Two boyfriends at once

Okay, please dont write horriable mark or judgemental stuff, im not here for that, I'm here for ADVICE.. so please.. im gonna explain Boyfriend one and boyfriend 2 okay

boyfriend one, I've wanted for a very long time 4 years, I'd say, he wouldn't date...

me because I was under age, but we had a 'Fling' But it wasn't sex.. Just foreplay.. and than we decided to get together, soon as I got old enough, we've been dating for abotu 3weeks now.. but im not allowed to tell anyone till he says, because he wan'ts to see if it will work, I've wanted boyfriend one for a very long time, and I do love him, but sometime he acts like he doesnt care and I've spoken to him about this last night, when my other fella was in the room on msn.. I said to boyfriend one if he knew what it was liek to show hes care and to pick up the dam phone a TEXT once in a while. and he said he would.. But he going bed now.. So I was just like fine night, and off he went, the morning he left me, and mgs on msn going, O.o hi.. happy now?.. so I texted him because he had gone offline, going no that wasnt a text, he texts back going '-_-' witch is a pissed of emotion.. so I said, thats better lol x snuggled in bed and smile-.. he never texted back... he has made a little bit of effort today, but like I said he's all I've ever wanted... but he lives about hour and hafe away, and he's always busy with work, But when I go down and stay at my mates I see him quite abit as he lives next door to my mate, and he's my other mates brother.. (moved away 2years ago).. I know he'll never come up to were I live, because of work he works full time, so its pretty hard.. but im planing in a few year times, to moved back down to were he lives..

Boyfriend two... Well, I met him of the internet, and I've been see-ing him as mates for ages, and doing stuff wot mates would do..and I known from the start that hes like me, but he just isnt my type.. I couldnt see my self with a future with him.. but he does make me happy. and he's pretty romantic, yeasterday we wern't even dating and he brought me chocolates propeer suprise that was.. He turned up at my door with chocolates.. and then we watched some dvd's and I was abit hor*ny and just jumpped on him and started kissing, him, and after that he said wow I've been waiting for that for a long time.. and he asked if I was he's girlfriend so I said yeah .. but I couldnt leave him now, he So happy that hes with me, I dont wan't to break he's heart... And he also lives near me.

you see I don't know what to do, I've wnated boyfriend one for so long, and now im just stuck in this situation, I dont want to go let Boyfriend two go, If boyfriend one at the end of the day says he doesnt want a Relationship with me, as boyfriend one has said, he doesnt want me to telll anyone yet... wot do I do -_-

Boyfriend 1 doesn't seem very committed to you. You're there at his convenience, and even forbids you to tell anyone about the relationship - that alone raises some alarms.

Boyfriend 2 seems to legitimately appreciate you and is willing to make the effort. He wants you.

You may have wanted boyfriend 1 all your life, but that doesn't mean he's the right guy for you...as for boyfriend 2 - you say he's not your 'type', but that kind of thought has made many people regret their decisions. Your 'type' isn't always what you'd expect.

I'm not vying for one over the other - all I'm doing is giving you an unbiased opinion on how I see the situation...the choice is yours.

I agree with ichibanarky.

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 20, and he's told everone that we're together, even if most don't agree with the age difference. So the fact he wants it a secret would make me worry a bit about him maybe having commitment issues.
I've learned from experience, long distance relationships never work, even if you love the guy to bit. I was like that last year. I would always see my long-distance boyfriend, 2 hour train ride, every weekend. He spilt up with me for no reason (or reasons he wouldn't tell em) after almost 3 months.

I would say go for Boyfriend 2. He seems more genuine,
As for the :not your type' thing, my current boyfriend of 4 months wasn't my type. I'm more into emo/dark guys my age, he's more a outgoing, likes dance music and is older.

Love changes people.

It's your choice, hun

I've been in the same thing as you and trust me go wit boyfriend #2!
trust me the samee exact thing happend to me me and my #1st boyfriend have been dating 4 like a year and 1 month I love him a lot and I wanted him since 4th grade33 but I met this other guy and hes soo sweet kind and cute I like them both but the second 1 made me feel speacial like I was someone and number 1 didn't really care he was always flirting and everything but then I elt bad so I chose boyfriend number 1 and it was the worst dicison I only picked him because I liked him the longest =[ and he ended up having a girlfriend already so it doesn't matter who you knew the longest its who makes you happy who would text you at anytime and even take you out not someone who you have to ask just to text you the way you describe 2 is soo nice and I think you shoulf give him a chance 333 well I don't know but tell me more about them fun email m=] good luck hope this helped??

you seem to have feelings more for boyfriend one ONLY b/c you have known and wanted him longer. But what does that change? you waited that long for him b/c you wanted him. And now you have him. How does it feel? It looks like it is hurting you. And plus, no guy should ever be ashamed of his girl or his decision. you were his decision, and tho you are so much younger than him, he shudnt put that on you to make it a secret that you are dating. Boyfriend two sounds like the type of guy that would buy the moon with all the money he owns just to see you smile. One that will love you and take care of you in ways that #1 never will. Im not telling you who to pick, but maybe instead of following the desire you have had for a long time, you could try believing in someone new versus the love you've always known. Good luck.

Thinking about it, I was in a similar situation to you with the boyfriend one thing. (no other boyfriend thou, lol)
I had wanted him for 3 years.
He was my best friend.
He had dated 3 of my other mates before me.
We hardly saw each other even though we went to the same school.
1 month and a half later was my birthday, which he planned something big, but for some reason kept ringing the wrong number on the day.
Even a week later he didn't mention anything about my birthday that had pasted.
I then broke up with him, only to find a month later from my mate that he was cheating on me with her.
I thought he was the one. But he wasn't.
Sometimes the one you see your self with in the future neve do get that far.
Just go with your heart.
Pretend that you haven't wanted one for a long time.
Weigh out the cons and pros and see where you're gonna be treated right, treated the way you want to be treated.
And about not having a girlfriend for a while, that should be anything to do with it. My boyfriend didn't have a girlfriend for about 1 year before me, and he textes me all day, and phones me just before he goes bed.
Just go with your heart, hun