To have everything and to loose it all so quickly...

About a month and a half agoo, I was with one of the best boyfriend's ( lets call him X ) I have ever had, it lasted 2 months and since then all I've ever wanted is to have him back. I lost my virginity to him and since we broke up things havent been the...

same for me.

The relationship ended really badly...I was going to dump him anyway becoz I wasnt happy, but I thought it through and I changed my mind, too many people got involved and he found out about this, then he dumped me. I cried and cried all day at school, and continuosly for the next 2 days. I txt him the next day to see if we cud sort things out but he sed he didnt feel rite anymore.

I got back with one of my ex's and had sex with him... even though it was better than X I still didnt enjoy it as much as I did with X. We took it slow and it was I guess you cud say romantic in a way. But with my ex we basically took it fast, I liked it but I like it with X better whether it felt better or nawt. My friend was sayin how its probs because X was my first and all, that I felt closer to him that way but I don't know really. I was a badd girlfriend and I can admit that, I asked him if it was because of that and he sed no, but yet I still think it is.

I cant get him out of my mind, since we broke up, which was almost 2 months ago, normally with all my ex's I can get over them so quickly, even after my 7 month rl I got over them within 2 weeks, but with X he's always there in my head, constantly, even when I don't even think of him, yet he appears and I wish things were different...I don't know what to do, he doesnt even want to tlk to me anymore, I don't know what I did wrong...I just love him still and I wish I had treated him the way he shud have been, I was trying to change him at some points, but I really regret that, I shud have been happy with what I had. I still get told it was my fault this happened and it upsets me more, I've tried not to cry again but im about to crack and I don't know what I can do...
can you guys help me?? please x

hi. who tells you the break up was your fault? funmail me and we can mail. mail is easier than posting everything on questions and stuff lol. was your relationship good with him? did you both feel happy together? please let me no and I will probably be able to help

Girls are wired to form an emotional attachment to a guy she has sex with. Guys are not made that way. This is why you are having a hard time breaking away from him. You need to realize that as a teen, bringing sex into a relationship usually isnt a good idea, because boyfriends come go, and for the most part, sex ruins the more important aspects in a dating relationship For one thing, it tends to be the main focus, and thats not what a dating relationship is suppose to be about. You never gave him a chance to really get to know you inside, before jumping in the sack with him. Sex doesnt make a guy fall for you, it serves no purpose for young dating teens, and foe you to compare both ex's to whos better in bed is rediculous. You're wrong if you think that a string of sexual relationships will lead to a lasting love during the dating process. If you do, you'll likely deal with a great deal of dissatisfaction and be very unfulfilled.

I never meant I based a relationship around sex, I just wanted to make clear how I felt about the sex, that I didnt care about it, I was sayin I loved him whether we had sex or nawt, and things were fine before then he knew all he cud know about me, I was the one who made the choices and the one choice I made a mistake on and I regret it now, not becoz of him but me was that I chose to have sex with him.

**I got back with one of my ex's and had sex with him... even though it was better than X I still didnt enjoy it as much as I did with X. We took it slow and it was I guess you cud say romantic in a way. But with my ex we basically took it fast, I liked it but I like it with X better whether it felt better or nawt. My friend was sayin how its probs because X was my first and all, that I felt closer to him that way but I don't know really.**Thats not mentioning HOW you felt about sex, you were basically making a comparison!

**and things were fine before then he knew all he cud know about me,**Didnt I say that sex usually ruins young relationships?
No one can possibly know everything they can about someone in 2 mos.

I am sick of hearing all of the same answers...I know that isnt the reason things didnt work out, and yes I did compare but that was because people were saying that to me it was all about the sex when honestly it wasnt. I hate the fact everyone says that sure things were fine before that, he was only in it for the sex, I know partly he probably was, but I also know that he just wanted an ordinary realtionship with everything in it, and I coudnt give him that properly because I was too busy trying to make him perfect, the guy I have always imagined and I recon THATS what ruined everything, I shud of loved him for him and I did, but yet I wanted more. So tbh the sex had nothing to do with it, I just said that because I wanted to prove that I didnt care about the sex as much as I did about him personally. And I know your gonna keep saying that no one can know everything about someone in such short time and I know, that was my mistake I got carried away on making the decision, he did make sure I wanted to do it or not. I already said I regret it...the whole thing is my fault and I just want him back to show im not the same, I want a second chance.

Not all relationships are for a lifetime. To love someone is to allow that person to be who and what they are. This is how you sort who is and isn’t right in your life.

I know but everyone deserves a second chance right??
Im gonna have to make the first move or at least get him out of my head...