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I've been with my boyfriend for a year. Out of nowhere we started arguing last week we argued everyday till yesterday. Hes not talking to me that much. And he acts diff at one moment he could be like I love you and then hes alll serious again not saying a thing. I tried talking to him but the only thing he said was - im sick and tired of this sh*t - so I like tried to not bother him no more. Then he started texting me again but acting nice...I told him that it was better if we take a break but he said that he doesnt want it. I don't know what else to do I want to make the relationship better but hes not helping. Help! :(
I think the best thing you can do is tell him you need to meet up with him to talk. (dont talk to him through text tell him you need a face to face conversation with him) when your together tell him exactly how you feel; whats bothering you, what youre thinking.. just everything. remember, youve been with him for a year, you should be able to talk to him. tell him what he is doing, and tell him that its bothering you. ask him nicely if something is wrong or if there is anything your doing thats bothering him. let him know you love him and want to work things out.. I really hope all goes well, best of luck.
It sounds like you have handled it pretty well so far. You tried to give him his space and gave him a chance to talk to you. Good job! For whatever reason- either he's not sure whats bothering him,or he doesnt feel comfortable talking to you about it. I would leave him with something like: Dude, I care about you and I'm here if you want to talk, if you need some time, I understand- but its not fair to me to be in the dark and to feel so unsure...something to that affect. Leave the ball in his court but be clear you will not do the whole back and forth thing bc its not fair to you.
Why do you write everything in a letter explaining how you feel? then give it to him - let him read it and wait for the responce?
he sounds like he doesnt know what he wants though - so maybe just come out with it - say, what do you want ??!!! lol it might work?
let me know how ya get on :) x
