Why do females have a hard time having a orga**m?

I'm in love with my fiance but when we're making love, I hardly have an orga**m. How can I have one more easily? He really tries his best, but it hardly ever works, what can we do?

Get a Kama Sutra videotape. It will teach you both to make the whole thing last longer which in turn usually helps the woman a bit. You might feel ridiculous at first but it works for many people.

Main reason...not understanding their own bodies first. How can a man know what will give his woman an org**m if she doesn't know how to herself? (You won't go blind, either, lol!) I didn't "get it" until I was in my late 40's, yep, I'm old, but I thought I was losing sensation, finding it harder to have orgasms, thought maybe I had a health problem, when I read something in this old Kinsey Report on sexuality, and this woman had written in to say that she experimented, yep, masturbated, and direct clitoral stimulation did it, but the key was tensing her legs. Ok, if you want a step-by-step instruction, do this...gently touch your clitoris, if you want it to feel even better, get some KY or some other lubricant, and gently at first touch it, massage it, tensing your legs as you do, and as your clitoris becomes more aroused, increase the pressure...all of this is done with no toys, nothing kinky, just use your middle finger, no insertion, just on the top, tip of the clitoris. Also, if you want to get even better sensation, say you're right-handed, expose the hood of the clitoris with your left hand while massaging the clitoris with your right. As you become more aroused, increase both the pressure, and the pace. If you feel embarrassed doing it yourself, get your significant other to help you, and tell him what and where it feels the best. If you want him to continue in a certain way, you must tell him. Men are not mind-readers! Make your needs known! (By the way, if you do it yourself, he would be thrilled to watch, a big turn-on for a man). Teach yourself, then teach him. In ordinary intercourse there is seldom enough direct pelvis-to-clitoris stimulation for a woman to have org**m, so if you have to have yours first, then go for it. As you get better at knowing what it takes to give you an org**m, you will be surprised (to his envy) that you can have multiples. It took me many years to get over the "shyness" of learning on my own what it took to have orgasms, but now I never settle for only one!

I am a 25 year old female and I have to tell you I have an org**m everytime I have sex unless of course im not in the mood and I'm just out to please my partner. The trick is...well for me anyway is clitoral stimulation. What I usually like is this; first my partner usually touches me down there and then goes down on me, I usually wait till I am extremely horny to the point where I want to org**m but stop and by this point I really want him inside me. Once we are having sex I rub my clitoris...sometimes this has a better effect behind or on top but it can work all ways only for me the pen*s hits a certain spot when Im on top that helps. I also find being on top makes you feel more sexy because he can see all of you and that turns me on. You can also put his hand there and get him to rub it for you sometimes this really works. I also find something else that really works which is very new to me and this makes me want to org**m almost instantly is while you are rubbing your clitoris he gently rubs your as*h*le, or if you are nervous to get him to do that you can gently do it yourself. It is kind of nerve racking at first because you dont want to feel weird for asking them to do it but my partner tried this one day without me asking, I was very nervous but I just went with it and it was great now I beg for it and beleive me this really turns them on so don't be afraid. One last thing I do is really use my imagination, sometimes I picture someone watching us or I picture having a third party joining us, the imagination can work wonders. Anyway I hope this helps and if you need me to be more clear on certain things just ask and good luck!

umm most females have a problem having orgasms. but you say when you "mas*erba*e" it helps, well maybe you should mas*erba*e all the way and then have an org**m then have sex and see if you have an org**m.

I was reading an article just the other day at www.women.com... on orgasimns and it says that women do have a hard time having orgasms, it didn't give a reason, but it said women are more turned on through oral sex than just casual sex.

Maybe, you should try the oral thing and see if it works out. Or maybe you guys should try "4-play" and not just having sex...touching seems to work for me

Or make a romantic mood-setting Like a cool night light (a red lamp), or a beeded curtain.

~Heather~

I have the same problem bro its either them our us.
I do the same thing you do, but maybe we should ask an
export. couse that sucks.

It seems that females have such a hard time having an orga**m via pen*s in vagina intercourse because there are not any nerves inside of her vagina (Thank God!). When the clit is being rubbed, licked, sucked, or touched in any way, the woman is moore likely to nutt because the clit is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. So don't worry. Your girlfriend is not the only woman that is like that. That is one thing that all women have in common.

It seems that females have such a hard time having an orga**m via pen*s in vagina intercourse because there are not any nerves inside of her vagina (Thank God!). When the clit is being rubbed, licked, sucked, or touched in any way, the woman is moore likely to nutt because the clit is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. So don't worry. Your girlfriend is not the only woman that is like that. That is one thing that all women have in common.

It seems that females have such a hard time having an orga**m via pen*s in vagina intercourse because there are not any nerves inside of her vagina (Thank God!). When the clit is being rubbed, licked, sucked, or touched in any way, the woman is moore likely to nutt because the clit is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. So don't worry. Your girlfriend is not the only woman that is like that. That is one thing that all women have in common.

It seems that females have such a hard time having an orga**m via pen*s in vagina intercourse because there are not any nerves inside of her vagina (Thank God!). When the clit is being rubbed, licked, sucked, or touched in any way, the woman is moore likely to nutt because the clit is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. So don't worry. Your girlfriend is not the only woman that is like that. That is one thing that all women have in common.

It seems that females have such a hard time having an orga**m via pen*s in vagina intercourse because there are not any nerves inside of her vagina (Thank God!). When the clit is being rubbed, licked, sucked, or touched in any way, the woman is moore likely to nutt because the clit is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. So don't worry. Your girlfriend is not the only woman that is like that. That is one thing that all women have in common.

well erin, it took a long time to figure out that women needed more than just a dk in them. I figured cause it felt good and I got off they should too. but women need their clit stimulated. ask him to lick your clit and rub it while your having sex . if that doesnt do it maybe something going on with you, bad experiences? dont know, sometimes I make sure she gets hers by licking and fingering first and after she has one I do it with my pen*s and do it again and again for her, then I get mine. like I said it took a long time to figure out how to make a woman c*m. have him read stuff on how to make a woman c*m. that will help. a lot of info on the internet really. if that still doenst do it I'll be glad to show him how to make you c*m as part of "therapy". just a joke.

hiya me and my boyfriend had the same problem wot you need to do is start of just takeing it easy hand to hand sort of thing karry on in till you r both bursting to start fucking and then well you go for it it worked with me eney wayz

The solution is to always go on fucking day and night
The pen*s must be always in vagina to satisfy the sex hunger of the of the women

no problem getting my wife off. or any women I have been with.
but my wife gets "tired" and out of the mood after getting off.
never had a chick do this... anyone have same problem?

Its not him its you

I think you should ride him. That's the only time I have had one is when I am on top. Only you know where that spot is.

relax don't try so hard and rub your clitoris in a counter clockwise motion dueing intercourse

beenthere you are so right every thing you said

beenthere you are so right every thing you said