What to do about my relationship?

I am seeing this guy who is 42 I am 19 and so far we have had a close bond. I've got him to open up. I've made him fall in love with me. We've had a sexual relationship for quite a while and he recently went to jail ( he kinda has that jailbird behavior.) But I know he's capable of living a good life.(when I met him he was working and had a car and money, he worked at a job he hated.) and things started going bad when he got laid off from his job. he didn't have any money and I was there for him through his hardships. But my mom found a letter from him that I received and she doesn't want me with him. I don't know what to do because she says I deserve better and maybe she's right but I can't kick a dog while he's down. I can't just suddenly desert him while I've been there for him so long. I hate it when my mother puts bad things in my head and she makes me feel ashamed of things I wasn't ashamed of before. But she's nosey because she's hellbent of making sure I have the best in life. She knows that I seem to be attracted to guys like my father because my father is in jail also and my mother doesn't want me to make her same mistakes. But I'm still mad at her for being nosey. But what should I do ?

Well, guess you and I are going through the same thing. I'm 21 and my man is 44... He's locked up, not due out for a year...
Grandparents, mother and rest of my family hate it...
but, I say that you should do you. If you love him, stay with him. My fam had a problem with me and my man from jump. Basically I told them it was none of their business.I'm not saying to say that to your mom because you should prob. still live with her, but in your mind you have to know that this is what and who you want. I live with his mother right now and am working on just holdin' the both of us down and getting things straight so we can start a life together when he gets out. Like I said, if you love him, and I mean really love him, you have to weigh the pros and cons of the situation and come out with what you think would be best for you. Because at the end of the day, your mom isn't going to live your life for you and her opinions arent going to be the ones you have to live with for the rest of your life, you have to live your life and make your own decisions and form your own opinions. I know I love my man and no matter how much bad people have to say for him, I see the good in him. I know he loves me. And at the end of the day, to me, It's all about my happiness, not making my family happy.

Both of you young ladys are very luky to have people in your lifes that care so much for you. If you take there advise you will have a good long life.

You should figure out why God put you on this planet, and find a mate that will help you accomplish your goal. This will make you both happy (You and your mate). What good can a man do for you when he is in jail, and what good can you do for him. You need to resolve your issue with your father and move on with your life. I also understand that it is hard for you young ladys to find a good man because they are being locked-up. But if you do what you are suppose to the perfect man will be right there waiting for you. He's looking for you now, but you are off having an affaire with someone who is in jail. Not fare to him, not fare to the man in jail, not fare to you.

Your mother will be happy when you are happy. That's all she wants. She knows you are not doing the best for yourself, so stop settleing for less than what you deserve.

Good luck,