What to do?

I mean I Know that I study relationships, love and all that good stuff, but with my boyfriend its like all of a sudden he is becoming a dictator.

Last night we got into this argument: Me and my boyfriend work in the same building but we work in different departments. So when he was off the clock he came to my desk to see how I was doing before we went home(we live together) and I told him that I was stressed because I had a big meeting coming up and I was only close to ready. So he offered to help.

When we fianlly left I told him that when we got home I was going to do a bit of cleaning up(because it needed to get done), anyways he flipped out saying that when I got home I was going to lay down and take a load off especially since he was going to be off the next day. He said that if I cleaned up anything at all that he would not talk to me for the rest of the night. I told him that I was only going to do little bit because I Knew that I had to wake up early the next morning. But he was going out as well and he had to leave way earlier than I did. When we got home I just picked up a few clothes off of the floor and laid down and started working/reading over a few things.

He totally blanked out and didn't even say the ususal "I Love You", he just walked around with an attitiude. So I put a note on the fridge that said"I LOVE YOU AND GOOD NIGHT". But this morning he put a note on the counter that said "HAVE A GREAT DAY & I LOVE YOU 2 ".

It just seems like everytime I turn around he just doesn't want to listen, I mean I listen to him all the time and it's never vice-versa..and every now and then we talk about the wedding but it just scares me that he most of the time never wants to compromise...

Hello it sounds to me that you are totally in love with your fiancé but before you make that commitment to be his wife you would want to make sure that you guys can communicate with each other because that is very important. You can both be head over heel with each other and madly in LOVE but with OUT COMMUNICATION you have nothing cause that is very important so with that said I would try to sit him down and let him know how you’re feeling cause if you keep it bottle up he will never know, not to mention it is unhealthy and can be stressful. (I know I have been there but guess what I love myself more now and not my husband don’t get me wrong I always wanted to please him and would let everything go his way but I was like enough with that &hit. The day I when off on his a&& was the best thing I have ever done now we talk all the time and I love it.) If he doesn’t want to listen send him and email that might strike up a conversation leading where you want it to go. This is just my opinion I hope it helps..

Sunshine

It sounds like you guys need to learn how to communicate. Oddly, you can be together for years and still not have adequate communication skills- my husband and I are still getting the hang of it.

One thing you might want to look at is couples counseling- it might sound a bit extreme, but you can voice things you might not feel you could, and work together to build the relationship.