Teen mommy2be

Hi, I am ashley modine I am 18 years old from billings, mt I am currently expecting a baby and my mother and I have two disputes... breast feeding and finding out if its a boy or a girl ... my mom thinks I should not find out the sex of the baby...

till he/she is born ...what do you think? also, I have a fear of breast feeding but I heard and my mother tells me that it gives you a connection to your child . I am not looking for an easy way out but I feel that I should just bottle feed is this a wrong decision? what do you prefer?

Finding out the sex of the baby has it's pros and cons.
If you know what it is, you can prepare the room and buy appropriate clothing, but it takes away the surprise. It's an amazing feeling when the baby comes out and you're just waiting to hear those words it's a boy/girl. You can't ever get that feeling back once it's gone.
You need to figure out what's more important to you...the joy, or the preparedness.

Breastfeeding is also a personal choice. It does help you bond with baby and it's also a wonderful thing. Knowing that only you can provide this for your baby gives you a feeling of importance. Formulas these days are just as nourishing as breastmilk, so it isn't a matter of what's better for baby...it's a matter of what's important to you - more free time, or bonding.

Don't be afraid to breastfeed - there is nothing more natural and calming (and it actually helps you lose your pregnancy weight quicker - pro!)

Breast feeding is better and healthy for the baby. Not only do you build a connection with your child, but your childs immune system gets stregthened. Your baby also gets the nutrients that he/she needs. As for finding out the sex of the baby, that is a personal decision. Do what you want to do.

Finding out the sex is your own personal choice. It has it's pro's and con's. If you find out - you can prepare better for the baby and get things that are in boy and girl colors. If you wait - you have to get neutral colors but it will be an awesome suprise when he/she comes.

As for breastfeeding. I think that every woman should atleast try it and see how it goes before they dismiss it. I tried to breastfeed my son when he was born - I did it for a week, it just was not the thing for me. It takes a lot of patience, time, understanding, and sometimes it can hurt it the baby is having trouble latching on. I tried it though and I am proud that I atleast gave it my best for the little while that I did. Formula now a days though is just as good for your baby as breastmilk. So you dont have to worry about that.

I found out the sex of my baby girl as soon as I could...I'm the kind of person that likes a plan, and knowing the sex helped me be prepared. And no matter what, you still feel joy seeing your baby when they first enter the world, knowing the sex can't change that. And even when you know, it's still a surprise seeing what they look like!

As for breast feeding, I didn't. I felt like I should have my body back to myself after I gave it to my baby girl for 9 months. Yes, that may sound selfish, but I researched formulas and found that they were the same thing now days. I was bottle fed, and I am completely healthy! And you have the same bond as you would bottle or breast feeding. My daughter and I are linked at the heart and that can never change! A good mom is bonded to her child no matter what method of feeding she uses!

When it comes down to it, the decision is YOURS. It's what you think is best. You don't have to listen to anyone, but your heart. Your mom giving you all this 'advice' is just the beginning. There will be tons more to come when your little one is born. Now is the time to let her know that the advice is appreciated, and you'll consider everything, but the final choice will be what you feel is best for YOU and your baby.

I would say that finding out the sex of the baby is completely up to you. But if you do so you could really prepare for the arrival of your new born.

Also, my mum has always said to me not to breast feed as if your baby was to wake up in the middle of the night you are the father could take it in turns to be the ones to get up and see to him/her. You will of course still have a bond with your baby if you bottle feed.

But I have never had a baby so these women probably know a lot better than I do.

holliemarie

Just some information - if you breastfeed the father can still feed the baby. They sell breast pumps which I promise if your breastfeed you will use - and you can pump and store milk so the father can feed the baby also.

I breast fed for three months it gives the baby all the vitamens to make its immune system strong and there is a special bond if you dont want the baby on your nipple then pump the milk out at least breast feed the first two weeks to give the baby the colosturm the best part to have

That's true, it's good for their immune system, but my daughter was fine...her first time getting sick was just this winter (she'll be 2 in march), and it was just a head cold. There are tons of other things you can do to keep your baby healthy besides breast feeding.

I did say that I didnt really know... lol Just tried helping.