Why are there only female sluts?

Why is there such a double standard, in this day and age? Why are sexually promiscuous women labelled sluts? What is the male equivalent?

Why would a mother be proud of her 19 year old son for finally losing his virginity to the young french nanny...

who seduced him, but not be proud of her 20 yr old daughter who lost hers to a guy she's been dating for 6 months? Why is there a difference?

Are you personally capable of falling into the double standards trap, in this instance?

men are stupid - throw rocks at them haha x oj x

Oh my goodness.
My friend and I actually started a whole controversy about this in English class last year. I'm so tired of hearing that girls are 'sluts' but guys that sleep with a lot of people don't get labeled at all. I know guys that are promiscuous but people don't care, if it was a girl though, they would. Its really sad actually, and sexist in my opinion.

This is the opinion only of a part of the population. The other half are thinking like you. E.g. me ). I like sexually acive girls.

***but guys that sleep with a lot of people don't get labeled at all***

Steph, that's not entirely true, often the guys get labelled as Studs or similar - like sleeping with as many women as possible is something to be admired for and be envious of.

I'm not sure why it is, but there is a double standard and many people are guilty of it, I know I have been in the past. Having said that in my experience the slut label is usually bestowed upon a woman by other women. Perhaps this subject has a similar root as the question Belindaleigh asked not to long ago What's your opinion on women in society?

technically guys are labeled as players which to guys is a good thing. to most girls it is a bad thing. I totally agree. I think it is because guys and girls have different perspectives on sex. if a guy sleeps with a lot of girls, then other guys think he is cool. but if a girl sleeps with a lot of guys, then other girls call her a slut. it just goes to show how different girls and guys brains are...

I dont think that's entirely true, there are male sluts, fair enough they'd probably have to have slept with atleast 200 people to be labelled a slut, but there are guys I would call sluts...
Why the double standard? I dont know... it started from times where women did not have as much freedom... why it still continues... because most people are sexist whether they realize it or not...

Maybe it's because of the perception is still that women give sex and men take sex. We're doing them a favour when we allow them to penetrate...? Is it because the act itself is a fairly dominant act from a male perspective? He's doing something to someone, whereas the woman's role has been viewed as passive for millions of years. Maybe to some women it still is. .

Actually, women used to be looked at more like property than individuals. Women's sexuality was considered to belong to her husband. Looked at this way a woman was considered less valuable if she wasn't a virgin and a promiscuous woman was considered worthless by proper gentlemen.

Also in Western thought there has been the idea that there are two kinds of women: good women (the marrying kind) and bad women (loose morals, prostitute etc.) . This dichotomising of women was refered to as the princess/prostitute or madona/wh0re complex. Even Signund Freud bought into this thinking; he thought that virtuous women had emotional satesfying vaginal orgasms but immoral women had superficial clitoral orgasms. Freud was actually fairly enlightened compared to his Victorian coleagues though. My older brother told me that I should date fun girls but marry a virgin. He too bought into this dichotimy.

A modern attitude is that men who have sex with multiple partners are very successful while women who do the same lack self-worth. The same behavior is seen as being the opposite between the genders; success in men and failure in women.

There is also the axiom that women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. Looked at this way women who have sex with someone they don't love are selling themselves short. My mom used to say, who's going to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free. As I see it this too marginalizes women as merely sex objects and this is from a woman who had a college degree and worked long before it was common for housewifes.

It may be a long time before this sort of double-standard goes away.

Thanks so much for such a thoughtful reply, fillet. I think you're quite right that this perception is here to stay. Depressing, isn't it? When we read that in some countries in the middle east, today, a woman can get stoned for being a rape victim - we brush that off and say, well, those aren't our values - that's far away from us and they're all nutbars. But it comes from the same type of thinking, doesn't it?

as you know all, women is like a diomend, star, moon, gold, I.e, very precious wealthy personality so no one want to lose her at any cost,, Its she who affect the whole society, men feelings and mental emotions--so she is more precious and she is always advised to be remian safe sound for bright successive future,,, its my personal openinon ---so either true or false,,, but you r always true to ask such questions please

Maybe it depends on where you grow up. I grew up in a rough part of town and no one ever had any problem saying that a guy who slept around was a HO.

I guss it depends on where you where raisaed and how you are raised. But from where I am they call me a slut everythime im back there cause I had a baby so young but it wasnt by choice but still it happend and know they see me with 4 kids it even worse even though I only sleep with one guy willingly (two as of total first one I was raped by)

many things, first its the something like ok he's a guy, thats fine mentality that shows the double standard in some or not most people, because the truth is a there is male equivalent for this, its either he's an asshole, jerk, bastard, dickhead, or a dog. He wouldn't be good enough for my friends, my sister(ESPECIALLY!), and any other girl I care about. Its not just women that should be chaste, men as well, but with todays society, thats pretty hard to do because women do it as well now.The society tells today of men as hormone-driven muscle walking machines as the ONLY image of a true man.
But the sad fact is yes, there is a double standard. Unfortunately, the few remaining good girls are turned to, pardon me sluts, and the even fewer(yeah, I know for some women its just a myth, but its true, although very few will meet them)good guys become not just bad boys but womanizers because they get to tagged as wimps, wussies or even worse, gay by sluts and even the prudent women too(by experience!). and the prudent women, become sluts because of their choice, be bad guys. This double standard, affects not just women in the negative light, but men as well. It may be surprising, because women are affected directly than men in this case. It is sad that women get tagged as sluts by the double standard, and that double standard turns the few remaining honest-men(I'm not saying men are perfect, neither are women, hope you get my point) to dickheads, which will only turn more women to sluts.
But thats what is going on.

PS: I'm a guy. don't be surprised.

I call plenty of my male friends sluts for the gross things thay do ! haha

well, every guy is a slut so calling them one would not be insulting them, its just being a guy

well I think the same
if a lass/women sleeps with lots of lads there called a slut
but if lads did the same it's not classed as it aswell?
grr I hate that tbh!

personaly I think their both sluts but thats just me sex with out love waiting or thinking is foolish men and women