Why is my mom so mean to me?

Okay, this is a long one, but PLEASE PLEASE read it
I just don't get it, my mom treats me like a pile of shit. She expects way to much of me and I noticed that she likes to blame all of her problems on either me or someone other than her. For example,...

she said that she can't keep the house clean because of me and I'm half of her problems. I don't understanf why a 38 year old woman feels the need to blame all of her problems on a 15 year old, why can't she own up and take responsibilty. Even I'm more mature than that, because I'm not afraid to admit that most of my problems are my own fault. She only blames me cause she has nobody else to, me and my lil brother have different fathers and neither of them do shit for my family. I've never even met my father! I mean, my mom is 38 and he's 5 something, he has like 7 kids, doesn't even got a full time job and was on drugs when my mom had me. My little brother is treated sooo much better than me. For example, he failed grade 3 and is now doing it over. We gor our report cards back the other day, and he did alright, but I got all in the 90's!!! My mom was talking to my gramma about how good my brother did and when my gramma asked how I did, all my mom said was, Oh, she did good. and left it at that. I tried so hard to get good grades to make her happy, but I guess I'm a fool for that. She never says anything nice to me and tries to tell me I start all of our fights, when 75 % of the time she does. She's always going on about how great and smart and good looking my lil brother is right in front of me and it makes me feel terrible. I have enough self-esteem problems, I wish my mom would at least try to help, but she doesn't seem to care!!! I feel invisible at home and in school and I'm really a very interesting person, but nobosy will take the time to get to know me, not even my own MOTHER!!! I also don't like how she keeps telling me I'm just like my father, when I know for a fact I'm not, I would never have 7 kids and leave them, you'd have to be pretty low. I've said some nasty things to my mom, but come on!!! She also keeps calling my father ( who I've never met) my Old Man and telling me to go live with him. She also tries to make me jealous by taliing about men that like her and trying on clothes in front of me and making model faces.
Anyway, that way really long, but I really need help and I appreciate it so much!!! Please, help, why is my mom like this and what should I do to stop it? Thank you so much!!!

well you do say that some if it is your fault and maybe you should have a sit down talk with her and tell her how you feel you half to be the bigger person and take it personal about how your mom treats your lil bro better than you it is just because he is younger and sometimes he needs more attention I also suggest that you find one really good friend to talk to when you are stuck also maybe your mom has something that has happened to her thatis really hard and she is just taking her anger out on you just be patuont with her maybe you both can also set a day of each week to go out for a girls day and talk about what ever is on your mined she needs you now than ever because she has a son and a 2nd huosband and maybe she is scared becuase you are growing up and she is scared for when you move out she will really miss you and it probaly is just you grew up so fast so fast that she didnt ever get the chance to tell you how she felt and maybe missed out on doing some activiteies with you becuase of her work well thats all good luck!

I dont why your mom is so mean

but I just thought id let you know I know exactly how you feel
my mother complete strangers and people who have done her and my family wrong way better than me my sister.

so just know your not the only one with a mom like that

TALK TO YOUR MOM TELL HER HOW YOU FELL SO SHE KNOW BUT IF SHE DOESNT LISTEN ALL YOU CAN DO IS TRY NOT BEING INVISILE WHEN YOUR MOM BRINGS UP YOUR LIL BRO AND BRAGS ABOUT HIM TRY asking why DOES SHE ALWAYS LEAVE YOU OUT?
THEN DONT GET A ATTIDUDE WITH HER JUST SAY IF I AM HAVE YOUR PROMBLES THEN TELL HER why AM I HERE THEN SHE SHOULD BE THINKIN ABOUT WHA YOU SAID WRITE ME AND TELL ME WHAT SHE SAYS

Kinda like mine but not as bad, write her a letter telling her how you feel...

Dear Brighteyez
I know how you feel me mom is mid-evil my mom is just like yours blames me or my little brother

well I got to say it sounds like your mum and mine seem like ther twins.shes mean 2me 2. I've come 2 reaslise that my mum is mean 2 me because shes jealous of my youth and the fact that I have my whole life ahead of me 2 do what I want.and the one thing that our mothers dont have is time.ther gettin old and starting 2reaslise that they havnt done anything with themselves.they cant even keep a relationship up. dont let her make you bitter and negative about life because you will end up just like her.whatever she says just ignore her,because your the one that will end up going places.just stick it out till your old enough to lead your own life legaly.you'l find that you'l become a stronger person with a positive outlook on life.make a plan for yourslef

Actually its your mom who seems to have a very big problem,sometimes its not only us who needs that love but also our parents do need that too,I think you have to first tell your mom how much you love her well I hope you do,then try to explain to her that you obviously don't like the way she does things,and make it clear that if she shows much care and appreciation that would mean a lot to you,Wishing you goodluck girl.

omg thats judt like me and she always blame stuff on me too even when she does it first!!! man I h8 that im the left out 1 I wish I am noticed. I mean im only 14...

brighteyez,
you are in the same exact situation as me. I just ignore it and act totally normal, listen to Green Day, cut my own hair (just chopped it a week ago) to make it look like Adrienne Armstrong's, paint my nails crazy colors, go to Gilman Street, go have band practice w/ my band, just be yourself. you don't have to answer to anything she says. just rebel against it, I do. just get yourself into something (not anything destructive, like drugs or prostitution), like I got onto the punk scene to get AWAY from my family. anyway, your mom is probably enjoying hurting your feelings, so ignore it. she'll get over it and in three years when you've moved out, she'll probably start on your brother! anyway, just remember: YOU DON'T HAVE TO ANSWER TO ANYBODY!!! just do what you want, when you want.

they just talk all there anger out on you now I cant to to after school clube they are just so mean!! I feel so mad that I cried so much I realy want to go!!!

Hunny, I would love to be a fly on that wall to listen to you and your mother. Sometimes, we as parents get on to our children for good reasons. I am a mother of three teens and let me tell you what, it's a constant battle. I know your little brother probably gets more attention, but that's because he needs more direction. You do too, but not as much, because of the age difference. However, I think you need to be respectful to your mother. She probably is stressed out, since you have no father figures in your life. Put yourself in her shoes and see if there is anything you can do to help out. Yes, she is your mother, but maybe help out with the housework like your suppose to. My rules here are chores and homework come first and treat others the way you want to be treated (the Golden Rule). That means you have to do that to both your mom and brother. You all have to respect each other and get along. Your mom isn't mean to me, she probably just thinks you need to act a little more mature than you are. Get some counseling, go to a youth group at a church or civic center, have fun, do something fun with both your mom and brother and keep the lines of communication open.

I have the same exact problem I'm only 12!, I'm the last child in my family of 5. 2 of my siblings left the house the other 2 live with me my mother father. My mom is constantly blaming me for EVERYTHNG and it sometimes makes me think she doesn't love me.. I even cry myself to sleep sometimes because she's hurting me so bad and she doesn't realize it. I wish she would just stop becasue I can't take it anymore. When I do something good she says absolutley nothing about it. but when I do something wrong [ not intentionally] she yells enfisizes it to the last detail. my father says nothing about it. sometimes I do talk back to her but thats only because she makes me soo angry!! I love her but she doesn't love me.. for example yesterday I was sick and she brought me to the doctors office but the whole time we were in the waiting room she never even tried to comfort me she just told me that the reason I was sick is because I don't listen to her because I'm bad and I don't do anything around the house. she even made me cry in the waiting room. I'm only 12 I feel like killing my self. no one understands the hell I'm going through.. she treats my older sister like a princess but to her I'm trash. my older sister has longer hair than me and she does her hair all the time.. she plays with it washes it makes it grow.. but when I ask her to do my hair she makes up some excuse or she just walks away from me she tells me that I can do it myself.. I don't know what to do I feel like killing myself.. if she cares then why does she do this??!! I try not to say anything about it I try not to talk back. but then she makes up lies!! she says all these things about me that aren't even true. when she goes to work I'm home alone with my father he never yells at me or treats me like crap but when she comes home she tells him something I [probably didn't do] he starts yelling at me too. my mom used to be so nice caring but now she treats me like crap.. I feel hated in my own home!! why should I be the one to suffer. the brother that I live with is horrible!! he gets suspended hes always out at night he always takes my parents car without permission he uses my dads visa without permission my dad is in debt!! but they dont say anything to himm!! I feel like my mom lowers my self esteem makes me feel ugly.. even when people I don't even know tell me im absolutely gorgues!! what do I do?? PLEASEE HELPP MEE!!

hey chill out I would tell my mom all that you told me in the paragraph above that way you can kind of make her feel guilty and maybe she will be nice to you. What I have to do to my mom is when shes mad at me I write her a letter and tell her all the things that are bothering me. I then sneak the letter onto her pillow so when she goes to bed she will find it and read it. This really works for me I would try this you never know she could be really sorry and be nice to you for a change and by the way say in the letter about your brother and tell her that your just as special as he is

Good Luck! : )