Torn... another long question lol

What would you do, if you were in a relationship, and you loved the other person.. and you knew the other person loved you... but they treated you like crap over stupid stuff all the time...

I've been with my girl for 3 years now, We have 2 kids,...

they're not mine biologically but I love em with all my heart and wish that they were mine, our daughter actually looks like me which is wierd lol... but I mean, I could just make a tiny little mistake, like forgetting to bring her ketchup, and all I got to do is walk to the fridge and get the damn ketchup, but it starts a huge fight, because Im apparently a retard. Sometimes I'm hard of hearing, and she knows this, yet still gets pissed off if she has to repeat herself... Our fights have started small and always blown up, and we fight at least every other day. It's even gotten physical, she's gone to jail over it, because the neighbors called the cops, and she admitted to them that she hit me lmao, kinda dumb if you ask me, I even told the cops not to arrest her but apparently state law says they have to even if I didn't want em too... I could hit her back if I want to, but I don't want to hurt her so I just let her throw her fit, and block her attacks and thats the end of it, most of the time lol... She's done some really crazy sh*t since we've been togather..

when we're not fighting, it's great, or it used to be at least, but the more stuff she does to hurt me, the less I feel like I love her anymore, and I really do want to love her... But the more I want to love her the more I realize that maybe I shouldn't love her anymore than a friend. we're engaged, but my ring gets thrown at me once every other week, it's even been thrown out the car window. Our relationship is on the rocks. I just got a new 3 bedroom house so the kids could each have their own room and now things are really good but she still trips on me all the time. Now I've met someone that has a genuine interest in me, and I can't stop thinking about her... And I feel bad because I still love my girl, always will, but what if I'm just wasting my time, she's already hit me and cheated on me, so why not explore other possibilities right?
I mean, we haven't had a spark in a long time, and this new girl I'm talking to, she makes me feel great, and she's really attractive and sweet and she seems to be more on my level. Sooo I'm kinda torn here, though I just met this new girl, and we're still feeling things out, and we will be for a while, because I won't rush into anything, but what do ya'll think? Am I wrong for having feelings for someone else? I can't help it, Everytime I hear from this girl, I get the butterflys, it's uncontrollable.. She just makes me feel... Good, really really good.. and I don't want to hurt my girl, even though she always hurts me, If we break, I want it to be a clean break, which after 3 years is really hard. My current girl makes music with me and is on a ton of our songs too, and music is really important in my life. I have decided that the new girl I'm talking to makes me feel 100% better than my girl does, and that I really do have a spark with this new girl. Can anyone offer some advice?

End your current relationship and move out. I was with my fiancee 2.5 years we were to marry 3 months ago but I found a girl's name in his cell. She was having phone sex/text with him. I was devasted. If he would have only been truthful and we worked it our or he allowed me to know the truth.

Men get bored. If you're a woman and have kids you are pulled in many directions adding work into the mix. We get bogged down and yes forget about the spark we use to have with our man only because we are consumed with day to day.

If you love her seek counseling. There is no reason to bring another woman into the relationship. New is always fun but remember when it was new with your woman? Be truthful it's less painful in the long run if you can see yourself with her forever get counseling start new and start different things. You have to change what worked six months ago needs to be fine tuned.

Take it from me, I am in month three and the devastation could not have been so harsh if he truly loved me he would have not been deceitful. You reap what is sown.

I've never made her work in 3 years, her only job is 2 take care of the kids, thats all I ask of her, that and she straightens up because the kids like to wreck stuff, I pay all the bills food and phone and I always work, I make sure they have it good and she doesn't appreciate it at all, it's kind of upsetting. I was considering ending the relationship so that I could pursue a whole new relationship, but I don't know exactly what to do, I know for now I just got to keep getting to know my new friend, because she's really awesome

dude...even if you havent met a new girl!!! DUMP your girlfriend..She's crazy!! and your even crazier 4 still being with her!!! Thats all I got to say...

U know how many times family and friends have told me that lol. I dunno, it's like when she's not being crazy she makes up for it... but I feel like I do way 2 much for her 2 get treated like crap. And the messed up thing is, That now, she's still kinda bad, but she's getting a little better and at this point I'm just so fed up with it that I don't want to deal with it anymore... And I'm worried about her if we break up, what'll happen to her and the kids? I dunno, life is complicated

I don't plan on starting a relationship with the new girl, until the relationship with my current girl is over, me and this new girl, we're just friends, although we have both openly expressed interest in eachother, we both know the situation and are remaining friends to get to know eachother with no pressure. And my girl, she hasn't had her kids for the whole summer, they come back wendsday... We've been to dinner, we've been out drinking, we've been to the beach, we've been to the movies.. Nothing I do is ever good enough, so I dunno... I really feel like I want it to be over with, but then when It comes down to it I can't do it...

Neither one of you is happy with each other, and thats not good for the kids either, abuse is wrong by anyone, you are a nice guy and deserve to be treated as such, you treat people the way you want to be treated, my grandmother always told me you,ll when the right one comes along, it will be like butterflys in your stomach, it feels wonderful, thats how you know, your a good guy an don,t settle for abuse.

the messed up part is that Now I think she's finally changing, and it may be to late, and even if I'm falling out of love with her, the fact that I really don't want to her her, is proof that I do still love her, but just because I love her doesn't mean that I want to be with her. But at this point, I dunno waht to do, I just want to scream... I really really like this new girl, but I would never want to do anything to hurt my current girl, it really sucks, and deep down it hurts so bad...

your heart will tell you when you have had enough, you have been in a relationship for 3 years now , you are thinking of the kids , I don,t see her changing, you will see, like I said don,t feel guilty, go where your heart tells you , and for Gods sake don,t take any abuse, tell her it is not becomming, VISULIZE A WHITE LIGHT, and ask that white light to dispel any dark energy from entering your energy field, also those that you love, just ask God to surround you in the white light, do it every morning when you get up,

In your heart, you know what is right and what is wrong. You know what will ultimately move you ahead and what will hold you back. Though you may be very good at rationalizing against it, the truth is evident when you make the effort to look for it. Though others may be skilled at talking you out of it, you know what is best for your life...
Go with your heart. Listen to that voice inside you, the one which makes the most sense and which, in retrospect, is almost always right. In a world where deceit too often is just another strategy, develop a habit of seeing the truth with your heart and not just your eyes...
No matter who else might want to take credit for it, the fact is that you have succeeded in bringing yourself this far. And you are the person best equipped to move yourself positively into the future. The value of your life experience is not only in your mind. It is embedded in your heart. Look at the world with all the good that is within you, and you will see it with sparkling clarity...