Why am i so ugly?

So, I constantly hear negative comments regarding my physical appearance, I hear wave after wave, it causes a chain reaction, one comment triggers a chain.
Everyone I know of, everyone in my life, has always attached a very negative comment to my face,...

placing useless labels onto me..
Don't try to shed light on my predicament, or trying to subdue the painful effect, because everyone has made it very clear to me.
Every girl I meet, would say something similar to *sigh* you have such a great attitude and personality, if only your face was as good as it
Now heres to describe my appearance because I do no want to look at myself and the photo,
I have a very, grotesquely large head, as a result I have a very, very flat face, my eyes are too close to each other, and they are very slanted, my nose is flat and very small, my lips, they're very big, full and puffy..
I just wonder what I should do next..
I cant take all this criticism...
sorry for my complain, I just had to tell somebody, how I felt.

hello!!! it's really hard to think of yourself being like what you always see in the mirror or what others think of you.. but i say, you should love yourself as who you are, as how God made you... besides, it's not the beauty that rules the world. it's how you deal with your life.. and i tell you, there are people out there who are so much perfect physically, but their lives are wasted.. and their personality are very shallow.. even though i don't know you, i know that you are a kind hearted person and you are beautiful inside out...and remember,. GOD loves you (that's the best thing)

i hope this helps!!

I don't know where people get off in your life constantly telling you that you're ugly?

Every single person you have ever encountered tells you this? Come on, that HAS to be an exaggeration. It simply is impossible that every single person you know tells you you are ugly constantly.

The next time someone makes comments on your look, you're going to have to grab your b*lls and tell them to get bent. Stop taking that crap from people.

And as you said, nothing I'm going to say is going to make you feel better, so that's about all the advice I can give you. Tell people to f*ck off, get mad about it and grow a pair.

well, I can't tell why you're ugly you were just born that way I guess but I might be able to help you biuld up confidence. I have a friend at school who is sorta deformed in the face. she probably couldn't be a model and even though everybody tells shes ugly as crap she doesn't let that bring her down. she stays confident and holds her head high. you need to do the same. just except that your face isn't perfect now but that you might be able to have plastic surgery in the future.
Hope this helps! ; )
-Hayley

You may not believe me, but I know exactly how you feel. My family, friends, even teachers and such always criticised me. You should wear this You should do this with your hair You look like crap etc. etc. The only solution to this problem is to learn to love yourself for who you are. Just place the idea in your head that you're so god damn sexy, that everyone else in the world has to try to pull you down. It worked for me, lol. I was never popular, never thought of myself as attractive, girls would laugh, guys would make jokes. I was ridiculed for years, but look at me now. The most insecure person in the universe made a comeback. Instead of fighting to fit in, I did my best to stand out and not to become part of the crowd.

Find something about yourself that no one out there can immitate. For me, it was my hair, it's how I express myself, it's what I do to make girls go home and think about when they saw me, it's what I do to show that I have the balls to go out into the world and be completely comfortable with who I am, and I guarantee you my friend, you can do the same thing. Apparently you have a great attitude and personality, work with it. Anyone can slap on some makeup, or whatever clothes are in at the moment, but you can't buy a personality. If you're a good person, people will notice you, people will acknowledge you, and until you meet those people, what others think shouldn't mean a thing to you. Just believe in yourself, I'll be over here on my side rooting for you!~

thanks guys, all these comments made me feel better, i still feel bad, and hate the fact that my high school has 3 most important value, and one of them is physical appearance. I feel alot better, but then i realize, people don't realize that there are other things in life other than a persons face.the society of today places so much emphasis on physical appearance, that it becomes funny, it feels so good to know that someone is on your side..

You should just find a way to make yourself feel better. Try finding friends who like you for who you are, not for how you look. Then, they'd be able to make you happy all the time.

Just ignore those people who call you ugly. If you respond by saying how you don't really care about how you look, they might just back off you.

HI! I want to help you!

You don't sound ugly to me at all! Jesus made everyone in a very special way, everyone has their own beauty! See, I am trying this new thing being nice to everyone I meet. Heres a hint though, you will look unattractive, if you FEEL unattractive. Boost up your confidence, get it rom family, or church!

Sorry to sound as if im very relgious but the truth is that i just care. Have you ever tried make-up!? Make-up isn't for everybody, but if it made you feel more self-confident, go for it! May i suggest for your wide face, highlighting the outline of it with a color slightly darker than your skin, to narrow the edges. Then, apply a very subtle blush just along your cheekbones, and that will bring out your eyes. To make your eyes bigger and less slanted, apply a brown eyeliner to the bottom, and black on top. Then, your choice to use shadow or not. For the lips, use a liner right on your lip just along the line. Use a darker lip stick or gloss on the top part, and just blend it to the bottom. That will leave kind of a shadow effect going from the outer part of your lip, to the middle.

I know you probably dont want to be a barbie doll, but people that say things that remind you of your unrecognized beauty have very much the same problem you do! They could be jealous of your wide face and small nose! Better than having a short fat face with a large dinosaur nose!! Also, they could just be telling you these comments to make themselves feel better.

Just remember, you aren't ugly, and the better you feel, the better you look. God Bless you dear.

Hey dude! I have the exact same situation YOU have! It's almost like I was typing this myself! Yeah, my face is flat my forehead is GIANT my eyes are beady and slanted and my lips are puffy. My head is a MONSTER! And I have a stupid face, but guess what? I use it as a joke! When people, and trust me, there's alot of them people who make fun of me EVERY DAY! I just make it into a joke! And everyone gets to laugh. I use my appearance not to disgust people, but to make them laugh, and now I have a lot of friends who think I'm hilarious to hang out with. Of course, I always do have that dating problem.. sigh, yeah, yet to have a girl friend and I'm getting up there in years! Oh well, I guess we weren't ALL meant for love eh? Keep your confidence up! And find something to do with the cards you were dealt!

dude at least everywhere you go and wherever you ride babies and adults and children dont stare at you like you are some kind of monster like they do me. =/ sometimes I wish i had the nerve to just kill myself. my alcoholic affectionless and non communicating boyfriend is all I can get so I cant chase HIM away. ... I really wish I could kill myself sometimes

OK...MAY I JUST SAY THAT ...YOU SOUND LIKE ME!!!

Listen,
I understand how it feels to think your not sttractive. nowadays it seems like if your not perfect your not worth anything..GUESS WHAT??? THATS BULLSH*T !!!

I am sooo sure you are not as BAD looking as you think. our perception of ourselves is always skewed honey!!! really ..Your question is breaking my heart and has brought tears to my eyes...YOU BE YOU..YES CLECHE!!! I KNOW!!
it is true!!
what are your interests what are you good at..??? i BET ALOT!
AND TELL ME THIS !!!

WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE WHO PUT YOU DOWN??? CAUSE I WANNA STICK MY FOOT UP THEIR *^%$#$!!!

iM HERE FOR YA...AND I KNOW HOW YA FEEL ..KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!! PLEASE

Do you have some vested interest in spending your life with dummies or something?

So what if you ARE 'ugly'- it doesnt matter.
I would be friends with you, go out with you - if we clicked and I liked you.
I wouldnt be embarassed to be seen with you, because I am not a superficial person- I am a real and full one.

If I was 'ugly' and people didnt want to know me because I was''ugly'- what would that say about them! FFS!
and anyway- what is ugly?
There are far worse uglies than not looking anything like a pin up girl ; party poopers, judgmental gits, people who complain constantly about nothing, people who smack little childern, people who call other people ugly- now thats really ugly!
Sure, I know developing a good attitude is hard work- but we all have our work cut out for us me dear. I wish you well with yours, heres something to help you;

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and buy her book for something really inpiring!

your too hard on yourself

I understand how u feel...and listen to me: BE HAPPY WIT YOUR BODY AND FACE because GOD GAVE IT TO U AND U SHOULD BE HAPPY 4 NOT BEING RETARDED OR SICK it sux so look in a mirror every day u get up and say that u are beautiful...it really works it is a problem and u need 2 learn how to deal with it~~~

Be happy and love yourself.Dont listen to what anyone says.Tell them to kiss your a**.

I dont think you should let people say wether you look ugly or not everyone is beautiful in their own way just be confident and live life to the fullest

hey I agree with the others love yourself dont trip off what
otha people say cause there probaly trying to bring you down
so there not lonely
and those who are calling you ugly dont worry because what comes
arpund goes around and they might need you 1day or you
may be there boss or they might have to go through you to
be able to get a job and ya look at them and tellem to
p1ssoff

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I'm very ugly too. I hated myself to death and most of the time I would opt for suicide as the only solution to my ugliness. But you know what I'm scared of death. I fear so much that it stops me from hanging myself. My eyes are very red and my face looks very scary. Someone labeled me as monkey face last year.. I've very few friends because people seem to run away from me. I can't even look at anyone on the eyes. Jobs are not too easy to come by when you are in that situation. I go through this everyday.. Imagine being labeled as drunkard when you don't even drink because of your face appearance. A girl told me that I'm tall and ugly and that I'm a baboon! Yes we ugly people go through hell on earth... It's our everyday life...

same...I've been ugly since the day I was born... although I didnt realize it then co s I was a baby... at nursery most of the girls use to stay away from me, back then it was a good thing... now, not so much. my problem is I look older then my age I am talking a lot older... I have large nose, use to have a pointy chin when I wz in highschool which eventually dissapeared and large ears and big circle eyes. The students from the beginning of yr7 to yr12 made fun of me constantly but atleast I had friends then who stuck by me. I thought things would change in college...no such luck... on the second year of college I was so sure I was going to kill myself... things had gotten so bad...at one point a third yr student for no reason in front of everyone started saying to me that I look old, that I dont belong in college.then their wz a class disscusion in my chemistry class, about how ugly people can still enjoy their lives, and I knew they were talking abount me... god I hate my chemistry teacher. I would have done it as well if I wasnt such a coward... now I am at uni... people look at me like a old freak trying to dress like a teen... people laugh at me as they walk by...and the most anoying thing is the 30yr old student look younger then me... any friends that I had I dont have anymore...I am trying to think of things to do with my life to keep myself motivated...like traveling, mountain climbing, nature photography etc... crap thing is got no one to share it with... So any acheivements in my life is hollow and worthless... a feeling of loneliness and emptyness is always their...

people have made fun of me for 7 yr.. 7 years of hell... it all started from high school

I cant give you any anwers ... as I am seeking the answer myself... so goodluck

and ya never had a girl friend and probably never will...hope you have more luck
p.s. when girls say that you have a nice personality...what she really means is... your to ugly go and find someone as ugly as you...basically... so dont go after the wroung girls... they may be freindly ... thats far as they go... for me her freindship didnt last very long either ~

Hmm, Kids are idiots. They have NO consideration for anyone elses feelings, I was picked on for how I looked, Still occasionaly am.. Just when I thought I wasn't that bad... someone else says something. And I still get the weird men making comments or tooting, also I tend to think people are joking when im complimented. The trouble is no matter how nice of a personality you have, if people arnt physicly attracted to you they won't bother gtting to know you. Well, at least the popular good looking b*tches will have passed there 'good looking' stage and then not be when they're older... hopefully we'll become better as we get older.