Should I tell him that I love him?

Okay pple...well I am 19 and as you can tell my question is about holding my feelings or letting them out! well I have a best friend his name is Jeremy...we've been friends a lil over 7 years now...and well I've known him 8 but the first year I was in a bad time and I hanged out w.the wrong pple...so here comes along a kid with a big time fro on his head...lol* I mean you couldnt even see his face...***I even thought he was korean***...lol but no he's 1/2...caucassion, mexican...anyhow my friends and I made fun of him and called him "afro-thunder"..***wierd nickname huh...***lol I don't know what we were thinking...lol so he hatted me ...and dont know how but da next year we were friends***...dont remember how*** but we were like super close best friends...so close that to other pple it was as if we were boyfriend and girlfriend because we would do everything 2gether and always sit next 2 eachother...and talk a lot...***even our teacher got mad @ us for disturbing the class and told us to hook-up after class*** >>>totally offensive>>> lol =) well weve always been good friends like that and I've always been there for him and him sumwhat w.me...We are really close I mean really...so much that its normal for me now if he would come and just bite me or wike at me and send me kisses! dats how close we are!!! ...well recently I discovered that he had told my cousin that he had a huge crush on me when we were in art class 2gether our Junior year!..I was like =O...***r you serious.!!!*** Oviously I thought what a dork!!! because at that same time, I, also like him!!!... jijiji...=) The reason he said that he didnt tell me was that he didnt want to lose what we had!!! He didnt want to stop being my bestfriend and loose contact w.me! So I guess its okay...I rather b friends than nothing at all!...***past experience***(((and still miss him)))...Anywho...well Now he is ...Engaged...=(( ...and I admitt I still feel sumthing for him!!! ...My question is...should I ruin everything and tell him what I feel for him ***that I love him*** (((or))) just keep it the way it is...let him be happilly engaged and us keep being friends???... please give me sum suggestions..!!! Its brakeing my heart! =((

Whoa, this is a tough one. Hmmm...

You need give us some info about his fiance, and their current relationship...

Well He told me once that he isnt totally in Love w.her...he said that if sumthing would happen adn they would brake up...He would be like whatever about it!!! ...He also said that he really likes her and that she has been there for him and always loveing to him...that she basically worships him...and I feel that he is trying to make himself fall in love w.her...I think that he does like her...but to sum extant..I think he doesnt love her..because to say...that he wouldnt really care if they would brake up...dats not love dats like forcing himself to b w.her just because he feels that da person he should b with and marry and end up w. should love him unconditionally adn b there for him ...well da basic stuff ...but he doesnt get that just because she does feel that for him doesnt mean that he HAS to feel that way 2! He is forcing himself to feel that way! He has also told me that sumtimes he just doesnt want to b around her...*** Like if he sees her comming hes like...damn it!...LOL but seriously he told me that at times he feels like not even seeing her or spending time w.her! Also he said that she is too quiet! that she wont talk to him or keep a conversation! shell be all shy and not even say a word! & he is a funny, talkative, silly person that love 2 have fun! Not b all serious and all quiet! I mean theyve had sex and shes still quiet???...comon now what is that?!?! ... well I just dont think he loves her and hes forcing himself to be w.her! I mean it doesnt matter if he never ends up w.me but as long as hes happy it all okay...and that he actually does LOVE da person hes with...not force and make things work!!! well I love him and I guess he' ll never know unless he follows his heart and decide if he does love her or not! ...But I hope he still has a sumwhat feeling for me!!!***...=) ...that would make me so...happy! =) even everyone we know tells us we should be 2gether or if weve ever dated bfor! ...lol like one of my ex-managers was talkn 2 him and telling him what kind of girl he should have and she said that she thinks that I would be perfect for him and he said ..."but that he already has a girlfriend" well I guess I've written a lot now so thanx for reading and ill keep you posted w.this hole LOVE TRAGEDY*** =(

It sounds like he's got a one-sided relationship. She loves him and idolized him, but he doesn't return the feelings. Instead, he's just sort of 'along for the ride' ...maybe he thinks his feelings for her will grow with time.

Regardless, he shouldn't be engaged (A) with someone he has 'inconsistent' feelings for, (B) with someone he doesn't know well enough, and (C) at such an early age.

Marriage is NOT always the next logical step anymore. Considering their personality differences, I doubt it will work out. He needs to reconsider what he's doing, and YOU (his best friend) need to help him realize that he's rushing things; with a person he's probably not compatible with in the long run...

hMmm, I kind of know how you feel.

I've been having feelings with my really really really close friend. for abt 2 years now. I have a lot of fun with him and there was a point that we both had feelings for each other.. but not right now.
the thing is, hes one of them people, where your always going to have feelings for buh you cant really do anythign abt it. I dunt know how he feels abt me, we re sexually attracted to each other.. im attracted to him in more ways though. >< .
the bad thing is, I have a boyfriend rite now and hes all great.. buh my feeligns for my friend is sooo strong ><.. and like you, I dunno if I shud tell him anytime soon, because I dont want to get rejected and make our friendship relationship akward..
as lame as it sounds.. I just recently wrote him a letter spilling everything.. I havent given it to him yet.. waiting for the right time.. I dunno when that is..

well.. I dunno awt you decide with, but just do what you think is best for you..