What are some good tips for my first time having sex??

I am 14 years old... my girlfriend has been on vacation and when she gets back she said she wants to have sex... I am really excited and can't wait... any tips to make the first time great??

I honestly don't think sex at 14 is a good idea. No matter how much you say you are ready, you aren't. Sex complicates relationships, all you want is sex. When the break up comes, it's harder, but we lost our virginity to each other wahhh! After the break up, omg you know he was sooo bad at sex, he couldn't even keep it up, and it was so tiny!/ She was so bad at sex, she had nasty boobs too, they were like lop sided! That's really how relationships with sex are at that age. Then of course pregnancy risk, condoms are not as efficient as the packaging says due to teenagers not knowing how to properly use condoms. Do you really want a baby at 14? Even an abortion, that's a big thing to go through, very emotional, has she thought of that? Then you starts this kind of behavior at that age risks of STD's rise. Then regret. You find the woman you love, the woman you want to live your life with, she's a virgin, you're not. You will really wish you waited. These are all things you need to consider before rushing into sex.

you should wait till your 16 but if you cant you need to be very gentle and slow listen to her and watch her expressions let her be your guide but its very important to go slow and gentle the first time

bubbles399 is absolutely right!!! you are not ready!!! you are just not in the shape,u are still developing in this age,u shouldn't do anything like that!!!

I'm doing it no matter what... I'm asking for tips,, not everyone telling me not to do it... otheriwse I would have put should I have sex at 14

Okay, well make sure your penis stay up(course that is really something you can't control!). Most teenage boys can't keep it up for a girl. It is frustrating and embarrassing for you both. Can't tell you time are time I have heard about a guy with preformance anxiety and the girl gives up on him.

I have no problem keeping it up when we do everything else...
I highly doubt that's gonna be a problem,, I need to know more about condoms

just hope I don't find you in parents and family section in a month or two. I'm 14 years old and going to be a father, what am I going to do?!

that's not gonna happen...
me and my girlfriend have been going out for over a year now,, this isn't just a spur of the moment thing... we have been discussing everything about sex for a while now... I think we are prepared and ready... but thank you very much for your advice(:

At 14, I'm sure you really are prepared...*sigh*

Do you have condoms, and is she on birth control...because if not, then your NOT prepared.

*I love how 13, 14, 15 yr olds think that first time sex will be great. You really ARE too young!

ok with all due respect just cause you feel ready doesnt mean you are.. just cause she says she wont regret it doesnt mean she wont... and quite frankly just cause you think you're mature enough doesnt mean you are and a year at your age means nothing... how about this true love waits, how much do you love her

Things get complicated once you start having sex, kiddo. Might want to stick to masturbating for at least two more years. Trust us.

haha Well your gonna do what your gonna do...
I lost my virginity at 13.
My boyfriend was 17 and well I thought I was sooo in love with him. We talked about it a lot.
And we always messed around. like oral and all that.
but on his birthday I gave him a little present and we had sex.
I thought I was all cool and thought I had the perfect life because me and him were in love and as soon as I was old enough I was gonna marry this man and the whole bit.
Well turns out he cheated on me...with a lot of girls.
more than just one. I'm talking like 6 maybe 7.
thats just sickening.
But he's changed a lot.
and is really into church.
But I don't talk to him much.
Well after having sex once I got it in my mind that well, I've already screwed it up so why does it matter.
So I continued having sex with other guys.
And I told my friends at school who are guys and they think it's all cool about sex and all that.
and there so interested in my stories.
and they have little girlfriends and they wanna bang them and all this stuff. but I've told them you guys should really wait. I've matured a lot because of my experiences being raped and everything else.
And I've got a few of them saving themselves for marriage.
and one of them did it with his girlfriend and once they broke up he came crying to me LITERALLY saying how much he wished he would of waited because he started thinking about the future and how it would be so much better if he saved himself for the perfect girl.
Look sex is fun and pleasurable, but When you go through more relationships the stuff you did before just becomes baggage. and your bringing it into that new relationship. and everytime you have sex your just giving a part of yourself away. and when your older your gonna wish you hadn't. I've had a lot of guys tell me they wish they wouldn't of lost there virginity at 13, 14, 15, 16 and so on. because now that these guys are in there 20's there hormones aren't going bizarre anymore.
so do what you want. just be careful and be safe.
you really should wait. but hey it's your life kid.

just wondering if you and your girlfriend went through with it and how it went?

yeah, me too. How did it go?