultimatum: either leave him and get help, or we can't be friends anymore. Of course, I would let her know that she can always come to me for help when she decides to leave him.
Should I tell her our friendship can't continue if she doesn't get out of this situation? I'm not trying to be unsympathetic towards her, but it is very difficult for me to deal with because I grew up in a home of domestic violence.

if you report it to the police, they have to do something about it. just tell her that it will only get worse and that if he really loved her, he wouldn't touch her in that way. I dont know if it will help her any, but you can rent Enough with jennifer lopez and watch it with her.

I dont know if this helps any, but i hope it does.

If you walk away from her then you are not her friend so dont sit here and say should i walk away because if you were her real friend then you wouldnt give her an ultimatum, friends though thick and thin right. you may be frustrated because she is not listening to you but she will on her own time and on her own. What you have to do is just be there to listen never judge, just say to your friend your beautiful, strong and deserve better and i know you can find it that is all you should drilling in her head and she will wake up one day. More you b*tch about him the more she will stay with him. Dont let her bruises go unnoticed when you see them ask her what happened and tell her dont lie to me, when she tells you the truth hug her and tell her you love her. She needs you more than ever right now so help her by being there. I was abused for 6 years, yes it took me 6 years to leave my ex we were to get married too but it was because he mad me feel un pretty un wanted by any other guy, pretty much he took over me and i needed all that time to regain myself back. She will come around trust me. But make sure you always make her feel as though she is pretty and can get a lot better with out trying. Good luck

See..my mom had a friend like that. She listened, hugged her, supported her. My mom didn't leave until all of her friends and family finally walked away from her--including me because I was the child brought up in a home where the father beat the mother. I don't know what it is like to be the abused woman in that relationship, but I know what it is like to live in that home as an innocent child who needs her parents to be protecting her--but guess what? They can't because one of them is too busy beating the other one. Until that friend stopped hugging my mom and supporting her--until she called CPS after finding out a gun had been involved with me around--until I heard from other adults that I could live with them instead of the abusive parents..it wasn't until she lost everyone but the abuser that my mom finally left him. So I'm not sure I can support this friend. I'll always be her friend, and be there when she needs help, but I can't help her continue this relationship.

well i understand how u feel. if u have done everything that u can to get her out of there then u cant do much more but give her ur unltimatum