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Uguuuh. help me.

Asked by fau about 1 month ago, 11 answers.

Today, I accidentally found out that my father has been married before meeting my mother. I never knew this before. I wasn't even aware of it. If they find out I know I'll be deaddd, but it's making me feel weird and I don't know how to deal with it.

Answered by ichibanarky on Sep 24, 2009, 02:30PM
9058 answers

It was before he met your mother - in the past...let it go.

Answered by mangajanai on Sep 24, 2009, 02:30PM
17 answers

Thanks.

Answered by informer_220 on Sep 24, 2009, 02:30PM
1643 answers

I dont think this is something to be worried about...
what happened in the past, stays in the past...it wont change anything...

Answered by mangajanai on Sep 24, 2009, 02:31PM
17 answers

I hope not.

Answered by kdsmm on Sep 24, 2009, 02:40PM
586 answers

What's the big deal? Im certain your mom knows he was married before he met her... it's before your time, and therefor none of your concern. My mom was married before she met my dad, and my dad was married before he met my mom. They both divorced their respective ex's years before they met eachother. If your parents have been together all of this time, and you had NO IDEA about your dad's ex-wife, then it's not like they're going to get back together. You're being a bit silly about the whole thing. Just carry on like you've been your whole life. And don't meddle...

Answered by masterreilly on Sep 24, 2009, 02:42PM
15 answers

my dad was married and divorced before he met my mom. I wasnt aware until I was like 9. it really didnt make a difference and he didnt care that I knew.

Answered by disneyworld on Sep 24, 2009, 03:12PM
156 answers

I don't think it matters that your father got married to another woman before he met your mom. I also dont think it matters whether or not you know that he was with another woman.

Answered by mangajanai on Sep 24, 2009, 11:02PM
17 answers

Oh, ok. But, kdsmm, I think that you were a little harsh.

Answered by kdsmm on Sep 25, 2009, 07:37AM
586 answers

I didn't mean for it to be, so I'm sorry you took it that way. Re-reading it, I can see how you could though. I was trying to make you feel nonchalant about it by showing you how silly of a thing it was. I can see how if you read it (not knowing me personally) differently than I had intended that it could have come accross as harsh or callous.
The don't meddle part is there because you shouldn't try to poke and prod them and try to stir the pot about this- if they want to talk to you about it, they will, if not, just let it go. I'm sorry it came across as harsh- that genuinely wasn't my intention.

Answered by mangajanai on Sep 25, 2009, 08:41AM
17 answers

Thank you for helping me out. happy I appreciate it! I know what you mean. I wasn't planning on saying anything, really. ^_^ I'm just going to let it pass.