We both work hard, but i have to cook and clean after an 8 hour job

For a living my boyfriend runs his own business and does hard manual labor daily, I on the other hand sit in front of the computer in an office building. Sometimes, at the end of the day, I can be mentally exhausted and not want to do much of anything by...

the time I get home.

Since I only sit at a warm desk all day I am expected to clean and cook when I get home and essentially treat my boyfriend like a king. Sometimes I just don't want to do that, but there are also times when I put in 9 hours at work come home clean and cook. Am I being selfish? The 1950's are over and we both have our own professions, why am I expected to do all of the house work? Is this an act of control on his part or am I just a lazy bum.

Let me know!

I can see where you are coming from.
Its quite weird how that works. I used to work in front of a computer for hours a day sitting on my bum to, and when you get up... it feels like you did a lot of work even though you were just sitting there. I felt the same when I got home as I did when I was on my feet all day. Unless someone has had this type of career, they wont understand. But since I have been through that, I know how you feel. I think you should explain to him that things in the household need to be done by both parties, not only you. Yeah, your going to have to do some things... but, he should be helping as well. Split up the responsibilities You cook dinner, and while you do that I will go do some housework and put a load of laundry in the washing machine While I do the dishes, could you please clean off the table and sweep the floor. Show him you can do things, if he could just help you so everything can get done.

My dad is a builder so he's working with hard matterials like your boyfriend
my mother is a assistent manager for a natural food shoop, she works a lot, allmost she has no free time, there is lots of responsability in her job.
When we are all together at home my dad is doing most of the household work ...
I think that your boyfriend profit on the fact that you might think he is working really hard , I know that he is, but if he reallly loves you than he should change something, tell him that. You can both find fun in doing the household and all this stuff !!!