Why would I be late?

okay I try as hard as I can not to get preg.We use condoms and spermicide but I haven't had my period since the last week of march and my stomach is normally totally flat and you can see my ribs.Now I've got'n a little fat in the stomach and I'm freaking out b/c I hate thinking I'm going to get fat.I've been feeling kinda like throwing up and I actually did three weeks ago b/c for some reason I ate flavored rice and within minutes it was back up again.I feel kinda sick from 5:00 am to about 1:00 pm.If I'm pregnant I guess god really wants me to have a baby because my husband and I are really safe about this.We can definatley take care of it and I had custody of my 7 month old nephew for 6 months.My husband has a high paying career and we are looking to buy a house right now so that's not the prob.My med hasn't gone through yet and I really am scared to death of labor pain.Is it really bad?I can't even handle my period cramps this sucks.Another question do you think I should stop drinking coffee if I'm preg?

You could be late from stress or a hormonal imbalance. You normally will not be showing signs of pregnancy during your first month. Before freaking out, find out if you are pregnant and then talk about it to a doctor.

I'm not stressed I'm perfectly fine.

The fact that you are very worried about not having your period, getting 'fat', being pregnant and that you are 'scared to death' about labor pains could be considered 'stressful'. This is why my advise to you is to find out first if you are really pregnant and then talk about it with your doctor. I know it's hard to do but try not to worry so much.

Ok I'll try.I live by a store that sells tests but I'm scared of the results.

I know it takes a bit of courage to take the test but eventually you'll have to find out one way or another! The fact that you were extra careful means that the chances a really low. Best thing is to get the doubt out of your mind that way you can move on and deal with it. Right now, you are so scared of the results that you are stressing yourself out. You are in a good situation, you've got a loving partner and the no worries about cash. I know you'll be just fine either way! Don't let the fear eat you up. Things will work out either way.

Ok my mother in law is coming over to give me emotional support.

Ok the test was negative : ) I'm soo relived. But I can honestly say that when my cycle finally came through 8 weeks late that these were the WORST cramps I've ever had!!! I was popping liquide gel ibuproffins for 3 days! I'm just glad that this is over : )