When I have sex with my boyfriend I feel like im have sex with my dad

WELL ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN GOING OUT 4 ABOUT 3 YEARS BUT AS A CHILD I WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED BY MY FATHER AND I ENJOY HAVING SEX WITH MY BOYFRIEND BUT LATLY I HAVE BEEN HAVING BAD DREAMS ABOUT MY PASTED AND I ALL READY HAVE been TREATed FOR THIS CASE AND NOW WHEN I HAVE SEX WITH MY BOYFRIEND I TELL HIM TO STOP BECAUSE IT FEELS LIKE IM HAVING SEX WITH MY FATHER I REALLY LOVE MY BOYFRIEND AND I want to BE WITH HIM
and he asks me whats wrong and I tell him and he tells me he understands how I feel and I dont want him to cheat on me or anything my hole sex life is falling apart my man comes home every night but latly he has been coming home really late and he smells like sex but he tells me im the only women 4 him so could you guys help me with this problem I just want my life to be back 2 to the way it was be 4 and my boyfriend tells be if I dont want to have sex with him its cool he is willing to give me time and wait and me AND MY BOYFRIEND have the best times together and we have not have sex 4 long time so plzzz help me

Dear Friend,

I have been in you'r shoes and know what it feels like. Even though you have had help with this matter. You keep it balled up inside you. Example like a book on a shelf you can either put it away and for get about it or you can take it down and dust it every now and then.)What I am trying to say is you still need to talk about the matter every now and then and not leave it all bottled up and expect it to go away. It will never go away. But if you talk more about it and let out you'r feeling then it will seem easier for you to explore with you boyfriend. If you'r boyfriend understand then maybe he is the one you can talk with in the matter. I thought my boyfriend would not understand any either . He said he did , but I thought how could he due to he had never been throught it... But for some reason he did... now I am married to the same boyfriend and I still talk about my past with him. 11 years later... But you'r boyfrien needs to know to understand... If you give it a chance he might be your soulmate...

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. Every time I'm with a guy who's older than me... even by a few months... I am fine with him and really like him, until we start getting intimate and he starts "breathing" heavy. Because that's what my uncle would do. And it would remind me of him. But my solution? Go with younger guys. I'm sure that doesn't help you with YOUR "problem", but I know it's helped me a lot. And of course... just talking about it, getting it out of your system. It really helps, too. Even though I will be scarred for life, I have found ways to make it not so bad, and actually have a normal "sex life" and relationship with other guys. I hope you the best and that you can slowly feel better about yourself, and not have those nightmares anymore.