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I met a guy few weeks ago and he seems to really like me. The problem is I suffer from an eating disorder, I go on long fasts and if I eat anything I throw it up or sometimes I go into binging and then throwing up. Anyway I was just wondering; when should I tell him about this, or should I actually tell him at all ?? But it is really bothering me as I am running out of excuses when he invites me to go to eat somewhere and stuff... Any help will be useful :):) Thanks
if you truely have feelings for this guy then you should tell him. do NOT do it in a note or over the phone or anything like that, you need to have a sit down and tell him face to face. before you tell him though you should talk about your relationship and where he sees things going...make sure you guys are on the same page about your relationship. when you're talking to him ask him if he would be willing to help you with any problems no matter what they are...and if he says yes then explain to him your situation and all about your eating disorder. hopefully he can be man enough and stick by your side.
you need to seek some kind of help...you're putting your body through so much by not eating or going and binging/purging. you're hurting your vital organs and taking aways years of your life...seek help before it gets too out of control and you really start having health problems. I know it's easier to be said than done but with plenty of support from friends and family you can over come your disorder...I know from experience bc my freshman year in high school I was dealing with a deep depression and was starting to become anorexic...within a month I went from being 162 lbs all the way down to 115 lbs and my friends and family helped me over come it by encouraging me and supporting me...I am now at 135 lbs and couldn't be happier...there's absolutely nothing wrong with having a little meat on your bones. in order for you to start getting better you have to learn to love yourself and your body...you've already done the first step and that's admitting that you have a problem. something that I learned to help get your stomach back to normal is that you have to start eating small snacks all throughout the day and eat them slowly bc if you eat too fast then you will get a stomach ache bc it takes at least 15-20 minutes for your body to react and tell you "hey I'm full". one of the reason why you get stomach aches now is because your stomach has shrunk from not eating right so you have to stretch it back to normal...if you don't believe me talk to a doctor and they'll tell you pretty much the same thing. good luck!
I hope this helps you...and I hope you try to get some type of help. just remember you're beauty lies within.
I think you should tell him and have him be a part of you getting help. Eating disorders are not diets, they are serious and dangerous mental illnesses.
There are other safer (mentally and physically) ways of loosing weight.
WARNING!: Anorexia and bulimia can cause permanent damage to your heart, brain, kidneys and other organs, and can ultimately result in death.
Please seek help! http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/p.asp?WebPage_ID=655 xox Sika
You should tell him AND your mom or dad. He may be able to support you and your mom or dad need to get you help. Eating disorders are very serious and you need to see a doctor and start eating again!
If you tel in mayb in a note or something then it wout b as ebrassing as it would be face 2 face :) But he should understand if he is truly in love with u !:) :) Hope this helps xx
I really think you should tell him. It might be really hard but you need to let him know whats going on so he can understand.
good luck xx
aww you need to see a doctor hun.. thats very dangerous .. get help.. then tell him you had it but you dont now.. it might scare him.
also, so far I only met guys whom I told and they basically told me, 'You either stop or I leave.' what if this happenes again??
tell him. it will help him understand why you don't want to go out and eat, plus it lets him know you trust him.
umm sooner than later. also you should work on getting help! you have a real "isues" and yeahh
Tell him, if he really does like you then he will understand
Tell him, if he really does like you then he will understand
just tell him.
