Thinking of becoming a mom

I'll be 23 next month and my boyfriend and I of 3 years are thinking of having a baby? I have my own apartment, own car, and a job. but I'm scared of having a child. I'm scared of waking up at 3am for diaper changes and feeding. I'm also scared...

of having to take care of someone for the rest of my life and the pain during labor. please give me some advice...

Its okay to be scared of becoming a mommy. It shows that you are really thinking about it. There is nothing wrong with being scared of those things, but there are things that you can do to help prepare you more, like reading articles. http://www.babycenter.com/ is a really great place to start, as they have plenty that you can read about becoming pregnant.
For those fears... Well, for the labor pain, there is always the epidural, which I hadn and it was much easier, because I didn't feel the contractions. What a contraction feels like is when you get cramps during your period. The feeding can be really easy. I breast fed my daughter, and she also slept with us in the bed, so that I didn't have to get up and fix a bottle when she woke up in the middle of the night, hungry. That way, we both pretty much slept through the night.Breastfeeding also helps the bond between yourself and the baby.
The fear of having to take care of someone is resonable, but after you have the baby, all those things seem less important, because of how much you will love that child. It makes it all worth it.
Good luck.

if your afraid of those things then your not ready

If thats what your worried about then maybe your not ready to be a mom. Those things changing diapers and feeding the baby are the simple things. Babies entitle a lot more then just changing and feeding... take time and think about it...

you might not be ready yet
to be a mum

kk goodluck

It's normal to be scared, I'm scared of all those things, but I know once I have my baby it will all be worth it. you won't care about how much it hurt or that you have to wake up during the night for feedings and diapers. I've been watching shows like a baby story and bringing home baby to prepare myself and reading articles.

I was scared of the same thangs you are...but after I had my first child I got used to everythang...Ya I hated waking up every 2 or 3 hrs in tha middle of the night...but jus think of it this way the baby will get older and you wont have be waking up that much...and tha pain during labor hurts bad I cried but get the epidural...I didnt feel a thang after I got that...and if you dont get an epidural it hurts really bad on my 2nd child I didnt have time to get it and it hurts reallly bad and I cried.

being scared is something ever person is those fears just tell you are a normal person... I was scraed to have my first (yes I was a lot younger but still know pregnant again I have the same fears and I already have two sons) but all the fears in the world go away when you see your darling child its mother insticnt to know what to do and those wake up calls at 3 in the moring arent so bad. (I think I was getting up more then my first son was to make sure he was still alive) trust me there are pains with having a child but it dosent seem to matter once you are holding your baby. I went natural with both of my sons it hurt and I cried but nothing can explain the feeling it was and it wasnt such a bad pain. I didnt take the pain killers because I anted to feel everything and not be num good luck and im sure you will be a fine mom

it will be a huge change in both your relationship.. it will mean that you wont have time for each other as much as you have had... I have a 7 month old and my fiance of 3 years walked out on me last week cus I didn have as much time for him... an she was planned.. so be careful in what use plan... it is a big commitment...

good luck...

hey hun let me say this much...it dont matter what age a woman is when she thinks of having a baby its scarey at any age...I've been trying for a baby for the past 8 years with my partner,,,im 28 and I found out 3 weeks ago im pregnant ( yipiee) but was I scared,,OF COURSE I was,,its a whole new person to think about and no matter what that baby comes first...as for labour pain and so on yes thats bound to be scarey for any woman on her first baby as it is for me also...but im sure the pains well worth that bundle in your arms...and also the way I look at things is this way...labour must be a pain soon forgotten as woman go on to have,4,5,6,kids so it cant be that bad can it?? if you and your partner feel ready,go for it,im sure you will make great parents.best of luck to you both and your near future xx

one more thing hun...theres many horror stories floating around and everyone likes to think they are experts when it comes to things like this..no ones perfect...but they are quick to let them horror stories come out...and it that alone scares the shits out of people...do what you feel is right in your heart learn by your own experiances through pregancy,but ignore horror stories,,every woman is diffrent ,,ok it may have been bad for them,but just because it was bad for them dont mean it will be for you.like I said were all diffrent...some are great at handling pain whereas others are not,depends on how high or low your pain threshold is..im sure youll be fine best of luck

maybe you should wait taking care of a child can be hard for a single mother