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O.k right after dinner I went to the bathroom and when I came out,my mom thinks I threw up my dinner when I didn't.This afternoon at school I did throw up because I ate too fast.About a month ago I threw up because I didn't feel good.Why does my mom think like this?I don't want to lose weight,I want to gain weight but I don't mean to throw up but how do I prove to my mom I am not doing this on purpose?I tried talking to her but she doesn't belive me!Help?Thanks!Ally
Ok. Maybe you should let it go. Believe me, when you come to accept that you cannot change another person, there's a sense of accompanying peace. You've said your piece, if she doesnt believe you, that's ok. She is allowed to have her own thoughts and opinions isnt she? They may be false, but that's ok. She doesnt have to see your point of view. You know you're not making yourself sick. So calmly tell her, if she brings it up again, that you are not purposefully making yourself sick. If she makes remarks or comments, you may want to point out that if you were making yourself sick, this would perhaps not be the best way to handle it, and ask how she thinks she is being helpful by making these remarks. Be prepared for anger though, people hate it when we start being logical with them.
Oh, and you may want to think about why this is bugging you so much. Yeah, it's not nice that your mother thinks you're purging, but most people dont let it get to them this much. You want her to stop thinking something, you want her to see things your way. Might relate to your control issues. If things arent perfectly the way you want them, then you're not happy. Might be time to learn to let things go. You cannot control everything and everyone. And quite frankly, you'll just make yourself miserable trying.
she saw you throw up and probably assumed you had an eating disorder she probably knows how easy kids and teens get eating disorders nowdays and that if they do have one, they all deny it try talking to your mum again and explain why you threw up that day also tell her that you actually want to gain weight and not loose it that should make her feel better you could even try writing her a letter or something but just keep telling her you dont have one and explaining why you threw up that day
eating disorders are hard to tell from not eating disorders my advice to you would b not to go to the bathroom directly after eating...have your mom stand right next to the door to prove to her your not throwing up I hope this helps...remeber she is just concerned about you...people with eating disorders dont like to admit they have one which is probably why she wont believe you.
You could go online and ''accidently'' pull up a picture of a bullemic girl and be like ''omg thats sick, ewww I don't even know how people make themselves throw up its so gross'' and she will over hear you and it may correct her thoughts. But don't over do the acting- you don't want to sound fake.
Thank you for the answer but I know I did talk to her but she won't listen to me.She keeps saying "Whatever,forget it."Whenever I try to explain it to her.It's so fusterating and I wish she would see my point of view.Thank you.Ally
just ignore her lol moms can overreact sometime. she will get over it if you just keep reassuring her. ask her to accompany you to the bathroom everytime you go if she thinks your lying to her lol
Well said. Besides bringing it up and explaining how you are not purging may only fuel her even more into thinking you are.
Thank you all!My mom can think what she wants and I can't change that.Anyway thank you all!Ally;)
