We moved in and it's no picnic

My boyfriend and I moved in together about three months ago. I#039;m 36 and he#039;s 46, and it is the first time living with someone for both of us. Before we moved in together, we had a few problems, but basically our life together was good--good...

enough that we planned to soon announce our engagment.

Now that we have moved in together, it#039;s a different story. We are fighting over the smallest issues, like shower curtains and toaster ovens, as well as larger issues like sex and communication. On my side, I#039;m angry because he#039;s frequently sarcastic, annoyed and insensitive to my feelings. On his side, he feels that I#039;m critical and obsessed with talking about my needs. That#039;s where the conflict lies for me--I feel I do need clear, kind communication and a loving sex life, and these things haven#039;t been in evidence much since we#039;ve moved.

To be fair, we haven#039;t been fighting every minute--we have managed to have some good times, and there are still things I like about him. But I#039;m wondering if I should cut my losses now and move on, or if I stick it out, I#039;ll be glad I did.

you have to realize that you are two independent adults moving together where schedules have to be made up based on your personal patterns. you also have to realized the difference between men and women. these two problems are minor but can escalate into something bigger. if these problems continue for a year, get out of the relationship or your personal life will go to hell. always be reasonable, though and try to not to get angry even if he does. one of you needs to take the high ground and hopefully the other partner will join you.

Another thing you need to take into consideration is that he's 46 years old and he's set in his ways. Yes, you can teach an old dog new tricks , but it will take a while for him to change. If you are wanting him to change, that never works. The communication thing could be a problem. If you don't communicate then everything else can fall apart. I hope things get better for you. I would suggest sticking it out a while longer, and see if you can come together in a compromise on the few things that you are having problems with. If not, then it may be time to move on. Please keep us posted on how things are going.