Too young - mother's fear

My 16 year old daughter has recently befriended an almost 20 year old male with whom she is obviously very interested. The age thing is way off and to make matters worse, in my eyes, he is black - she is white. My gut says red flag - she is very...

inexpereinced - still very much a virgin, doesn't drink, drug - just graduated from high school one year early - and I am in a panic. What can I do to calm my fears and let it go? Of should I try to make her see the things that could happen?

You have to always follow your gut instinct in my opinion. It is usually right.

Don't try to invoke fear in her with what -might- happen. Instead have a mother-daughter outing for a serious talk. (Take her to dunkin dounuts for frappuchinos!) Ask her about her feelings for this guy and what SHE thinks his intentions are. If her thoughts about him seem to be too naive then you can clue her in and wake her up. Make sure she knows how to say no to a guy and that her right to say no is there. She may just want him as a sweet boyfriend but this guy may want more than what she is aware of. Let her know that it's not always good to have to learn from your mistakes.

Hope things work out for you!

Mom Mom Mom. She graduated 1 year early, this means 2 things, 1: she was with people older then her. 2: shes a bright girl. It may seem like a big age difference and it probaly scares the heck out of you BUT give her some freedom, UNTIL something appears wrong. talk to her, tell her you wont make her stop seeing him but you would like to know where things go. And dont steriotype him as a black guy obviously hes gotta be nice if your daughters with him. rite?? give her some space, just dont let it get out of hand

well...this is hilarious bce i am a 16 yr.old in that same situation...exact same. except i graduated 2 years early. see what im wondering is what im supposed to think of him. could someone please give me some insight...bce i know i am extremely mature and i have always gotten along better with people who r older than i, but that was on a friendly basis. on a more relationship basis how does age play in? i know im mature but mature and experienced r two different things....i am definitely not someone u could call experienced with relationships.....could someone please give me some straight forward advice?

also...to the mother who posted this question...i dont know ur daughter but i do know that by describing her situation u described mine as well....from knowing what i know about myself, i dont think that ur daughter will be making any decisions without thinking it through. virginal, sober,inexperienced, girls who have skipped grades have that reputation BECAUSE WE THINK BEFORE WE DO. i believe that is the decision ur daughter will make. i do not want to go into this thing with this guy blindly....and as far as i can tell, neither will ur baby girl.

Well i dont think that the fact that shes white and hes black should matter.. you cant help who u fall in love with.. i think your daughter will be fine... she graduated high school a year early..shes smart she can make her own decisions... if she really loves him then you should try to like him as well as he might some day be ur future son-in-law...

im 16... how sure are you that she is reallly as pure as you say she is... and if she is.. then it must mean that she has tooken good care of herself untill now.. and she probably wont give into anything dumb if she hasnt already... so just tell her what you think in a calm understandable way that she doesnt take offense too and just tell her that you trust her to do the right thing... because you obviously do trust her if you are sure that she hasnt doen anything bad yet