The thrill was never there

I've been married for 13 years, and I don't think I've ever been 'in love' with my husband. Before we had children, we were closer and had fun together, but in the past few years, I've started feeling more like he's a roommate than a spouse. We have sex about once a month, and if I initiate it, it's only because I want sex--not because I want sex with HIM. I've never been that pysically attracted to him. He's handsome, but his body leaves a bit to be desired.
I don't think I would seek a divorce because we do have children and (as selfish as this sounds) I do like having a partner. We're used to each other, and I don't think I want to start all over again with someone else at this point in my life. I worry that once the kids are grown and out of the house, we'll have nothing left at all. As it is, I'm the one taking care of the kids and handling all the school stuff--homework, meetings with teachers, etc. He's more of a spectator than anything else.
I recently left a job where I had an emotional affair with a coworker for about 2 years. We never got physically intimate, but we had many long conversations and went to lunch together about once a week. I was very attracted to him, and if he had ever made a pass at me, I think I would have definitely responded. Now I'm at a new job, and there is a new guy I've kind of been hanging around with. Again, nothing physical has happened, but he's extremely attractive (much moreso than the previous guy) and I would love to kiss him. I don't really want to have extramarital sex with someone, but the thought of kissing no man except my husband for the rest of my life is somewhat depressing. Is it so wrong to want to steal some kisses from someone else?

being bored with your relationship after 13 years is probably common but thinking about making moves or wanting to with someone else is actually wrong. I know your probably not attracted to your husband but if he did kiss another girl and you found out or caught him doing it wouldnt you b upset? think about how he would feel....

I think that maybe you should seek a divorce. I think you would really be happy with someone else. I dont know about the children....maybe they wont mind as much as you think they will. just dont ignore them for your new man. if your bored with the relationshp, chances are, he is too. lemme know what happens...

I am in a very similar situation to yours. We have also been married for 13 years and have a 7 year old daughter. We separated for a year and a half about three years ago, but ended up getting back together. He wanted to get back together the whole time, but I was dating someone else that I was REALLY attracted to. Of course, he turned out to be a total jerk, and we broke up so I began to think I had made a huge mistake a went back home. I was never very attracted to my husband anyway, but after I had been with someone I was attracted to and knowing how good that feels- it makes being with my husband impossible. We've been back together for about three years now, and it's no better than it was when I left- but like you said, it is comfortable. I'm just beginning to think that life is too short to waste being stuck with someone I'm not attracted to. But back to your problem, if you do act on your impulses (which I have done while married) it makes your husband look less and less attractive. The idea of being with someone you are attracted to will make you want to do crazy things. Does he know how you feel about the attraction thing?