Trust, insecurity and jealousy

My boyfriend says I'm insecure and wants to end the relationship. My jealousy bothers him. He goes to a bar every day to drink and says he likes to flirt. He sees nothing wrong with flirting because he says it makes people feel good.
When we go out to eat, he interacts with the waitress and keeps the conversation going with her the entire time. That bothers me and he gets mad. He says it's just casual conversation.
I don't trust him.

hey!

its not your fault that you act the way you do.. nor is it his because thats his nature. I know a lot about this particular subject, as im a Flirtatious dude, and will my ex was havin problems with me flirting with almost every girl! it wasnt my fault, I just liked to get people smiling and well being friendly, but I really really liked my ex though.. but things got too much, and well she had a feelin of distrust, thing was Im a Honest guy and never would cheat on her...

I dont think girls fully understand when guys do that.. but we understand where you girls are comin from.. I guess if you like him a lot, and wel not sure on your current situation but if you think it could get deep with him, I personally think you gotta make a decsion between Trust and Jealousy. If you like him so much so you can trust him a little, then belive him that he's makin convo and trust that he'll always Like u , the other girls are just there so he can see them happy... however if you cant and your jealousy drivin you crazy, thats not your fault, however obviously its not going to be good for the relationship x

but this is just a guys advice, hope some girls could get some feeback on here.. x

Imiz x

Hi,

it's a bit of a tough one, but I think it's like imiz told you, is it miss-trust or jealousy? Even still, if it's making you feel bad and he is aware of what he's doing and how it's making you feel then maybe he should try and understand that and put himself in your shoes. If it's something that he does naturally and never leads to anything, then thats the way he'll always be, which isn't bad, just difficult for you to handle which may cause a divide between you both. There is a fine line there, it's just trying to figure out how far to cross it. You can't help that it makes you feel the way it does, it's natural when you have feelings for someone, just some people can ignore it, some can't. I would ask him how he would feel, but he may just say he would be fine with it. If it is something that really gets you down, ask yourself how long you could see yourself coping with it before you explode?

A females imput...I won't get into too much detail about how I feel about it..But if it bothers you and he really loves you then he would want you to be happy. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. I understand that friendly is just some peoples personality but I think there is a time and place for it. If he cares about your happiness then he should commit to trying to not do it as much to other women...If you notice he only being extra friendly with women then you may not have just a happy go luck guy on your hand! I have dated guys that flirt with women just to p*ss me off or make me jealious...thats not a healthy relationship. I wouldn't put up with that! You can also tell him that EVERYONE has insecuriities...they may not show it or directly know it but it is human nature...because we are all not the same which makes us feel different...which causes insecurities. There are a lot of men out there...not all of them flirt with the opposite sex. If he respects your feelings then he should want to work on it. If hes not willing then you should move on because its not fair to keep yourself in a relationship that you are not happy in, on the other hand its not fair to him if you continue to date him and are not happy with how he is, the longer you are with a person the harder it is to end a relationship.

a lot of guys are like that they are flirtasious. Mine guy is like that but when whenever I see him talking to a girl and shes laughing and stuff. I always gotta remind myself that he calls me and spends his time talking to me. If he really didnt want me he would have gotta rid of me already. There are guys out their who think they are bigger then they are and might get angry if you say anything to them, because they feel they have the right because their personility is like that. But you know that they will come down to earth eventully because their is someone out there that thinks their better then them and will bring them down to earth