Why does she only like it when I treat her bad?

ok so im going out with this chick and I know girls shouldnt be treated likeobjects but when I dont treat her like an object she doesnt like me. what the hell!!! its p*ssing me off. this has happened with my last 3 girlfriend's

what do you mean by treat her like an object?

like... what kind of question is that?

I mean like examples, idn sometimes people precieve things differently

like saying your mine and talking to your friends while shes around and talking like shes not there. stuff like that

well the "your mine" thing could possibly be like her insecurities, she might just like to be remiinded that she has a boyfriend now. idn about the other things, you should talk to her.

thats the thing she doesnt like to talk about stuff in the relation ship you know what I feel like im being used

well you have to let her know somehow that you dont like to treat her that way

what if she dumps me? I dont want that to happen im pretty sure I love her

well youve got to weigh you options. if you stay the way you are, then youre unhappy, maybe if you just tell her how you feel then she will see your point. if you cant talk to her, how do you expect to have a relationship with her? arent relationships about communication anyways?

I guess but I think she thinks im annoying

well I honestly think judging by the info you give, that you have nothing to lose. I mean why would you want to go out with a girl who thinks youre annoying+wants to be treated like an object+is USING you or is at least making you feel used? idn, for some reason it doesnt really sound like love to me but thats just my opinion. well ima g2 bed but I'll respond back tomarrow.

It seems self-professed "Nice Guys", complain that women must WANT to be treated like crap, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

The biggest problem is that most guys like you (so-called, "nice guys" are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. Shes not sure if you really like her for who she is, or if you have latched onto her out of desperation because she actually paid some kind of attention to you.

Nice Guys go overboard. They try to buy affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. Girls are only human.They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of girl with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

Dear saw3rules,
You stated the last 3 girlfriends like this...did you ask them before you started treating them like this? Why would you start treating them like objects in the first place? We usually don't treat people badly on purpose unless we aren't a very nice person to begin with. So however you got there you ended up treating them badly and they liked it...so you say...did you ask if they liked it? How do you know? If you did and they said yes then you found yourself 3 girls with very low self-esteem and much insecurities. Could this be a coincidence...must be or you just have interpreted wrong. I suggest ask your girlfriend this; I am going to treat you badly, like dirt, worth nothing and pay not attention to your needs. If she says yes then run, and run fast. It's hard to believe you found 3 woman in a row who want this treatment...perhaps that's why you have had 3 they don't like the treatment.
Sue...good luck

no the first 2 dumped me cause im annoying as hell and at my school everyone is insecure

I think your a cool guy and you dont deserve stupid girls like that

sum tymes girls dont like it when your nice all the tyme they like a bit of baddness why do you think sum girls go for bad lads it turns them on an gives them a thrill sumtymes. girls also like attention an like 2 think you find them sexy.