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What does he mean by saying we can only have sex?

My long distance boyfriend of 2.5yrs broke up w/me last Friday b/c I called a female coworker of his to ask if there was something going on between them. She of course called him and told him and he got mad at me. He sent me an e-mail telling me that I had humuliated him in front of this girl who he has to work with. He broke up w/me. Later that night he called me and started yelling at me and told me to leave him alone and that he was so mad at me. Well it is Sunday now and he will not talk to me. He will only answer my texts. I told him I was sorry and I didn’t mean to hurt him and the reason I did what I did was b/c of what I was hearing from other people. He text me and said that I destroyed the relationship and that we can only have sex and nothing more. He said that is all he can give me right now. What does he mean?

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Answer #1

I basically did the same thing you did…It means he was doing what everyone said he was. His behavior just says it all! He thought he could have his cake and eat it too, but calling the “other woman” was the straw that broke the camels back. So what hes basically saying is that after 2.5 yrs of being together, you were nothing more than a sex partner? How can he love someone and just up and dump them after yrs of being with them? You didnt destroy the relationship…he did, so dont let him convince you otherwise. Hes just mad you found out, and hes taking it out on you. Now your’re seeing his TRUE colors after all this time, just like i did after 3 yrs with my ex. I didnt like what i saw either after that, and i made the choice to move on, because i deserve better, and so do you. He made the decision to end it, not because you destroyed the relationship, but because he is a coward, and hes trying to look for an easy way out. If it was a simple misunderstanding, it wouldnt have turned this ugly (on his part). I dont think things will ever be the same between you again. If i were you, as hard as its going to be……….let him go! You will do so much better without him in the long run. I know i am without my ex!

Dont think that by sleeping with him, will make him change his mind about getting back with you, because it wont. Been there, done that! I only see me ex as more of a jerk now. Leave with whats left of your dignity, because if you dont, you will only be hurting yourself more.

Good Luck!

Answer #2

thanks you for the answers. I believe that he wouldn’t have acted out the way he did if he loved me and cared for the relationship. Why does he not have the courage to tell me the truth so that I can move on.

Answer #3

You did not any mistake when asked that girl about their relationship. Your ex b/f was unfair when accused you. The other girl was also unfair with your ex b/f because your honest question is not a reason to break up with him. But since your b/f remaing without female company, he thinks that you will be good to satisfy his sexual tension. That is your decision if you want to make one or two times only sex with him, then really say bye-bye to each other. Time to time it is good, time to time it is not good.

Answer #4

Thats all i ever wanted from my ex, but i never got the answers i needed. He said, its in the past, it doesnt matter anymore. (An hour ago is in the past for him). You just have to tell yourself that everything he ever told you, were broken promises, and lies, and you cant build a future on that.

The more you try to analyze everything, the more confused, hurt, and angry you’ll get. Dont let it consume you, like i did. One day you will come to realize that he just wasnt YOUR Mr. Right!

Answer #5

He doesn’t want a relationship w/you, just wants to use you. Don’t wait for him to tell you the truth, he probably never will. Move on w/your life. There is someone out there for you.

Answer #6

It sounds like he just wants to be ‘friends w/ benefits’ …and he’s just using the situation to justify that.

Answer #7

man well i think he means that he just feels really bad

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