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I've been together with the same guy for three years..I love him to death and he feels the same about me. I have this fear of being alone for extended periods of time...he is leaving me for two years because he is in the army and has very high chances of getting shipped over seas and [possibly] dying...he knows I have this fear but he has the attitude as if he were immortal...I don't know what to do about this...
Ty has a point here. You need to be a whole person by yourself. That is a hollywood cliche, "you complete me" and "im lost without you" Fu@# that sh#$! as if by myself I am a half a person.
RELATIONSHIP'S ARE MEANT FOR AUGMENTATION, NOT COMPLETION!!!
Two autonmous people coming together and adding to eachothers lives. Interdependent as apposed to codependent. Co dependency is a sickness in some cirlcles. You love better when you are whole.
I do worry a lot but I know I can handle being an army wife...and I'm not saying that I need him to live or I can't make it on my own I'm just VERY not ok with it...
thank you for helping me though =] I just don't think I have the courage to break it off...but I don't know how well being alone will do for me. I can survive it...I will just be miserable in the process
Well there's two things here. First you need to work on being alright with being without a guy. It doesnt mean you're alone. Second, you have to decide if you can deal with being an army wife. Some women cant deal with worrying all the time. And if it is going to take its toll, perhaps you should end the relationship.
The best thing you can do for him is to be strong.It will help hime get through tough times. Do not let him know about how you are feeling right now.It will only take his focus away from were it needs to be.
Trust him you need to find a comfort zone within your self try getin a pet for company like a cat or dog something with effection so you can go with out feelin alone
hope it helps.. (: