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What would you do in my shoes??? say you went to a party and your mom got wasted and started going crazy trying to fight people and you were drunk yourself. what if your mom made a fool out of herself and your ashamed for drinking and people are mad at both of you. what would you try to do to get their forgiveness back??? I am really close with these people and i love them to death but i think i ruined it and i want to try and get it back so how do i do it?
What did you do directly, other than get drunk? Whatever it is that you did, you can only apologize and make amends for that directly. You can say that your mom's behavior embarrassed you as well, but you can only fix for your half.
So what you do is go over there, bring some flowers, say you made a stupid mistake and that you really are sorry. Offer to clean/replace/rectify whatever it is you broke/ruined/did wrong, and ask what you can do to receive the forgiveness and promise never to do again. That's how you apologize.
It's like this--a person came to my house drunk and broke something important, but replaceable. Rather than come over to my house the next day with a replacement of what she broke with an apology, she just said, "dude, I'm so sorry I broke that." and left it at that. When you do something wrong, you have to try to fix what you did wrong, along with the verbal apologizy. That's what makes it real, that's what makes it sincere. Just saying, "I'm sorry" and leaving what's broken stay broken is not a valid apology.
Make sense? Good luck.
Dear vrel1, If you are under age and drinking with your mother and this is something you've done before then you both really need to seek out counselling ASAP. A parent is not your drinking partner and should be there as a good example for you. If you are of age and you and your mother go out occasionally, drink and party then either way the advice will be the same. The people your mother offended are her responsibility. She is the one to apologize to them not you. Why are they mad at you...children (usually) follow their parents examples...if you're mother has trouble with booze then she needs counselling and so may you. Sue...good luck
IMHO: Don't know....it appears both of you MAY have made complete fools of yourselves in someone elses home....you may not even remember all you did or who you may have hurt/embarassed....you both should SINCERELY apologize immediately and see if you can make ammends/pay for damages if needed....then seriously ask yourselves Honestly, are we alcoholics ? Do we need help ?
